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diegon3 · 3rd Mar 2009, 06:26 PM

What would you consider yourself in a relationship: the romantic type that takes flowers to your bf or gf, or the type that spoils your bf or gf etc

i haven't been in a relationship but for some reason I see myself as a hybrid of romantic and a spoiler and also the type that will work hard to make someone feel better when they feel bad or help them through the difficult times

gaius · 3rd Mar 2009, 06:30 PM

romantic type, mostly due to lack of funds i struggle to spoil them!

gaius · 3rd Mar 2009, 06:33 PM

but i do make up for it with love

Greggers · 3rd Mar 2009, 06:33 PM

I dunno, i see myself as a "housewife" type im not going to lie heh. I always thought id be the one getting wined and dined. But im also a hopeless romantic and im sure id be constantly doing romantic things for my partner. But i dunno, it still just kind of feels right for me to be the passive one, if that makes sense. I cook and clean when im stressed so that might also be it haha.

Remington · 3rd Mar 2009, 07:11 PM

I can be sweet sometimes.

Most of the time I just give them a hard time.

Yeah, I don't get it either.

MyStIcAl WoNdEr · 3rd Mar 2009, 07:12 PM

I have not been in a relationship but I know that I will be the romantic type to buy her flowers AND spoil her!!! and do whatever I can to keep her smiling. I wouldn't want to her her sad, maybe I'll do my happy dance

FinalFantasyFan · 3rd Mar 2009, 10:04 PM

This is an interesting question, and I don't really have an answer as I have never been in a relationship.

Anyway, I think that I would be more of a romantic type. I don't really know, I think that one of the things that I would do would be leaving random origami figures with little notes written on them for my bf to find, because, well, I don't know, I think that would be sweet. I may just be completely missing the point though.

Lizz K · 3rd Mar 2009, 10:27 PM

I'm both. I'd spoil them with my romance. It makes me happy taking care of them. =]

Sarah · 3rd Mar 2009, 10:28 PM

i get mad when ppl spoil me i always say its the thought that counts for my lack of money. so id most likely give them stuff i made myself. but i just give them my love and thats it. cuz that all they really need

myra · 4th Mar 2009, 01:26 AM

I give way too much. And by that i mean love. When i have a significant other, i do everything in my power to make them feel loved and cared for.

tashyyy · 4th Mar 2009, 01:31 AM

well, if i have a relationship
which i havn't had a serious one before
and i only go out with people if i REELY like them
then i know, i will deffo be the romantic type
i love to cuddle and everything
and personally i'd rather get a present that means something rather than like a new ipod
call me weird if you disagree :P

-Michael- · 4th Mar 2009, 03:20 AM

I hate all the mushy stuff.

I just like to be able to beat each other up.

BeautifulStranger · 4th Mar 2009, 03:30 AM

In my relationships, I just do what feels natural and right.
If I have the money, I do something nice for them.
If not, I make something nice for them.

I just do what I know they'd like.

carrie90 · 4th Mar 2009, 05:29 AM

im a romantic i dont realli like spoiling my gf and i dont like her spoiling me cause it feels a little like im buying her love i prefer just being with her although its her birthday in 3 weeks so ill spoil her then

4th Mar 2009, 05:40 AM

I'm usually the one who buys everything even if I'm broke....its not spoiling its in essence being suckered :/

Peter76 · 4th Mar 2009, 12:04 PM

Ive been known to send flowers and even in this modern world of technology, to write a love letter... does that make me the romantic type?

Absentminded · 4th Mar 2009, 12:35 PM

I do what I feel is right. Sometimes that involves being extremely romantic, but it also involves making sure that my gf is okay, and spoiling her with compliments, and romance to make her feel cared for, and to know she's appreciated. I try to be the nicest I can be, and treat my girl with the most respect I can, and just do as much as I can right.

McBenz · 4th Mar 2009, 12:43 PM

I'm a hopeless romantic lol. I love to make my girls feel wonderful! I just like to make em smile and feel beautiful. i kinda consider myself to be the "guy". but every once in a while it's nice to be pampered =P

musican · 4th Mar 2009, 08:25 PM

With anyone I care about I try to learn what keeps them happy and then do what I can to give it to them. I would try to buy them little things that mean something to them, or just do a little something that shows that I know them and care about them. With my boyfriend, snuggling and cuddling sounds quite nice although I don't really know from experience.

**Filip** · 5th Mar 2009, 11:36 AM

The parasitic type. Sitting on my lazy bum and waiting untill my boyfriend becomes romantic and showers me in gifts

In seriousness, though, I prefer to give one meaningful present to giving lots of presents. And sometimes just spending time together with someone you love is better than giving gifts.
So count me as a romantic.

3rd Mar 2009, 06:26 PM	#1
diegon3 just another human or am I? O_o Full Member Gender: thinks (ok so if it's..) yeah i'm a guy Orientation: thinks hummm definatly gay Out Status: imidiate family, and a few others Location: SEATTLE, WA Posts: 171 Join Date: Feb 2009	relationships What would you consider yourself in a relationship: the romantic type that takes flowers to your bf or gf, or the type that spoils your bf or gf etc i haven't been in a relationship but for some reason I see myself as a hybrid of romantic and a spoiler and also the type that will work hard to make someone feel better when they feel bad or help them through the difficult times

3rd Mar 2009, 06:30 PM	#2
gaius EC's Geordie Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi/gay Out Status: Out to friends, family and anyone who wants to kno Location: Lancaster University Age: 22 Posts: 397 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: relationships romantic type, mostly due to lack of funds i struggle to spoil them! __________________ "Life happens without warning"

3rd Mar 2009, 06:33 PM	#3
gaius EC's Geordie Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi/gay Out Status: Out to friends, family and anyone who wants to kno Location: Lancaster University Age: 22 Posts: 397 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: relationships but i do make up for it with love __________________ "Life happens without warning"

3rd Mar 2009, 06:33 PM	#4
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: relationships I dunno, i see myself as a "housewife" type im not going to lie heh. I always thought id be the one getting wined and dined. But im also a hopeless romantic and im sure id be constantly doing romantic things for my partner. But i dunno, it still just kind of feels right for me to be the passive one, if that makes sense. I cook and clean when im stressed so that might also be it haha. __________________ "It's a male duck."

3rd Mar 2009, 07:11 PM	#5
Remington [Insert Witty Title Here] Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: NY Posts: 105 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: relationships I can be sweet sometimes. Most of the time I just give them a hard time. Yeah, I don't get it either.

3rd Mar 2009, 07:12 PM	#6
MyStIcAl WoNdEr Member Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Queer Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Michigan Age: 21 Posts: 92 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: relationships I have not been in a relationship but I know that I will be the romantic type to buy her flowers AND spoil her!!! and do whatever I can to keep her smiling. I wouldn't want to her her sad, maybe I'll do my happy dance __________________ Liquor in the front, Poker in the rear

3rd Mar 2009, 10:04 PM	#7
FinalFantasyFan Well Known Regular Member Gender: 男人 (Male) Orientation: 同性 (Gay) Out Status: If you can't tell, then you don't know me. :) Location: A^2, MI Posts: 121 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: relationships This is an interesting question, and I don't really have an answer as I have never been in a relationship. Anyway, I think that I would be more of a romantic type. I don't really know, I think that one of the things that I would do would be leaving random origami figures with little notes written on them for my bf to find, because, well, I don't know, I think that would be sweet. I may just be completely missing the point though. __________________ Someone is on your side, No one is Alone - Into the woods 地球はまわる君をのせていつかきっと出会うぼくらをのせて - Castle in the Sky

3rd Mar 2009, 10:27 PM	#8
Lizz K Well Known Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Illinois Age: 19 Posts: 239 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: relationships I'm both. I'd spoil them with my romance. It makes me happy taking care of them. =] __________________ I follow the heart, not the anatomy. - The L Word We’ll never be at peace with the world until we can be at peace with ourselves.

3rd Mar 2009, 10:28 PM	#9
Sarah my mind just blanked Full Member Gender: birth certificate says im a F(w/e tat means) Orientation: bisexual(more guys than girls) Out Status: people who hav asked Location: the place around where i am Age: 17 Posts: 527 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: relationships i get mad when ppl spoil me i always say its the thought that counts for my lack of money. so id most likely give them stuff i made myself. but i just give them my love and thats it. cuz that all they really need __________________ "Walk Proud and we will walk with you. Stumble and we will lift you up" stilsurchin, EC member,I don't know if they thought of it on their own or heard it from someone else, but who ever said it is very thoughtful and insightful

4th Mar 2009, 01:26 AM	#10
myra EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: BTown, Ohio Age:* 22 Posts: 449 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: relationships I give way too much. And by that i mean love. When i have a significant other, i do everything in my power to make them feel loved and cared for. __________________ David's and Bryan's #1 Fag Hag!

4th Mar 2009, 01:31 AM	#11
tashyyy Friend not Foe (; Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: here for the ladies :) Out Status: everyone Location: north west england Age: 18 Posts: 240 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: relationships well, if i have a relationship which i havn't had a serious one before and i only go out with people if i REELY like them then i know, i will deffo be the romantic type i love to cuddle and everything and personally i'd rather get a present that means something rather than like a new ipod call me weird if you disagree :P __________________ I'll believe it all, i won't let go of your hand..

4th Mar 2009, 03:20 AM	#12
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: relationships I hate all the mushy stuff. I just like to be able to beat each other up.

4th Mar 2009, 03:30 AM	#13
BeautifulStranger GaGa's Knight in Flaming Armor Full Member Gender: 여왕 Orientation: Boys Boys Boys Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Jukjeon-dong, Yongin-si Age: 20 Posts: 1,823 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: relationships In my relationships, I just do what feels natural and right. If I have the money, I do something nice for them. If not, I make something nice for them. I just do what I know they'd like. __________________ Co-Founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club EC's official Diva Extraordinaire Future 'Mr. Kellan Lutz' "Since women have vaginas, they also have drama to fill the void."

4th Mar 2009, 05:29 AM	#14
carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: relationships im a romantic i dont realli like spoiling my gf and i dont like her spoiling me cause it feels a little like im buying her love i prefer just being with her although its her birthday in 3 weeks so ill spoil her then __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

4th Mar 2009, 05:40 AM	#15
BitterEdge Guest Posts: n/a	Re: relationships I'm usually the one who buys everything even if I'm broke....its not spoiling its in essence being suckered :/

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4th Mar 2009, 12:04 PM	#16
Peter76 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to five friends Location: Birmingham, West Midlands, UK Posts: 56 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: relationships Ive been known to send flowers and even in this modern world of technology, to write a love letter... does that make me the romantic type? __________________ You can't have mountains, without the valleys.

4th Mar 2009, 12:35 PM	#17
Absentminded EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: I'm a ladies kind of guy ;) Out Status: I flirt in public. Take a guess ;) Location: Vermont Age: 19 Posts: 546 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: relationships I do what I feel is right. Sometimes that involves being extremely romantic, but it also involves making sure that my gf is okay, and spoiling her with compliments, and romance to make her feel cared for, and to know she's appreciated. I try to be the nicest I can be, and treat my girl with the most respect I can, and just do as much as I can right.

4th Mar 2009, 12:43 PM	#18
McBenz Culinary Nerd Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: "i kissed a girl and i liked it" Out Status: Just about everyone. But if you ask, i'll tell Location: Kentucky Age: 19 Posts: 215 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: relationships I'm a hopeless romantic lol. I love to make my girls feel wonderful! I just like to make em smile and feel beautiful. i kinda consider myself to be the "guy". but every once in a while it's nice to be pampered =P __________________ The name's Mercedes, but my friends call me Cedes. but fell free to call me anything you like, anything works i'm always here to talk so, message me anytime!

4th Mar 2009, 08:25 PM	#19
musican EC's Resident DJ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: "I wanna kiss a boy" Out Status: family and facebook Location: (Not the city), New York Age: 20 Posts: 3,832 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: relationships With anyone I care about I try to learn what keeps them happy and then do what I can to give it to them. I would try to buy them little things that mean something to them, or just do a little something that shows that I know them and care about them. With my boyfriend, snuggling and cuddling sounds quite nice although I don't really know from experience. __________________ How I miss our love when the winter surrounds me icicle teardrops.

5th Mar 2009, 11:36 AM	#20
Filip Cecile's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but extended family Location: Belgium, EU Age: 28 Posts: 3,366 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: relationships The parasitic type. Sitting on my lazy bum and waiting untill my boyfriend becomes romantic and showers me in gifts In seriousness, though, I prefer to give one meaningful present to giving lots of presents. And sometimes just spending time together with someone you love is better than giving gifts. So count me as a romantic. __________________ To the world, you're somebody, but to somebody, you're the world...