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Becoming your crush

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by faultyink, Apr 8, 2016.

  1. faultyink

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    I just want to know if anyone else does this! Whenever I have a crush on someone, I always take on traits of theirs. (Interests, personality) I don't even really know why I do it! Maybe as a way of feeling closer with them? Does anyone else do this?
     
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    Honestlu, yes i do. It usually bites me in the ass though ngl xD
     
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    Yes I do haha, not as much as I used to but its still there. It's because when I have a crush, I like everything about them, and I think that they're so cool so everything about them is so cool. Like this one girl I liked always wore aviators and looked so damn good haha so I bought a pair for myself.
     
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    Yep! But I try to hide it so much it's unhealthy.
     
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    Hmmmm...That's something I care not to admit so I'll lie and say no. :slight_smile:
     
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    I do as well, but i think that's a good thing, as its you trying to get to know the person, and understand them more, so that A) you have more of an understanding of them B ) they feel more comftable around you as you may display traits like them.

    So yea that's ok to do it, however if you get declined, try to stop as you will eventually change into something that isn't you, and still wont attract the other person...
     
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    I might be in the minority here by saying I'd rather just be myself. I'm not going to pretend to like anything just to score points with them!
     
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    Yeah... Same...
    I think it's just because of the admiration for the person. We crush on people because we think their hella raaaad, right ? So it makes a lot of sense that we'd want to be a little like them if we admire them so much.
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    I think it's fine to do this. I've always been attracted to older men and I would kind of look up to them as mentors. I liked the way they spoke and moved and would try to apply it to myself. It's quite normal to do that while you're growing up - you take in things that you learn from other people and try applying it to your own life and seeing if it suits you.

    And if you start taking interest in things they like that you never took notice of before, this is an opportunity to try something new and step out of your comfort zone.

    Of course, you don't want to overdo it to the point you feel like you're trying too hard to be someone you're not. But it's ok to try new things out of appreciation for another person. A lot of people do it with friendships as well!
     
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    If his interests are interesting, I hit it. I can't possibly like everything he likes. That's just unrealistic.
     
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    Well right now I like a runner so I guess it's not bad to want to copy her. XD
     
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    Well, I tend to adopt traits - consciously or subconsciously - of those whom I admire. This is with any kind of admiration, not necessarily someone I fancy. Methinks it is fairly common to want to be like those you like.

    So yes, I'll shamelessly admit to owning a pair of crème-white high top converse because that's what David Tennant's Doctor Who wears. Getting that exact type of shoe wasn't easy, by the way.
     
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    I'm the same way! Ofc, I'm like that with most people. Borderline personality disorder, heh.
     
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    No? Unless it's something that I was already interested in or so. When I like someone I'll probably admire their traits and their likes or interests in some way but that's it.
     
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    I tend to take traits from people that I admire or have a crush on, whether it be a mental/emotional/physical trait. I like to think that it's helped me become the person I am today. I try not to copy people outright but add my own twist to it.
     
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    Well the thing is I met my crush through a passion that we both have (Basketball) and then later on I found out that they enjoy similar thing to me like playing instruments (Flute for me, Violin for them). So yeah I guess I might adopt similar traits. I know I became more interest in Biology just because I found out that was their favourite subject.
     
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    I believe I became a nicer person because my school-crush was a really nice person ^^
     
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    I guess it's inevitable, really. More like a mirroring effect.
     
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    same to be honest.
     
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    For me they become even more attractive if they're interested in some of the same things as me. It's like a reversal of what you guys are talking about. Lol. :lol: