a secret or no? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Dazed · 19th Mar 2009, 03:11 PM

i was just wondering, do your friends and/or family know you are a member on EC?

Dazed · 19th Mar 2009, 03:16 PM

my friends know. they dont understand why i bother but they just cant relate to being gay. haha

Courtneyyy · 19th Mar 2009, 03:18 PM

I've always got facebook open on another tab in case someone comes in the room so I can quickly switch.

kettleoffish · 19th Mar 2009, 03:32 PM

no. I always minimize Safari when someone else is looking near my laptop screen if I'm on EC. My family don't know I'm gay, so they obviously don't know, my friends don't care. I'm sure I've mentioned being a member of a gay forum but I've never specified EC.

19th Mar 2009, 03:57 PM

Just my friends, well some of them

Greggers · 19th Mar 2009, 03:58 PM

People know "im on a forum" or "in a chat room" but it ends there xD

VanceA · 19th Mar 2009, 04:24 PM

Ive told my friends that ive found an online support group of sorts... But thats about as much they know.

silverhalo · 19th Mar 2009, 04:30 PM

Its a secret

hiddendc4 · 19th Mar 2009, 04:35 PM

i voted no one know but that only cause one of my friends who is suppotive of me saw what i was looking at on my phone and aske what ec was

**EM68** · 19th Mar 2009, 04:38 PM

When I came out to my parents I told them that I joined an online support group but did not get into details.

Derek the Wolf · 19th Mar 2009, 05:08 PM

Only a handful of friends know. I don't hide it or anything, but I don't mention it often.

**Maddy** · 19th Mar 2009, 05:44 PM

My parents and my sister know.

mattypants · 19th Mar 2009, 05:53 PM

secret right now

Behling · 19th Mar 2009, 05:53 PM

some family members know, some friends know

Z3ni · 19th Mar 2009, 05:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Courtneyyy

I've always got facebook open on another tab in case someone comes in the room so I can quickly switch.

YEaah thats what I do :P i always have more than one tab incase someone pops in ^_^

19th Mar 2009, 05:58 PM

No one knows and I'm pretty sure it's gonna be like that for quite a while. Unless someone asks me, do you post on an LGBT forum. I will be honest and tell them yes. So far no one has asked, so uh yeah no one knows.

19th Mar 2009, 05:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Courtneyyy

I've always got facebook open on another tab in case someone comes in the room so I can quickly switch.

I do the same thing. It's a secret for me.

BlakeHarmony · 19th Mar 2009, 05:59 PM

I don't hide it but it is not something that just comes up in my day to day conversation, occasionally my fb staus will be something like "Blak******** spends way too much time on EC, but likes it too much to stop going on all the time..." if anyone asks I'll link to the welcome page...

jazzrawr · 19th Mar 2009, 07:46 PM

Meh, I meantion it but nobody really cares what websites I go to.

My mom and sister know as well. My dad probably knows, he looks through the web history all the time when he's cleaning stuff up.
So basically anyone who asks who I'm talking about when I talk about one of you guys knows.

Mickey · 19th Mar 2009, 08:12 PM

Well,everyone knows because I say what a great site I found in EC!
Of course,I'm older,so everyone who knows me ,knows I'm a lesbian.
I do talk about EC from time to time. I really like this site,it's the best!

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19th Mar 2009, 03:11 PM	#1
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	a secret or no? i was just wondering, do your friends and/or family know you are a member on EC?

19th Mar 2009, 03:16 PM	#2
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: a secret or no? my friends know. they dont understand why i bother but they just cant relate to being gay. haha

19th Mar 2009, 03:18 PM	#3
Courtneyyy ColbieMarie Full Member Gender: GIRL Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Mom, brother and close friends Location: Flagstaff, AZ Age: 23 Posts: 975 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: a secret or no? I've always got facebook open on another tab in case someone comes in the room so I can quickly switch.

19th Mar 2009, 03:32 PM	#4
kettleoffish new avatar time! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: all but parents.. for now. Location: Scotland Age: 18 Posts: 1,045 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: a secret or no? no. I always minimize Safari when someone else is looking near my laptop screen if I'm on EC. My family don't know I'm gay, so they obviously don't know, my friends don't care. I'm sure I've mentioned being a member of a gay forum but I've never specified EC. __________________ ~~There is no way to peace; peace is the way.~~ --A. J. Muste

19th Mar 2009, 03:57 PM	#5
Myke Guest Posts: n/a	Re: a secret or no? Just my friends, well some of them

19th Mar 2009, 03:58 PM	#6
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: a secret or no? People know "im on a forum" or "in a chat room" but it ends there xD __________________ "It's a male duck."

19th Mar 2009, 04:24 PM	#7
VanceA Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Awesomely Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Calgary, AB Age: 30 Posts: 227 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: a secret or no? Ive told my friends that ive found an online support group of sorts... But thats about as much they know.

19th Mar 2009, 04:30 PM	#8
silverhalo EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Quite a few Location: England, Age: 29 Posts: 3,154 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: a secret or no? Its a secret

19th Mar 2009, 04:35 PM	#9
hiddendc4 Got Honda??? Full Member Gender: what's this funny looking thing between my legs? Orientation: Does it even really matter anymore? Out Status: Family: 1! Friends: 5(ish) Location: Sunny So. Cal. Posts: 312 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: a secret or no? i voted no one know but that only cause one of my friends who is suppotive of me saw what i was looking at on my phone and aske what ec was

19th Mar 2009, 04:38 PM	#10
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: a secret or no? When I came out to my parents I told them that I joined an online support group but did not get into details. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

19th Mar 2009, 05:08 PM	#11
Derek the Wolf Furry Overlord Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Majority Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 1,325 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: a secret or no? Only a handful of friends know. I don't hide it or anything, but I don't mention it often. __________________

19th Mar 2009, 05:44 PM	#12
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,704 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: a secret or no? My parents and my sister know. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

19th Mar 2009, 05:53 PM	#13
mattypants Chacun à son goût Full Member Gender: male/garçon/hombre Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some friends Some family and the lesbians Location: Los angeles, Ca Posts: 2,733 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: a secret or no? secret right now

19th Mar 2009, 05:53 PM	#14
Behling ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Illinois, just outside of Chicago Age: 19 Posts: 1,898 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: a secret or no? some family members know, some friends know __________________ "Your words are infectious Your eyes leave me breathless I think it's safe to say You're deadly in your own way"

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19th Mar 2009, 05:58 PM	#16
Mick Guest Posts: n/a	Re: a secret or no? No one knows and I'm pretty sure it's gonna be like that for quite a while. Unless someone asks me, do you post on an LGBT forum. I will be honest and tell them yes. So far no one has asked, so uh yeah no one knows.

19th Mar 2009, 05:59 PM	#18
BlakeHarmony EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: queer Out Status: friends, parents, sibs, (nearly) anyone who asks Location: Calgary Posts: 895 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: a secret or no? I don't hide it but it is not something that just comes up in my day to day conversation, occasionally my fb staus will be something like "Blak******** spends way too much time on EC, but likes it too much to stop going on all the time..." if anyone asks I'll link to the welcome page... __________________ Let's eat, Grandpa. Let's eat Grandpa. Punctuation saves lives! "I would rather sit on a pumpkin and have it all to myself, than be crowded on a velvet cushion" Henry David Thoreau

19th Mar 2009, 07:46 PM	#19
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: a secret or no? Meh, I meantion it but nobody really cares what websites I go to. My mom and sister know as well. My dad probably knows, he looks through the web history all the time when he's cleaning stuff up. So basically anyone who asks who I'm talking about when I talk about one of you guys knows. __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

19th Mar 2009, 08:12 PM	#20
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: a secret or no? Well,everyone knows because I say what a great site I found in EC! Of course,I'm older,so everyone who knows me ,knows I'm a lesbian. I do talk about EC from time to time. I really like this site,it's the best! __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!