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What's Sex Ed like where you are?

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  1. NinjaInTraining

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    I'm kinda curious to see how different sexualities and genders are handled in sex ed lessons wherever you live, either if you go to school now or what they were like when you did.

    My school prides itself on being accepting of everyone and has posters about accepting all genders and sexualities, but somehow this doesn't follow through into sex ed lessons. Most of them start with "All of you will begin to feel sexual urges towards the opposite gender" and me internally going "hahaha... Literally every part of what you just said is wrong". Occasionally they will make references to it being ok to be gay but they leave it at that and then it's still either heterosexual or homosexual. There's never any mention to bi, pan etc. There's no mention of asexuality/aromanticism at all either. Plus they just make the assumption that everyone is cis gendered. There are no mentions at all of even the possibility of someone being anything other than cis male or female.

    What are/were sex ed lessons like for you? Which sexualities/genders do they consider?
     
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    It's lacking.

    It was basically all PIV sex, and the only thing said about LGBT was that if you're gay the only way to have safe sex is by using condoms and that you can be transgender. LGBT was probably covered in under 3 minutes.
     
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    Sex Ed for me was supposed to happen when I was in the 7th grade, but I transferred to a cyber school weeks before I was going to be rotated into that class.

    So yeah, I never took the class so I wouldn't know how things went.
     
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    It's horrible, so judgemental, and included all the sex Ed tropes (tape comparison, fear-mongering, etc)
    Although that was at middle school. I didn't take health this year
     
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    I don't think there was a mention of anything LGBTQ+ in my lessons. It was basically all purely heteronormative bullshit.
     
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    I don't remember them talking about anything LGBT related, I think they just talked about cis and straight relationships, the parts of the body, and safe sex (straight relationships).
     
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    This is how my school is, too. My school is so open and accepting, except when it comes to health class.

    We watched a lot of videos about abstinence, and they were kinda annoying at times because:
    1. People in the videos talked about their religion too much. It was basically, "Hey, if you're a good, Christian person, then you won't have sex before marriage!" It made me very uncomfortable.
    2. The assumption was made that all boys like girls and all girls like boys. Homosexuality was never mentioned or even implied to be a posssibility.
    3. Multiple sexist assumptions were made. "You girls, you care about love. Sex is only enjoyable for you if you're in love. That's why girls have sex. Boys have sex for the physical pleasure. They're not thinking of love. But girls don't realize that, so boys use them. Girls let themselves be sexually abused. I know." That's a big stereotypical generalization about what boys and girls are like, and the fact that the person in the video was talking directly to us just made it worse. I don't relate to girls; I'm not like what they described throughout the video. Also things like girls gossiping and being mean to each other, while boys just want to look as manly as possible. This was said constantly! :dry:
    4. Making it sound like any normal person wants to get married and have children, and if you don't, you are unhealthy. Especially for females. According to the videos, all women want to marry a man and have biological children. Infertility is the worse thing that could ever happen.

    And this wasn't in one of the videos, but the textbook blatantly stated that heterosexual sex is the safest kind. That's not necessarily true, and more importantly, it's rude. That textbook was just full of opinions.

    And a lady came into our class one week to talk to us about abstinence. She also made the assumption that all of us were heterosexual in the things she said and the games she played with us.

    In case you can't tell, I really hated sex ed. I am so glad it's over. They need to make some big changes to it.
     
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    From what I remember, and that's very little, it was just the basics: you get urges, some of you will bleed for a few days a month, you can get pregnant, practice safe sex, etc, but, mostly, don't do it (or that might have been just from my parents.) No mention of any sexual or gender variation as far as I remember. But, then again, it was the midwest 25+ years ago.

    Hopefully it's changed a bit since.
     
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    nothing, litterly nothing. being gay, whats that? if you dont know about it it can't hurt with its sin right?

    if you can't tell, i went to a catholic high school (in england so for about 5 years of my life)
     
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    I never had sex ed as an own subject, it doesn't exist here. I just remember a few biology lessons in 5th to 8th grade where we learned about the biological differences between men and women, the menstrual cycle, pregnancy, how to use a condom and stuff like that, but that's it.
    The new education policy includes more diversity and also LGBT stuff, but I don't know how that is being put into practice. There are many people who are strongly against it because they think their children are taught to be gay, learn how to use sex toys and do SM role plays. Yep, that's what some people claim. I don't know if they really think that or if they just try to bring up arguments that show how bad teaching about non-heteronormative things is, but either way I can't decide whether I should be concerned or amused. Probably both.
     
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    Sex ed at my school was abstinence only, and other than that, practically nonexistent. It was like...one day in Health class. And a preacher came in. He showed us what a condom looked like (but it was cut and stuff, so it was just a flat square of the material it was made out of), he talked about how you shouldn't have sex until marriage, and he also talked about breaking up in relationships and divorce because that's totally the important stuff to cover for sex ed.
     
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    In my school, we were pretty much told to practice abstinence and to use condoms. The closest they came to telling us about LGBT stuff was to never have anal sex. They didn't even show us how to use a condom.
     
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    We were supposed to learn in elementary school but our teacher thought that our class was too immature for it. So instead while the guys went to the school library for our weekly visit, they thought the girls sex ed but excluded the guys. In high school there is a course called planning 10 as well, which also has some sex ed in it. I never took the actual class I took it through another program I took in which our teacher literally made us do only like 5 things. I learnt everything by either my mom or looking it up myself.
     
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    I honestly thought it was a myth that this was a true class.

    I did high school online and they had no mention of any of it. They didn't mention a thing about birth control, protection, sex, anything. The lessons conveniently left everything out, and biology lessons seemed to skip over everything relating reproduction.

    Years later someone told me that it is like this because a lot of strict valued Christian families would homeschool their children through this online school, Keystone National High School.... and I guess Keystone has a history of complying with them and their views... being that they are an online school... as well as a private school, I guess they only make money if parents send their children through it.
     
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    Pretty much this, they didn't teach a thing I could use.
    With it being Health, I expected to hear at least a little, it seems much more in place than the random religious references. But I suppose that's this state for you.

    Class might as well be called "Heterosexuality 101", don't know why it was a requirement for everyone, since it's not useful for everyone.
     
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    We had a little bit of sex ed somewhere around grade six, but it was basically just labelling reproductive organs and listing contraceptives.

    In highschool sex ed didn't get too much better than that (I didn't even get to put a condom on a banana :frowning2: ) though there were a lot more worksheets and info about STDs. I don't even think the LGBT community was mentioned.
     
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    In Year 6 in primary school (age 10-11) we had a "Sex Education" day but sex was barely mentioned, let along LGBT sex. It was mostly about hygiene, things like having a shower and wearing deodorant, so I don't get why they called it Sex Education. There was also a Sex Education day in Year 5 (age 9-10) which I have been told covered more stuff you would expect like puberty, but I was off that day so I don't really know.

    In high school, Year 7 (age 11-12) we talked about the reproductive system in Biology, and the topic was called Sex Education. I thought it was taught quite well as it was done purely from a scientific point of view rather than going on about how "you" are going to experience this, if you see what I mean. However things like emotions were discussed and we even did a bit of research on whether sexuality is nature or nurture. It was a good topic.

    I don't think they did anything for Sex Ed in Year 8 (age 12-13) but in my current year, Year 9 (age 13-14) we have a lesson once a fortnight where things like citizenship and real-life skills are taught, and we do Sex Ed occasionally as part of that. We haven't discussed homosexuality or anything like that yet but I think we'll be covering it in a later lesson.
     
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    Never had sex-ed. I was home/cyber schooled.

    Sex-ed for me happened when my parents found porn in my browser history. :grin:

    The rest was answered through google (incognito, I learned my lesson) and of course our great EC.
     
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    We had a bit of sex ed in Year 6, but no mention of homosexuality or same-sex relationships. There was a short video of a woman giving birth, and a boy in the shower that 'discovered' himself.. so to speak.

    I never really attended any in high school, but from what I know, same-sex info was also lacking.

    The former was 10-11 years ago and the latter 7-8 years ago, so it could have changed since then.
     
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    Mine was actually fairly extensive for it being a public school in the middle of nowhere.


    Didn't have anything about homosexual sex, but that was about the only thing it didn't have.