out to others first...or parents first??? please participate

Friends first.
Never really been close with my family, and hell, they knew anyway.
Friends however, I have to deal with more often. And by that, I mean that they're going to be stupid about something, supportive about others, and I can't really get away from it. Parents... Well, I avoid most conversation with them, and it works for me. Friends/people at school... They're harder to avoid, IMO.

But, family will be with you for your entire life, through blood and whatnot, so they're more important if you think about it that way, and fear that they might be unaccepting can paralyze many.

 

Its simple, you can always get new friends, but your stuck with your family for life.

 

i wanted to come out to my friends first but they all left for out of state collages so i told mom first

 

I don't know really, I picked friends because that's what I did. I don't know why i'm so afraid to come out to my parents and that i haven't come out to them yet. Friends are so much easier. idk why. I'm not sure though. you'll figure it out (*hug*)

 

I'd say friends first, but it depends on how your parents feel about homosexuality...

but whatever you do, don't rush it! and Good Luck

 

The first person that I told was my best friend who happens to be a girl. She was very cool with it and totally listened to what I all had to say. 3 hrs later I found out she was bi, so it was a interesting and exhilerating night.

 

The way I see it most teens discover they are gay when they are adolecents. At this time in their lives they try to break away from their parents and begin to show independence. That why those who come out to their parents first are either really young (11-13). They havent hit that stage where they feel they need to be independent. They come out to friends first to test the waters and because there is a good chance they spend more time with them exploring their independence than time spent with their parents showing independence....if that makes any sense.

But yeah I told my best firend first. She had a huge crush on me for the span if like 6 years. It was hard but I felt she needed to know for putting her time, effort, honesty and trust into me. I'd thought I'd give back

 

I told my friends first because I knew that they would be fine with it. I also did because i know they care about me for who I am, and aren't influenced by having me in their family. They choose (and no matter what, your family may or may not choose) to be with you.

 

It's easier for me to talk to my friends than my mom about some things.

 

I so expected this result.

And I'm not close AT ALL to my family.

 

Sister first, friends next, parents last. Although my parents ended up being a hell of a lot more accepting than my 'friends' did.

 

Only one parent: my mother. I only have a few close friends, and because of the nature of our group, it kinda goes without saying that I'm gay anyway. The one straight guy is only there because his girlfriend is close with the rest of us. And I knew my mom would be fine with it anyway, so...she came first.

 

Wow ,Maddy. I did it the exact same way! I lost a few "friends", but actually gained so much more. I knew one friend would freak out and run the other way,and I was right.
But,it was okay because I ended up with much better friends.
So,sister was first,friends were second and I was sorta outed by my friends mom to my mom. I was pissed,at first,but it eventually became easier. That's my story....

 

Well, I told my mom pretty quickly, but she's like my best friend so she counts as 'friends' XD
Same as my sister.
But the rest of my family has no idea, my friends found out first.

 

I personally told my best friend first, because he knows my family really well, and I figured he could tell me if my mom would react well (which was fine enough). Still haven't come out in a while though... maybe its time to tell more friends.

 

It's hell communicating with my parents, definitely friends first.

 

friends are soo the first to know... they know all the dirt and tend to know u much better then parents!

 

I waited and waited for years for the right time to tell my parents (because I wanted them to know first for some reason hehe), then I ended up telling my friends first. I told my parents a couple days later. Anyway, to make a long story short, I would have been much happier if I would have just told my friends.

 

i told my friends first.. they are my family..
only told my mum 3 weeks ago - shes very homophobic.

wouldnt have it any other way. my friends are my life