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partietraumatic · 6th Mar 2009, 11:31 AM

ok so well this is a topic that crossed my mind and i thought was quite interesting...

do people think that true unrequited love is possible?

In other words is it actually possible to be in love with someone, with absolutely no reciprocation of feelings? Does love not have to involve having some kind of relationship with that person?

On the other hand is it possible to simply fall in love with someones looks and personality, even if they don't have any of the similar feelings for you?

Is that true love or just a very strong crush?

hmmmm

Just intersted what other people here think really...

DayByDay · 6th Mar 2009, 11:40 AM

I'm not sure if I believe in the whole 'true love' thing. However I think unrequited love is absolutely possible. Especially if (you're like me) and have fallen in love with someone who is straight. You have feelings for them, but they may only think of you as a friend, or not even know you exist. Overall though, I'm still trying to define love. I think everyone has a similar basis for what it is, but when you get into specifics it becomes complicated and individualized.
I hope that made some ounce of sense. ^^;

tashyyy · 6th Mar 2009, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by DayByDay

I'm not sure if I believe in the whole 'true love' thing. However I think unrequited love is absolutely possible. Especially if (you're like me) and have fallen in love with someone who is straight. You have feelings for them, but they may only think of you as a friend, or not even know you exist. Overall though, I'm still trying to define love. I think everyone has a similar basis for what it is, but when you get into specifics it becomes complicated and individualized.
I hope that made some ounce of sense. ^^;

absolutely agree
its the most painful thing i've ever experienced/ am experiencing
and i've been bitten in the eye by my old dog

uurgh
it really put a downer on you

6th Mar 2009, 04:47 PM

Yea it's definitely possible.

pirateninja · 6th Mar 2009, 05:15 PM

Definitely.

Four years of unrequited love told me that much, and it has got to be one of the most painful things I've ever experienced.

Derek the Wolf · 6th Mar 2009, 05:17 PM

It's possible to fall in love with someone without them loving you back. Like Holly said, it's incredibly painful, and it's something you don't want to go through. If you are feel free to PM me.

Dazed · 6th Mar 2009, 05:21 PM

oh lordy.
i was in love with my best guy friend for...2 years. i still love him. but just in a friend way.

love is a tricky thing.

Daniel6 · 6th Mar 2009, 05:31 PM

I'm wondering if we know the point where we start having feeling for someone so we stop seeing him/her.
I have never been in love before

MyLife134 · 11th Mar 2009, 04:39 PM

In my opinion you cant be truly in love if you don't have any sort of relationship with that person. It is possible to have a major chrush on someone, but i feel unrequited love doesn't really exist!

Alex19 · 11th Mar 2009, 04:45 PM

i think its possible. might b hard to find, but if u find that person, way to go! i hope i do. but i fall in love easy so...

6th Mar 2009, 11:31 AM	#1
partietraumatic A gay heteropolitan? Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Enough for now Location: Oxford and Birmingham, UK Age: 20 Posts: 1,300 Join Date: Jul 2008	Unrequited love ok so well this is a topic that crossed my mind and i thought was quite interesting... do people think that true unrequited love is possible? In other words is it actually possible to be in love with someone, with absolutely no reciprocation of feelings? Does love not have to involve having some kind of relationship with that person? On the other hand is it possible to simply fall in love with someones looks and personality, even if they don't have any of the similar feelings for you? Is that true love or just a very strong crush? hmmmm Just intersted what other people here think really... __________________ 'Im not your toy and this isn't another girl meets boy'

6th Mar 2009, 11:40 AM	#2
DayByDay Bengal Baby Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: A few people Location: New Jersey Age: 23 Posts: 290 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Unrequited love I'm not sure if I believe in the whole 'true love' thing. However I think unrequited love is absolutely possible. Especially if (you're like me) and have fallen in love with someone who is straight. You have feelings for them, but they may only think of you as a friend, or not even know you exist. Overall though, I'm still trying to define love. I think everyone has a similar basis for what it is, but when you get into specifics it becomes complicated and individualized. I hope that made some ounce of sense. ^^;

6th Mar 2009, 04:47 PM	#4
Hidden Angel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Unrequited love Yea it's definitely possible.

6th Mar 2009, 05:15 PM	#5
pirateninja EC's Sailor Uranus Full Member Gender: Biologically Female Orientation: Heterosexually Challenged Out Status: Most people Location: Bath, England Age: 21 Posts: 5,853 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Unrequited love Definitely. Four years of unrequited love told me that much, and it has got to be one of the most painful things I've ever experienced. __________________ Holly the Pirateninja Ars Longa, Vita Brevis.

6th Mar 2009, 05:17 PM	#6
Derek the Wolf Furry Overlord Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Majority Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 1,325 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Unrequited love It's possible to fall in love with someone without them loving you back. Like Holly said, it's incredibly painful, and it's something you don't want to go through. If you are feel free to PM me. __________________

6th Mar 2009, 05:21 PM	#7
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Unrequited love oh lordy. i was in love with my best guy friend for...2 years. i still love him. but just in a friend way. love is a tricky thing.

6th Mar 2009, 05:31 PM	#8
Daniel6 ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 208 Join Date: Jun 2006	Re: Unrequited love I'm wondering if we know the point where we start having feeling for someone so we stop seeing him/her. I have never been in love before

11th Mar 2009, 04:39 PM	#9
MyLife134 Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Location: Marietta Age: 18 Posts: 40 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Unrequited love In my opinion you cant be truly in love if you don't have any sort of relationship with that person. It is possible to have a major chrush on someone, but i feel unrequited love doesn't really exist!

11th Mar 2009, 04:45 PM	#10
Alex19 who else but me? Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: homo Out Status: I think everyone knows by now Location: New York Age: 21 Posts: 1,301 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Unrequited love i think its possible. might b hard to find, but if u find that person, way to go! i hope i do. but i fall in love easy so... __________________ "It's always darkest before dawn."

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