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Explain the differences btween boys and girls to a kid

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  1. RainDreamer

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    How would you, as an LGBT person, answer a little kid asking "what is the difference between boys and girls?"
     
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    I guess a lot of people are stumped too like me huh. I couldn't figure out a way to explain it to a kid properly but still simple enough for them to understand either.
     
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    I'd simply say "You're mindset." Gender is on the inside, not out.
     
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    Apart from social constructs, is there a difference between males and females?
    I dont know if I know the answer to this question but if I was pushed to answer it I would say that there isn't really a difference apart from the way people treat you. Or am I wrong? I feel like I'm wrong.
     
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    To be completely honest, I think I'd scream a little on the inside, then dodge the question. I don't see a difference in anything but biological structure, and even that can be altered.
     
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    I'd say;

    - Are you a boy or a girl?
    - How do you know you're a boy or a girl?
    - Now ask a person who is [opposite to them] how they know they're a boy or a girl.
    - That's your answer

    I think that's enough for a little kid, if they're answering it then it shows me their understanding rather than me telling them stuff they might not understand. I know their answer might not be accurate, but they'll probably forget their answer dependent on how little they are, and can learn the full answer when they get older.
     
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    -Boys have penises. Girls think one day they might grow a penis. If a girl asked for your peepee, don't give them ok? Now scoot along.

    They are kids, they get kiddie answers. When they are old enough, they can figure it out themselves.
     
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    I think this is the best answer to the question. And might use it for my public speaking.
     
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    It depends on their age. I'd probably say they have a different biological role if they were old enough, and I'd just say "can't you tell when someone's a boy or a girl by looking at them?" if they were not old enough--I also might explain that genes determine your physical characteristics, so boys and girls look different.

    Transgender people make up 1% of the population, and gender is biological (not that trans men aren't men, and trans women aren't women, they are) not some undefinable, magic construct. If you can't give them a normal description, they'll be inept and lacking a lot of common knowledge.
     
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    I'd probably do it in a fairly heteronormative way.
     
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    It depends on the child's age.

    Perhaps I would say that there are boys and girls and each has unique differences about them at a biological level, but that it doesn't need to influence what they like to do or how they can act. You can play with Hot Wheels or Barbies, regardless of whether you're a boy or girl.

    At its root: boys can pee standing up; girls can have babies
     
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    Boo!
     
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    It would explain it from a biological and psychological stand point as despite what people keep spouting, boys and girls are different not just biologically but also behavouraly which becomes more apparent as they get older (babies are very similar but as children age, their behaviour tends to diverge).

    It is well documented in scientific and psychological fields the difference between boys and girls in the majority of cases and all though some of this is sociological, some of this is also biological. Of course, these differences do not always apply to every child which is where acceptance and understanding comes into play rather than just disregarding the facts to suite our own narrative or agenda.

    Happy days :slight_smile:
     
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    Loving this post <3
    Too complicating for a child though :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Girls can do that too. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
    Just saying.
     
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    I would've said that boys have turtles and girls have vaginas. I now know that isn't true. Idk what I would see
     
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    I don't know child development all that well - so let's just say I'd use the genitalia answer until I thought they were capable of understanding it in terms of both gender and sex.


    I don't know, I could try explaining trans and non-binaries to young children but I don't know how it would go.
     
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    I'm gonna wager it's not as easy and there's a high probability your pants/skirt will get wet! :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Guys, kids are smarter than what you give them credit for.

    They will understand if you tell them that it's not always determined by genitalia :/ You should know better than to erase us like that.
     
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    Re: Explain the differences between boys and girls to a kid.

    I: "Boys think they're boys, and girls think they're girls. Do you think you're a boy or a girl?"
    Kid: "A girl."
    I: "Okay. Since you think you're a girl, then you're a girl."

    (Kid: "So what's the real difference?"
    I: "Boys will say they're boys when asked, and girls will say they're girls when asked. That's the only real difference."
    Kid: "Oh. But I though girls have long hair and boys have short hair."
    I: "So if you get your head shaved, you'll no longer be a girl?"
    Kid: "I'll still be a girl."
    I: "Why?"
    Kid: Because I am a girl! Maybe the difference is that boys have a different private part."
    I: "What if your best girl friend says that she has that private part? Would she be a boy, then?"
    Kid: "That's not even possible!"
    I: "It is. I know many people like that."
    Kid: "She'd still be a girl."
    I: "Why?"
    Kid: "Because she told me she's Aaron's sister, and sisters are girls."
    I: "So she said she's a girl, and she is?"
    Kid: "Yes.")