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can't work out if i want to be outgoing tomboy or want to be with one?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Dobby, Apr 23, 2016.

  1. Dobby

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    there is one type of woman i am absolutely in awe of; they are the outgoing, dress tomboy/neutral, confident and expressive body language - some would consider it to be masculine. admittedly i am infatuated with women with these traits.

    i find myself occasionally adopting the confident expressive body language when i am in a social group - it is both conscious and subconcious - i picked it up from a woman i spent a lot of time with (note: the fact that I'm so easily influenced by people i admire makes me feel like i have a weak sense of identity).

    i literally can't work out if i want to BE this type of person or be WITH them.

    How do i tell?

    thanks
     
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    Or it could be both, right? :icon_wink
    It's rather tricky to distinguish but I think that if you would like to be this type of person more than to be with them it'd come with some level of envy; at least it's how it works for me with men.
     
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  3. Dobby

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    thank you for your reply! good point..i hadn't thought about that! got to admit i've felt envy when they are speaking to someone else...oops