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I Am Very Uncomfortable Chatting On Skype With People On Social Media

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  1. JonSomebody

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    On many occasions...if I have a good conversation with guys on social media...then not too long after...the guy is contacts me requesting to get on Skype with them. This is something that I am very cautious on participating in due to the fact that a few years ago...I had been chatting back and forth with a guy on social media on a daily basis for quite some time and one day...he asked me about having Skype time with him. Since I had assumed by chatting with him for a substantial amount of time that he was cool to do this with. Unfortunately, not too long after...I discovered that he had recorded a video of me on Skype and submitted the product to gay adult studios. Needless to say...I was shocked and disappointed but also...I was being contacted by all of these studios about a career in the gay video industry. Since then...whenever someone on social media inquired about conducting a Skype chat...I would politely decline the offer. Some guys were okay with my decision where many of them were not and began to assume I was hiding something.

    With that being said..are there any fellow members can relate with my being uncomfortable with Skyping???
     
    #1 JonSomebody, Sep 15, 2016
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    I hate Skype. I hate showing my face to random people online, it just makes me so uncomfortable. And then there was this incident where this guy harassed me asking if I wanted to "see his big dick" >~< so since then I've only Skyped with one person who I haven't met in real life. Skype isn't great for me anyways, cuz I live in a house with three and a half other noisy people.
     
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    I use it for chatting purposes or the occasional call if I'm playing an online game for better communication, but I'm pretty uncomfortable using it for video chats. Having someone here my voice is one thing but, like you experienced, I have no idea what programs or technologies someone else might have at their disposal. I just tell myself I'm better off being untrustworthy and potentially not get myself stuck in a bad situation.
     
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    If that was me I would also be uncomfortable too. However when someone wants your skype I could mean they just want to keep contact, if its that reason then give your skype but when they ask you to do some sexual stuff on cam just say no and say im uncomfortable.
     
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    This.

    I'm not very social unless I trust someone deeply, and I have trust issues to put it lightly. I don't like my face or the sound of my voice either, others say they're fine but it's more of a self conscious issue. Then as previously stated the whole issue with recording...

    Honestly, my laptop came with a built in webcam. I have paper taped over it because I don't want hackers spying on me. Thankfully the others use their phones these days and have stopped filling my computer with viruses but still.

    Don't know why so many people don't get it, that not everyone wants to do it.
     
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    Same. I've stopped talking to two people that I've met on a dating app because they wanted to communicate through Facetime..

    I rather just meet the guy in person and have a conversation... I feel so weird sitting in my computer chair or laying in bed having a "face to face" conversation
     
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    ^^^Another one of your many thought-provoking threads.

    I guess I'd be uncomfortable discussing anything private or personal with a stranger on Skype, although I use it for family communications from time to time. I'd have a formal conversation with a stranger though. I'm kind of a geezer though, and some of you may find this rather "quaint." Another plus in my case (if you can call it that) is that no one is going to be submitting a Skype video of me to any porn site. :eek:

    Anyway, this prompts me to observe that "friends" on social media really are "audience." I observed someone on facebook (via another person's account) the other day, who had 4,998 "friends." On his timeline another "friend," who himself had over 2,400 "friends," said he had been crying all night. No one felt comfortable to ask why. Time and again, I meet people with an abundance of these "friends" (audience) who express the sentiment that they are lonely.

    So part of the problem, it seems to me, is that Zuckerberg (et al) have tricked us into using that comforting sounding word, "friend," to mean something completely and inadequately different. It messes with our minds, and leads us to trust people we might not normally trust.

    Now, that guy who submitted a frame/video grab of your conversation to a commercial gay site....well, I guess you could sue him. But this is just an example of a complete fucking asshole that even the most socially sophisticated of us sometimes fails to avoid. And Jon, you're pretty sophisticated so I figure if anyone could have avoided him it would have been you. I'd have been suckered in a minute, that's for sure. So I avoid social media for the most part.
     
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    I don't mind sending messages on skype or even doing a voice call with people even if I haven't met them in real life yet but I don't really feel comfortable doing a video call with people.
     
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    I don't use skype. I use email, telephone, and sometimes even ye olde letters! Plus I feel more comfortable talking to people in person. For example, I find it much easier to read their motivations

    Sometimes I think my posts seems cold/detached without my voice
     
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  10. JonSomebody

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    First of all...I thank you faustian1 for your response. You've made a lot of significant points in your response that I find totally relevant. The guy that I spoke about who videotaped my Skype chat with him was someone whom I had chatted with for close to a year on a daily basis and from what information that he shared with me over that time had led me to the assumption that we developed a substantial amount of respect and admiration towards each other. Therefore, the thought of him videotaping me was something that never crossed my mind. Needless to say...I did have an attorney friend contact him and I did threaten to sue also. He pleaded and apologized a lot to not only myself but my attorney as well and begged me to not forgive him. Over a period of time...once the traffic with the porn studios died down...I decided to not pursue the lawsuit but I cut him off totally.

    The thing is...I do not visit social media a lot and when I do...I have received a lot of naked pictures from guys and cam videos as well. However for me...although I am flattered that these guys think of me enough to do this but its not for me and from that one experience..I get very paranoid. I used to do it a lot for my late partner whenever he had to go out of town for business as he did the same for me. However, this was someone that I had love for and was in a long standing relationship with...not a complete stranger. Furthermore, with the way things are with privacy hacking and social media terrors, I don't want to be subjected to this kind of thing...its not for me.

    Just last month a guy that I've been chatting with off and on who loves attention and do whatever to gain likes from his "friends" had recorded a video for me of him naked and just talking a lot of b.s. that did not make any sense. All the while...he was rubbing lotion all over his body which he made a point to let me see that he shaved everything. He also wanted me to know how much he had been working on his ass with squats and kept showing me his ass. These antics went on for a little over 40 minutes. When he did not get the reaction from me that he was looking for...he decided to post the video for everyone and once he got the attention he craved...he deleted it. What this did for me was confirmed the reason why I did not pursue his advances towards me.

    So..what brought me to bring this subject to the forum was that a guy whom on social media had been chatting with me a little over the last few months just about general subjects and I offer him support when his dad died recently had decided to take our conversations to a sexual nature and send me a few naked pics of his ass. Once this was done...he asked me earlier today to Skype with him. I politely declined the invitation but inside I was feeling really weird. Nonetheless...I thank you again faustian1 for your response..JS:smilewave
     
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    I'm old school...I'd rather call up on the phone and chat
     
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