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partietraumatic · 11th Mar 2009, 01:55 PM

well we were discussing our leavers' ball today in school. i think this is the same as a prom...but im not sure. basically its a ball school has for people who are leaving school and going off to uni. Obs every guy invites a girl to come with them.

So that go me wandering if i had a boyfriend by then would i take him. I came to the conclusion that i dont think i would. I would take one of my female friends,purely coz i wouldnt want the attention that would come with brining a boyfriend.

so how do other people feel about this? if you had a same sex partner would you bring them to your ball/prom?

Shevanel · 11th Mar 2009, 01:59 PM

I would, cept they canceled my prom at my Highschool lol. and i've since graduated. (the whole prom cancellation was a huge thing that was on TV and MTV and the news and everything, it was ridiculously blown out of proportion). I would though

gemerency · 11th Mar 2009, 02:01 PM

i wan't too, prom is soon, but i have no boyfreind

11th Mar 2009, 02:06 PM

I wouldn't. Both proms I went to I went with one of my girl friends. Just cause I feel that's how I wanted it to be.

James · 11th Mar 2009, 02:07 PM

Dazed · 11th Mar 2009, 02:11 PM

i wanted to take a girl but it was against school rules.

>_<

so i didnt even go.

Courtneyyy · 11th Mar 2009, 02:11 PM

Through out high school I went to four dances and went with a boy each dance. Some schools make a fuss and don't let same sex couples buy a couples ticket (which are usually 10%-20% cheaper).

If I was in high school right now, I'd probably go with a boy. It's just easier. Or I'd go with one of my girl friends if she didn't have a date. It's not that uncommon for two girls to go together.

Étoile · 11th Mar 2009, 02:13 PM

That's the reason why I'm not going to prom.

If I go with a group of friends, then I'd just be sad because I'd want to be with a guy than my friends and all the happy straight couples wouldn't help.

If I go with a guy, no telling how people will react. I wouldn't want my night to be ruined by awkward stares and rude comments. I heard a lesbian couple attended prom three years ago, but I don't know how people reacted.

Brandford · 11th Mar 2009, 02:17 PM

I most definitely would but I don't have a boyfriend and chances are I won't get one and since I don't have any friend's either I won't be going to either of my proms at all

jbb1236 · 11th Mar 2009, 02:26 PM

I would have if one I would have been out in high school, two had a boyfriend in such a period, and three the school would have allowed it.

**Martin** · 11th Mar 2009, 02:30 PM

I would if I even bothered going to my prom. I refused to go because they wanted me to wear a suit, and I was adament I would look like a twatbag in one. I can't have fun when I am dressed formally!

I refuse to wear suits and will for as long as I can.

StrataScribe · 11th Mar 2009, 02:33 PM

If I had been out for my hs prom I would definitely had taken a guy! (Just to piss everyone off hehe!)

Quote:

Originally Posted by Courtneyyy

Through out high school I went to four dances and went with a boy each dance. Some schools make a fuss and don't let same sex couples buy a couples ticket (which are usually 10%-20% cheaper).

If I was in high school right now, I'd probably go with a boy. It's just easier. Or I'd go with one of my girl friends if she didn't have a date. It's not that uncommon for two girls to go together.

This was exactly like my school. But the only two openly gay guys in my year found away around it! They bought couples tickets with their female friends and just met up afterwards at the dance. And boy, were people ticked! Of course their female "dates" were in on it but most people were upset that they got in. Me? I was more upset with myself for not finally standing up and doing the same.

Wander · 11th Mar 2009, 02:50 PM

If I had one, and if I cared about prom at all. I think it's a silly and expensive way to spend a night, but that's just me being poor.

littledinosaurs · 11th Mar 2009, 02:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gin Uh Fur

i wanted to take a girl but it was against school rules.

>_<

so i didnt even go.

That is most definitely against the law!!!!
I would if i had someone to bring, but i'm bring Rachel.
I might end up bringing a boy&girl if i'm lucky!
lol <3

Cheria · 11th Mar 2009, 03:10 PM

I would if my family didn't find out about him.

Jack2009 · 11th Mar 2009, 03:15 PM

No, since family will find out (brother goes to same hs)

I think I will go with a girl at the last minute

carrie90 · 11th Mar 2009, 03:22 PM

i wud love to take my girlfriend to prom which is in a few weeks but my high school doesnt allow same sex couples to attend so im not allowed, ive ended up agreeing to go with a guy named jake and my gf is going wiv a guy hu i fink is a dick cause he's slept wiv half the girls in our school

littledinosaurs · 11th Mar 2009, 03:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by carrie90

i wud love to take my girlfriend to prom which is in a few weeks but my high school doesnt allow same sex couples to attend so im not allowed, ive ended up agreeing to go with a guy named jake and my gf is going wiv a guy hu i fink is a dick cause he's slept wiv half the girls in our school

I am Certain that not letting gays go is Illegal!!!!
>.<
*searches for proof*

littledinosaurs · 11th Mar 2009, 03:27 PM

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The right to take a same-sex date to a school dance is usually considered to be a matter of free expression too. We can usually persuade schools to let students bring a same-sex date to the prom or homecoming, so if this is happening to you, contact us!

http://www.aclu.org/lgbt/youth/28754res20070301.html#4

This website has info that backs me up

Dazed · 11th Mar 2009, 03:33 PM

haha i wish i had seen that 3 years ago.
i really wanted to go.
and i would have looked cute in a dress.

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11th Mar 2009, 01:55 PM	#1
partietraumatic A gay heteropolitan? Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Enough for now Location: Oxford and Birmingham, UK Age: 20 Posts: 1,300 Join Date: Jul 2008	Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom well we were discussing our leavers' ball today in school. i think this is the same as a prom...but im not sure. basically its a ball school has for people who are leaving school and going off to uni. Obs every guy invites a girl to come with them. So that go me wandering if i had a boyfriend by then would i take him. I came to the conclusion that i dont think i would. I would take one of my female friends,purely coz i wouldnt want the attention that would come with brining a boyfriend. so how do other people feel about this? if you had a same sex partner would you bring them to your ball/prom? __________________ 'Im not your toy and this isn't another girl meets boy'

11th Mar 2009, 01:59 PM	#2
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom I would, cept they canceled my prom at my Highschool lol. and i've since graduated. (the whole prom cancellation was a huge thing that was on TV and MTV and the news and everything, it was ridiculously blown out of proportion). I would though __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

11th Mar 2009, 02:01 PM	#3
gemerency high priest of procrastinationism Full Member Gender: i has dangly bits Orientation: 4/6 of kinsey scale Out Status: mom,sister,grandma other gay freinds Location: Alamosa, Colorado Age: 20 Posts: 1,376 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom i wan't too, prom is soon, but i have no boyfreind __________________ Bite me Lady Grey! Bowerstone is all mine now!!! Muahahahahaha

11th Mar 2009, 02:07 PM	#5
James EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: PEI, Canada Age: 20 Posts: 927 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom Yes.

11th Mar 2009, 02:06 PM	#4
Midnight Angel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom I wouldn't. Both proms I went to I went with one of my girl friends. Just cause I feel that's how I wanted it to be.

11th Mar 2009, 02:11 PM	#6
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom i wanted to take a girl but it was against school rules. >_< so i didnt even go.

11th Mar 2009, 02:11 PM	#7
Courtneyyy ColbieMarie Full Member Gender: GIRL Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Mom, brother and close friends Location: Flagstaff, AZ Age: 23 Posts: 975 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom Through out high school I went to four dances and went with a boy each dance. Some schools make a fuss and don't let same sex couples buy a couples ticket (which are usually 10%-20% cheaper). If I was in high school right now, I'd probably go with a boy. It's just easier. Or I'd go with one of my girl friends if she didn't have a date. It's not that uncommon for two girls to go together.

11th Mar 2009, 02:13 PM	#8
Étoile He ate my heart Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: 95% Gay, 5% Cheesecake Out Status: Out to everyone Location: The Peach State Age: 20 Posts: 1,575 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom That's the reason why I'm not going to prom. If I go with a group of friends, then I'd just be sad because I'd want to be with a guy than my friends and all the happy straight couples wouldn't help. If I go with a guy, no telling how people will react. I wouldn't want my night to be ruined by awkward stares and rude comments. I heard a lesbian couple attended prom three years ago, but I don't know how people reacted. __________________ "I love that lavender blonde; the way she moves, the way she walks, I touch myself, can't get enough."

11th Mar 2009, 02:17 PM	#9
Brandford Friendly Misanthrope Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: everyone that asks,my mom (i think) and my sister Location: Woodbridge, VA Age: 19 Posts: 6,656 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom I most definitely would but I don't have a boyfriend and chances are I won't get one and since I don't have any friend's either I won't be going to either of my proms at all __________________ "I find nothing more depressing than optimism." --Paul Fussell

11th Mar 2009, 02:26 PM	#10
jbb1236 Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everyone but Parents Location: Boodocks, Iowa Posts: 150 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom I would have if one I would have been out in high school, two had a boyfriend in such a period, and three the school would have allowed it.

11th Mar 2009, 02:30 PM	#11
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,046 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom I would if I even bothered going to my prom. I refused to go because they wanted me to wear a suit, and I was adament I would look like a twatbag in one. I can't have fun when I am dressed formally! I refuse to wear suits and will for as long as I can. __________________ The blue whale ejaculates up to 40 gallons during sexual intercourse, but only 10 gallons enters the female. Do you still wonder why the sea tastes salty?

11th Mar 2009, 02:50 PM	#13
Wander Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Parents, aunts, grandma, counselor, online friends Location: Central Alabama Age: 18 Posts: 2,360 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom If I had one, and if I cared about prom at all. I think it's a silly and expensive way to spend a night, but that's just me being poor.

11th Mar 2009, 03:10 PM	#15
Cheria にひひっ♪ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost everyone Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 636 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom I would if my family didn't find out about him.

11th Mar 2009, 03:15 PM	#16
Jack2009 Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Posts: 686 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom No, since family will find out (brother goes to same hs) I think I will go with a girl at the last minute

11th Mar 2009, 03:22 PM	#17
carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom i wud love to take my girlfriend to prom which is in a few weeks but my high school doesnt allow same sex couples to attend so im not allowed, ive ended up agreeing to go with a guy named jake and my gf is going wiv a guy hu i fink is a dick cause he's slept wiv half the girls in our school __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

11th Mar 2009, 03:33 PM	#20
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Bringing same sex partners to ball/prom haha i wish i had seen that 3 years ago. i really wanted to go. and i would have looked cute in a dress.

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