Is Homosexual Sex Real Sex?

[Ryn48]

Ok. So I know that sounds like the most idiotic question ever. Here's the issue:

I have had intimate sexual relations with one woman. We talked about it, and both of us decided that we consider it sex, not just "messing around" and count it as losing our virginities.

I told my best friend , who is bisexual, that I had had sex. She told me that sex between two women without using some kind of artificial penis is not legitimate sex, that only heterosexual sex and sex between two homosexual males count, and homosexual sex is still a "lesser" form.

This is extremely insulting to me. I have tried to talk to her about it, but it always ends with me getting upset, because she is very closed-minded about it.

Whenever people talk about sex, or losing their virginities, or anything like that, I try to tell my story, or add a comment, or basically participate in the conversation. My friend always brings up the fact that "You ARE a virgin. You don't even get to talk."

After hearing it so often and so vehemently, I've started to believe her.

Any thoughts? Is Homosexual sex real sex?

[gazwkd]

Homosexual sex is real sex.. I think some peoples hangup is on the penetration side of things, In my book you don't need to be penetrated to call it sex.
I don't believe sex should be defines as just penetrative.. there is something called oral

[LornTehViking]

I'd say, if you consider this event "losing your virginity" than that's what it is. No one can tell you that it's not. They weren't there. I mean, it's sex. It may not be typical baby-making heterosexual sex, but it's still sex.

I have a definition of what I think sex is:

Any combination of anus, genitals and mouth. This doesn't include anus-anus or mouth-mouth.

Sound good?

[Noah]

I secound Numfarh

[Amy]

I third.

[Wander]

I have no clue why some people think it only "counts" if something gets penetrated. And why does it matter if it "counts" anyway? So you can know exactly how many times you had "complete" sex? "Yeah, I've had it seven and a third times now, because the eighth time wasn't quite real".

[Bryan44]

Originally Posted by Numfarh

I have a definition of what I think sex is:

Any combination of anus, genitals and mouth. This doesn't include anus-anus or mouth-mouth.

Sound good?

At first I didnt get it...
then I drew mental pictures..
and then I was like ohhh..
I get it
and fourth it..

[EM68]

5th here!

[LornTehViking]

6th.

[waitingsucks]

7th that. Best definition ever!

Also I think people who are in denial about them losing their virginity will tell other people that sex has to involve a penis and a vagina.

[Nugget]

The power of the penis compels you!

[KatoKumi]

Maybe this is free-the-world style, but I think it's just a matter of perception.

I don't find oral sex to be sex. I don't have many reservations with that, but when it comes to anal, it's a lot more intimate for me.

I have a friend that thinks he isn't a virgin because he's given oral sex. So I guess you can call it whatever you want. It's a lot freer when you're gay. Woooh.

[aussie paul]

hey if you use a sex part, with another person, it's sex!! (mouth - mouth can be damn sexy too, but then the feeling involves the 'sex part' so ..... Paul

Originally Posted by Numfarh

I have a definition of what I think sex is:

Any combination of anus, genitals and mouth. This doesn't include anus-anus or mouth-mouth.

Sound good?

Sounds good to me!

[Filip]

"Neener, neener, that doesn't count as real sex!". What is this? Kindergarten?

I'd 8th Numfarh's definition, though I'm not sure how I would define anal-anal. I'm not even sure if there are people that do that for entertainment. (perhaps I'm having the wrong mental images here )
And how would you define things like hands-genitals? If done right, I'd say they'd count as sex.

[BeautifulStranger]

I understand the hang-up...
But I've always subscribed to the thought that sex has penetration.

[Mana]

I think anything like that counts, unless you are in an argument with your parents :P

[kettleoffish]

eight'd. The mental image of anus-anus made me lol too.

[Sugar]

There`s a difference that most people don`t understand. Technically, sexual intercourse involves penetration; it refers mostly to baby making sex. But the term sex is a lot more open to interpretation. So it could be anything you consider to be. I agree with Numfarh, anything involving gentials and the mouth is pretty damn intimate and I would consider it sex.

Now, a lot of people think you need to have intercourse in order to really lose your virginity. But this can`t be true for homosexuals because we just have different ways of havings sex. so yah our sex is real. and it`s the best kind of sex too :P