If you could with no repurcussions, would you change your sexuality?

I can answer that in two words: no way!

The most important reason why I wouldn't change is that this is who I am. I have always felt weird around and disconnected from men, and it is rare I even find one I get along with as friends (I have a total of 1). I know a lot of nice guys who are great human beings, but it feels like they come from another planet a lot of the time. I simply don't understand them or connect with them on an emotional level the way I do with women. I sometimes feel bad for straight women because I feel like they drew the short stick in life. :lol:

There are other small reasons like how I like our community and all that, but my main reason is that it just wouldn't work for me. Either all of who I am would have to change or I would likely never find a man I could actually put up with for life. :rolle:

 

Yes. I'd want to be asexual and aromantic. I don't like being a lesbian, and it's not like I'll ever be in a relationship anyway.

 

@ Boudicca well, being asexual and aromantic isn't all about the relationships, but I totally feel you

I, personally, wouldn't change my orientations for the world. I think they fit my personality just fine, and save me the trouble of falling in love. I can't imagine being me without being aro ace. You know, you get advantages and disadvantages for every orientation, and I think I'm happy enough with mine to not bother with the pros and cons of the others.

 

No, other than dealing with biphobia, I consider being equally attracted to all genders to be awesome.


IF I could change to the female sex though (not post-op, but rather as if I had always been female), I wouldn't think twice about it.

 

I remember I answered this question on this forum about 4 years ago when I first started coming out and I said yes, I would change. To be honest, my answer is still the same. I would still rather be straight. I don't hate my sexuality anymore and I don't feel any religious guilt about my sexuality either but being straight would be so much easier. If I were straight, I wouldn't have to face rejection from both the LG community and straight community. I wouldn't have to feel afraid of re-coming out again or simply coming out to people I never came out to. I wouldn't have to feel afraid of travelling to a foreign country and wonder if I can date freely or bring my partner. I wouldn't have to worry about whether my family will accept me or not. I wouldn't have to worry about feeling like I have to justify my sexuality to other people because my sexuality isn't as simple as gay or straight anymore. I wouldn't have to worry about people finding out at work because I'm a teacher and if a parent finds out, then they might not want me to teach their child anymore. I really can't see any advantages of being LGBT. It's always been a burden to me so my answer is yes, I would change my sexuality.

However, we don't live in that kind of world and I personally believe that thinking about this question can be damaging at times so all we can do is be content with who we are and accept the things we can't change.

 

I'm functionally bi but mostly attracted to guys, if I could I would be fully gay.

 

Yeah nah.

 

No. No I wouldn't

 

Wouldn't change my transgender or my gayness

 

Definite no to my gayness. No to transgender-yness as well.

 

If you asked me even a year ago, would have gone straight in a heartbeat. I tried to force myself for 15 years. But, now I'm enjoying it too much to change. I'm such an idiot for having been so uncomfortable with it all these years. I like all genders, so I simply have more options than straight people.

 

I would.. It'd be so much easier

 

I would stop liking girls and only like boys.

 

Depends. Sometimes I'd wish to be asexual/aromantic since relationships don't appeal right now and I have a fear of sex, but I'd also know I can get over it in time, so maybe not. I would never want to be straight. Lots of boring limitations and gender roles in straight relationships that are not worth the social acceptance.

 

Amen, brother!

 

I agree.

I wouldn't want to give up being ace or trans, because they are a central facet to my character development over my life. If I were an allo cis-guy, I'd be a very different person. Simple as that.

I mean, of course it's often a pain. But as Captain Jack Sparrow says, "The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem." So it isn't the orientation or identity that's the issue, but people's prejudices concerning these things. In the end, though, you can't please people. They will always find something to be ruffled about.

I hope that one day, post transition, I will be happy in these things and well-adjusted. It'll get better and make us all stronger. So there's no since wishing away things like this.

 

No! conformity has never been the answer.

 

I 100% agree.

 

Of course I would. Life for me would be immensely easier if I had a straight orientation.