Question for gays/lesbains

So you are basically asking if I wish I was a guy because then I would be straight.

I guess it is something which has fleetingly crossed my mind. I think on the whole it is a difficult thing to know because its also hard to know what you would lose often. A bit like the grass is always greener. Although I do agree there are many things that would be easier. I suppose it isnt something I really think about now because I have a girlfriend and if I was a guy I wouldnt have her so I would have to say no. Plus I guess I wouldnt be me.

 

Life would certainly be easier if I had been born a girl. But you don't get amazing stories to tell when you have an easy life. Our experiences make us who we are.

So my answer is no.

 

Yeah. I like flirting with girls to see how they react but with guys it's so much easier. So yeah being born a girl probably would've made things easier. But I like who I am and enjoy the challenge.

 

Ahh yes I get you, but then if you were a girl you wouldnt be you. Its of course easy for everyone else to say and I dont blame you for having those thoughts im sure I would if I was you or in your position.
I wonder if there is anything you would miss about being a guy if you were a girl?

 

I've thought about what it would be like to be a girl. But I enjoy being a guy.

 

eMei, that's a really positive and kinda fun take on being 'other than heterosexual!' I really like that! And I've always believed that I would never go back and change anything about myself because I've almost always been quite comfortable with who I am and who I am is, to paraphrase what you said, the sum of my experiences.

 

Sometimes I do wish that. Mainly because I don't like shaving my legs, performing femininity and the like. And there's the added problem that society thinks girls can only lose their virginity to men, even though that was a special milestone I wanted with a loved one...

 

Loli21, you know that in Europe and other places in the world, a lot of women don't shave their armpits and sometimes their legs, either. The first time I encountered that, I found it strange, not repulsive by any means, but definitely strange - at least in my own mind.

 

Well I frequently wish I was a guy just because I HATE having to act girly. I hate girl's clothing, I hate makeup, I hate dresses, and I hate all the other girl stuff.

All of my likes, interests, and behaviors would make more sense if I was a guy, too.

Despite all this, I'm not transgender, I just don't really like being a girl.

 

You just penned down my thoughts! Life would have been so much more easy, besides being accepted, i would fit in more easily and it would have been so much easier to find a guy!

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Yes I hear you! I feel the same! I hate playing out the male gender role ! About the girls too, however close you get to them , you are still not their girl best friend, they keep you out of that innermost circle!

 

Not at all. I like being a guy. However, I'm not the stereotypical feminine gay guy. I'm more masculine than feminine, but overall I think I have a good balance of the two. I'd feel much more uncomfortable with myself as a straight girl than a gay guy.

 

I'm with you Lambeau. I'm not super masculine, but I'm fit and certainly straight-acting (I really hate that LBGTQ community term, though, because I'm not acting - it's just how I am). And I have never had a thought about being female.

 

And, of course, Guff, you are the person you are. Unless you decide you are trans and maybe want to consider surgery to change that, you will always be the person you are with the body you have now. (And I know you presented this whole topic as theoretical, so I'm just saying...)

 

Well, male and female bisexuality is the same, so I probably would have the same orientation....though I do think it would be easier. It sometimes seems almost like girls are EXPECTED to be bi. It seems people are never as shocked when bi girls come out, as compared to guys. Or is it just me?

I also feel like girls have more freedom in many areas. Particularly style(clothing), self expression, and hobbies. Girls can wear whatever generally, even guys stuff, and people barely notice. Even just in the ladies department, look at the variety of styles, colors, etc. Now compare to the men's department.(I have no issues with men's clothes, btw. I quite enjoy wearing them). Girls who are into sports are generally considered hot by most guys(including me) and most people don't care otherwise. But a guy who likes, say, soap operas and musical theatre could be the straightest guy on earth, but he'll probably get ridiculed and most girls will probably look at him a bit funny.

I probably wouldn't be single either. My biggest reason for being single is being shy in that department(asking people out, etc.). I wouldn't have to worry, someone would have made a move by now.

So from that perspective, yeah, it would be easier. But being female also comes with a slew of problems being a guy doesn't. So no, I don't think my life would be easier or better. Just different.

 

Hey clustergazelle, great Shinedown reference with your signature quote. Great song and a great band. I think a lot of us feel like leaving home is a Second Chance for LGBT people.

But I think Guff's initial question revolved around whether or not we ever felt that you ever wished we were born the opposite gender, not just the reasons it might be impractical.

Stay strong, my friend!