Lesbian Identified Male is real

i guess ur lucky then..itd be nice to have a male body, atleast thatd make "making love" easier and funner becuz u can feel it too, then u can actually biologically have a baby with that girl u love that has your genes...id say u got it made..

 

Erm, you can't be a man and a lesbian. But you do sound like you might be transgender.

 

As someone who is transitioning l in life, I can imagine how hard it can be to transition even later. Truthfully I don' t know if I'll ever manage to transition, my family is unaccepting and transitioning medically will come at a huge cost. However, I can tell you that I still am trans and am a woman. Transitioning is not only a physical process but also a psychological one. Acceptance brings with it quite a bit of relief, I know who I am and even if everyone sees me as someone else, I feel more complete when I see myself as a woman. It took time to get here but I learned a lot about myself and others during the journey. If you are trans, identifying as a lesbian is not the same thing as identifying as who you are, which is a woman. Here you can be who you want, no one will view you as a man if you identify otherwise, you are free here and if you are like me, exploring the part of you that you hid away inside of you will be such an important and meaningful experience. No one will stop you from identifying as a man and a lesbian, however, from what you write, you don' t seem to be cisgender or a man and if that is true, to identify as such would mean hiding behind the same mask that you have been wearing for most of your life.

Whatever you decide, you are not alone, many of us understand how hard it can be... how painful it can be to be trapped in a life that feels so wrong and often empty. We can only do the best that we can depending on our circumstances and we all have to deal with our own demons and struggle with insecurities. It was brave of you to share your story and the warmest of welcomes to the forums.

Much hugs,

(*hug*)

Eveline

 

I assume that means your trans at a mid/life stage. Ouch, that is the hardest stage of your life to undergo something like that; on par to a midlife crisis. I hope it ultimately works out that you no longer have to say mind/soul/spirit but body/mind/soul/spirit.

 

It is common to be attracted to women when you are a trans woman with around 35%, if I remember right, being attracted to women. Many trans women also identify as lesbian as I do. I would suggest to read a bit about what it means to be trans if you have time. Here's a great introductionary article:

Transsexualism [ Part I ]

(*hug*)

 

This is the very first day I have ever talked about... my secret. I feel like a joke. How can I be a man who feels like he is supposed to be a lesbian? That statement has J.O.K.E. written all over it, but it ain't funny. I never even considered looking for others like me because I was convinced I was nuts. I still feel very odd even though I know that I'm not alone.

I never thought of myself as a member of the lgbt community until today. Wow. Well, I guess it's time to come out...

I AM THE GIRLIEST MAN ON EARTH - now if I can just get a brain transplant.

 

Thats an important step for all of us. And trust me when I say we all support you no matter what, and we will never call you a "joke", that is a serious statement with many ramifications. Take your time with coming out, and don't panic. Plan for it; what your going to say, who your going to say it to, etc.
And hey, being apart of a community is a good thing, it means you have someone who has your back and has been-there-done-that.

 

Thanks. I needed that. My heart is racing dealing with this for the first time.

 

You can have a male body and be a lesbian. Definitely. You're not any less valid than me, who also has a male body, is attracted mainly to men, and identify mostly as straight, just because you like women.
Stay strong, sister.

 

Like that one guy from The L Word?

 

I'm a female whose sexual urges are that of a gay male (top), but otherwise I don't identify as male. I'm sort of the opposite of this, haha.

 

I think mostly people who don't understand being a lesbian with a male body, it's because there are some people who use the term who have male bodies, and fully identify as male inside and out, but have come to use the term for other reasons, having to do with specific sex acts they prefer.

So don't let that get you down if others don't understand. Some people think they can make judgements based on how you feel, when really they have no idea how you feel and who you are. That is not their place.

Please know that if you are a woman inside, then you are a woman, and you can identify however you want because you know that better than anyone. Also, it is never too late for anything. Remember that. If you think you would like to transition or change any other aspects of how you express yourself, how you identify, what people call you, it is never, ever too late for that. No matter what anybody says, and no matter what your family members have come to think is right and wrong in the world based on their own indirect judgments, you are you and you deserve every happiness. When it comes to yourself and your identity, your opinions come first. Always.

Best wishes<3

 

One of my best friends is a lesbian trans woman. She hasn't transitioned at all so physically i guess you could say she is in a "male body" ( however she's a woman so technically her body is female no matter what but you get what I'm saying.) Her being lesbian has nothing to do with her being trans. She likes women and she is a woman. I hope you know you're not alone in this.