Is One Sex More Romantically/Sexually Fluid Than The Other?

Every study I've seen on the subject suggests that, indeed, women are more likely to be sexually fluid. What little experience of the real world I have seems to indicate the same.
Also, I do think it's a lot to do with gender rather than sex - like, if you have a male mind you're less likely to be fluid and vice versa, I believe, although that's obviously not true for everyone.

 

I just think it's a social thing that girls are supposedly more fluid. It could easily be the other way if there weren't stigmas.

 

All studies ive read state that male sexuality is fixed at a younger age and changes are usually insignificant.
Where as there is fluidity seen in female sexuality. Lisa diamond, one of the pioneers of sexual fluidity, made her observations almost exclusively in women.
But I also believe that there are some social factors that play a minor or permissive role in this. For example since feminity is less fragile than masculinity, thanks to all the misogyny in the world, women tend to be more comfortable with experimenting. I also feel that the factor that female sexuality is "passive or receptive" has a role to play in it too.

 

Women are supposed to be more fluid according to studies.

However, I have no clue if this is also social related as well. Straight men love lesbian porn and fetishize bisexuals, so straight women may experiment to show off to men, while a guy wouldn't do the same since straight women find male bisexuality "gross". There's also the fact that lesbians are erased, It's common to say that lesbian sex is not real sex, you're still a virgin after doing so, while gay anal sex is degrading. So you see more women experimenting for this reason. Another thing is that female bisexuality is seen as "straight" while male bisexuality is seen as "gay". So a girl can fuck 100 girls and still be seen as straight, while if a guy fucks 100 girls and 1 guy, he's 100% gay to society.

I honestly don't think men are as rigid as we'd like to believe either. Gay sex happens all the time between men in prison, in the military, or in same-sex schools when women aren't around. "Gay" sex was common in ancient rome, while lesbian sex was unheard of in the same time. And many many average straight men will experiment with other men to some extent in secrecy (mainly handjobs). Just look around on this forum where other gay guys have successfully slept with their straight male friends, way more than you'd think. Men are less likely to be loud about their same-sex experiences because it is shameful and it brands them as completely gay for life (see last paragraph).

 

I doubt this has anything to do with stigmas. There have been studies that have shown women are probably more fluid. This doesn't mean exclusive lesbians aren't a thing. It just means women are a bit more fluid in their sexuality.

 

I'm definitely not disagreeing with the scientific factors, I'm just trying to bring up the other side on what I have noticed.

I do think women are more fluid on average, definitely. Just that of course, some environmental factors come into play, and they can affect men as well.

I'm a female that's a 6 on the kinsey scale, but I can definitely agree and notice that the other lesbians I talk to are not nearly as rigid as I am. I'm more of the exception than the rule, but of course exceptions to everything exist. Thus I try to take all arguments into account and look at it from all sides.

 

Idk

 

As a sex, I've heard females are more "fluid," perhaps partly because of their DNA, perhaps partly because society gives them more latitude (and by society, I mean the patriarchy: straight guys love seeing two girls kiss :lol.

As a group, I would say trans folks are the most "fluid," perhaps partly because they were raised by their birth sex and maybe are learning to adapt socially to how they believe to be. I state this because on EC for several years I've seen trans folks wrestle with their orientation greatly and "evolve," and they seem to be (on EC) more likely than non-trans men and women to be pansexual or bisexual.

 

I think both are equally sexually fluid but society tends to give women more freedom (because of how society sees women).

 

Depends what theory you go for. The two main ones are that women either-

a) More sexually fluid because of marriages featuring a man and more than one wife.

or

b) A more er...graphic explanation.

Spoiler

https://mic.com/articles/128000/the...-is-more-complicated-than-we-think#.FuwoNntDD

But if the latter is the case- It's interesting that the women who identified as lesbians followed similar patterns as the men did. But then in the 2007 study it mentions, lesbians had similar results to straight women. I think the fact women reacted to the Bonobos though shows that it's probably less to do with attraction though. Unless...:eek: Dun Dunn Dunnn!

 

I'm not sure, but I think they are equally fluid.

Any differences could be easily explained by society's different expectations of women vs men.

 

I think this is statistically true. I read that a study of sexuality among trans people in the US found that ~20% of trans people identified as bisexual (compared to the 5-ish % of cis people).

 

I think everybody is equal

 

I think girls end up being more fluid than men. It's really hard to explain, but I feel they develop a deeper gender bonding than guys do, so that's why some of them get to experience outside their norm zone. I could be totally wrong though.

 

No, but it's convenient for many to think so.

 

Also, to add to my post before- I'd say that women can definitely be fixed as well as fluid. I mean, I've had girls come up to me and "not get" how I could like women that way.

"How can you like women? They're ugly"

"I don't get how people can find women's bodies attractive, especially when you have men available"

"But like isn't the bit on women people sexualise just fat and body tissue? How can you like that?"

Are common questions and statements that I get often from people (usually straight women).

Most of the girls I know are like this, they accept me but can't help but be baffled. In fact, in my peer group most of the guys I know are more comfortable talking about men they'd make exceptions for than the women in my group are. And then there's me, just doodling in the background during these conversations because why not. I don't really have anything to add to them, so...

 

Jeez, if I got those kinds of comments from people I don't know how I'd put up with it. :eusa_doh: Of course they're not going to understand it, just like we don't understand them.