Do you feel that "you're pretty" has become an empty compliment?

Yeah, it's kind of no one's business whether a person is pretty or handsome or not. Compliments are fun to get from the right person but unless I ask I really don't need to be evaluated by some random person. Think it or whatever, but keep it to yourself unless you have that kind of relationship where you know each other. Tell me something I said was right or laugh at my jokes but don't judge my appearance to my face unless I ask. Or you're actually hitting on me.

 

Honestly, this seems like such a harmless thing to be up in arms about to me. You can certainly find someone pretty without necessarily being sexually attracted to them.

 

I don't think I've ever had someone compliment me and feel like they're just trying to use up space in the conversation. Can they not just think you're pretty? I think the only thing getting you down here is your negative perception. And that last line - WHAT? You can think a flower is pretty, a painting is pretty, animals can be cute or majestic, you can think your mum looks pretty some day - just because you don't want to have sex with any of those things or even touch them necessarily doesn't mean you don't actually think they're pretty. Sorry, that answer was a bit salty, but I'm just telling you you'd have a much better time in life if you would just be happy when people are being nice to you.

 

I agree that it seems a silly thing to get upset about. Calling someone pretty doesn't have to have all this debate behind it, it's just someone being (or trying to be) nice.

 

not really, but thats probably because nobody has told me that (or that im handsome or anything) so maybe its still worth a lot to me, but not you beautiful people, lucky you!

 

I don't really see a problem with complimenting someone on their looks? I mean, so long as it's done in an appropriate way, I'm absolutely fine with it.

I think you're reading too much into the compliment and the motive behind the compliment a tad too much. If I find your hairstyle compliments your outfit, I think you deserve to know and feel good about that and I'll say it, and hopefully make you day brighter than it already is. I don't really think like, oh that person looks sad so I'll throw them a compliment. When I compliment someone, it's because there's something I admire or envy about them and I think they deserve it.

Apart from that, I personally appreciate compliments a lot. I've got self-confidence issues, and people saying something good to me, no matter what, helps slightly. Even without a low self-esteem, I think sometimes the longer people spend time alone by themselves, they tend to gravitate towards thinking that they're ordinary, or boring, or ugly, and they lose confidence. I think sometimes, a bit of outside information helps them put their view back into perspective, and make them more confident again.

 

This is more about your personal problems than it is the intent of the compliment, it seems, Focus more on building self confidence than over analyzing a basic compliment. I've never gotten the impression that someone says these things out of pity. I can understand not wanting people to focus so much on appearance, but unfortunately that's not the society we live in, and in the right setting, you may get compliment on your intelligence, wit, etc instead.

 

I could get a lot more compliments before they start seeming empty :lol:

 

I don't know what this says about me but I feel it means more coming from a stranger or friend than it does my BF. When my BF says anything nice I usually don't believe it because he is my boyfriend so of course he'll say those things. When a stranger, acquaintance or even friend compliments me on my looks I believe it more because I feel they have less reason to tell me.

 

I'm such a compliment whore that I'll take it. I've gotten "you're hot" before and that can keep me going for a while

 

All compliments are empty...