1. This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this site, you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Learn More.

Gaydar?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by diegon3, Feb 26, 2009.

Thread Tools

Thread Tools

Page 1 of 2
  1. diegon3

    diegon3
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Feb 22, 2009
    Messages:
    114
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    SEATTLE, WA
    For the most awkward reason I remembered about the gaydar myth.
    Is that believable cause if it does exist then mine is pretty much broken.
    Does anybody actually know concisely who is gay at glance?
     
    #1 diegon3, Feb 26, 2009
  2. Larry Myster

    Larry Myster
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 16, 2008
    Messages:
    89
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Coos Bay, OR
    Well, there is a way, but you will need to be really on your feet to tell. For me IT IS EXTREAMLY HARD to define if im gay or not, people think im straight at first glance because im not femanate, or am I just acting gay at all, if people ask I tell them I am gay. Easy as that.
     
    #2 Larry Myster, Feb 26, 2009
  3. Techcompu2

    Techcompu2
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Nov 1, 2007
    Messages:
    179
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Tennessee
    #3 Techcompu2, Feb 26, 2009
  4. MusicIsLife

    MusicIsLife
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Dec 31, 2007
    Messages:
    1,696
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Montréal, QC
    3 guys where i work are gay, but they're all effemenate.
     
    #4 MusicIsLife, Feb 26, 2009
  5. Techcompu2

    Techcompu2
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Nov 1, 2007
    Messages:
    179
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Tennessee
    mine is based completely on stereotypes. of course the only lgbt person I know in real life is my older female cousin but I did not know she was a lesbian until I saw her myspace page.
     
    #5 Techcompu2, Feb 26, 2009
  6. Maggi

    Maggi
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Feb 8, 2009
    Messages:
    49
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Illinois/Ohio, USA
    i'm pretty good at telling who is and who isn't at first glance, it's really weird.
     
    #6 Maggi, Feb 26, 2009
  7. Jeimuzu

    Jeimuzu
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Aug 22, 2007
    Messages:
    1,375
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Middlesbrough
    Takes a bit of work to be honest, but it gets easier once you acknowledge that there's a damn sight more of us than the papers would like to pretend.
     
    #7 Jeimuzu, Feb 26, 2009
  8. LyraLissa

    LyraLissa
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Feb 22, 2009
    Messages:
    21
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    The frozen north
    Gender:
    Female
    I can sometimes tell at a glance- but more often once I get to know the person.
    Not everyone has gaydar, and people have it in different amounts.
    I've also found that the more out of the closet you are, the more gaydar you have. :slight_smile:
    ~Hugs, Lyra
     
    #8 LyraLissa, Feb 26, 2009
  9. Drizzt DoUrden

    Drizzt DoUrden Guest

    I can tell with guys a lot of the time, but I second-guess myself because I feel like I'm judging them based on just a few observations. I really can't tell with lesbians unless they're the stereotypical butch type.
     
    #9 Drizzt DoUrden, Feb 26, 2009
  10. Emberstone

    Emberstone
    Full Member

    Joined:
    May 26, 2008
    Messages:
    6,680
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Oregon, USA
    the introduction of metrosexuality through queer eye for the straight guy made it hard.
     
    #10 Emberstone, Feb 26, 2009
  11. Peter

    Peter
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Oct 11, 2008
    Messages:
    224
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Milton Keynes, England
    Considering that the statistics claim that between 8 and 10% of the population is gay, your gaydar works if it goes off for every 10 people you cross in the street. Otherwise, it is recognizing some preconceived attitude or just wishful thinking.
    I met my niece a couple of days ago, she said she was travelling with a male colleague who had gone shoe-shopping. It didn't take a gaydar for me to smile and raise my eyebrows - yes, he is.
     
    #11 Peter, Feb 27, 2009
  12. Amy

    Amy
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jul 25, 2008
    Messages:
    1,237
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Northern California, United States
    My gaydar is pretty amazing. It doesn't work on random people, but most I can tell instantly.
     
    #12 Amy, Feb 27, 2009
  13. Martin

    Martin
    Board Member Admin Team Full Member

    Joined:
    Nov 14, 2007
    Messages:
    15,266
    Likes Received:
    63
    Location:
    Merseyside, UK
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Hmmm, the concept of a gaydar is nothing more than a myth. They're based entirely on stereotypes and what people expect a gay person to look like (which in itself is moronic). We know from this site alone that there are people who will not fit any of the stereotypes, there are others who fit 1, two or three, and there are those who let their sexuality define who they are. The first group of people you wouldn't recognise as being gay if they randomly walked past you in the street, the second group you may pick up on depending how hard you're looking and the third group is sort of obvious, that's just stereotypical observation.

    The idea of a gaydar is so convenient for a lot of people because there is no way to actually prove it. I've seen people walk down a mall and say "this person is gay" and so on, but they never actually go and ask them whether they are or not. They just make the assumption that their right and enforce the view that they have a good gaydar. They'll probably "detect" one or two people, but statistically in a busy mall more than two people you walk past will be gay. They just don't pick up on that because the stereotypes they look for aren't there, thus destroying their idea of having a gaydar.

    There are also people who have gay stereotypes who are heterosexual (metrosexual?) and they'll be falsely identified as gay. Once again the idea of a gaydar is flawed.

    I think gaydars can be a bit of fun when you're out and about and a bit bored, but anybody who actually thinks they seriously has one is a tad deluded, imo. It doesn't take a genius to spot stereotypes in society, and it's hardly enough to call it a "gift". It takes a bit of knowledge on stereotypes and eyesight. Something most people have.
     
    #13 Martin, Feb 27, 2009
  14. Larry Myster

    Larry Myster
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Jan 16, 2008
    Messages:
    89
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Coos Bay, OR
    I'll have to agree with martin. He praticly said the longer verstion of what i was sayen lol. But yeah really good.
     
    #14 Larry Myster, Feb 27, 2009
  15. Steve

    Steve
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 30, 2008
    Messages:
    0
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Born in australia, but now living some where else
    Gender:
    Male
    i disagree i knew martin was gay from the moment i saw his profile pic!
     
    #15 Steve, Feb 27, 2009
  16. DexterMorgan

    DexterMorgan
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Feb 9, 2009
    Messages:
    238
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Santa Monica, CA, USA
    Some of my familymembers knew I was gay before I did!
     
    #16 DexterMorgan, Feb 27, 2009
  17. LyraLissa

    LyraLissa
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    Feb 22, 2009
    Messages:
    21
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    The frozen north
    Gender:
    Female
    True gaydar's rarely an on-sight thing.
    But, despite me trying to hide, a friend of mine thought I was gay before I told her.
    It is possible, but not foolproof.
    ~Hugs, Lyra
     
    #17 LyraLissa, Feb 27, 2009
  18. Martin

    Martin
    Board Member Admin Team Full Member

    Joined:
    Nov 14, 2007
    Messages:
    15,266
    Likes Received:
    63
    Location:
    Merseyside, UK
    Gender:
    Male
    Gender Pronoun:
    He
    Sexual Orientation:
    Gay
    Out Status:
    Out to everyone
    Well for a start, I don't have a profile picture. :wink:

    You also know I'm gay because I'm using a support forum for LGBT peeps which displays the orientation of each user. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: As I wrote I'm gay you have been able to deduce that I am gay, which you have cleverly done by not being a muppet and having the ability to read. :wink: :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
    #18 Martin, Feb 27, 2009
  19. Steve

    Steve
    Regular Member

    Joined:
    May 30, 2008
    Messages:
    0
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Born in australia, but now living some where else
    Gender:
    Male
    oh snaps he is on to me !!!! :eek:
     
    #19 Steve, Feb 27, 2009
  20. riddlerno1

    riddlerno1
    Full Member

    Joined:
    Aug 2, 2008
    Messages:
    660
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    London
    well i cant personally tell unless someone looks stereotypically gay, and even then do u really know for sure??! Plus i dont think i look stereotypically gay so i wonder if people think im gay by first glance!
     
    #20 riddlerno1, Feb 27, 2009
(You must log in or sign up to post here.)
Page 1 of 2