I've mentioned in another thread that I'm writing off my "best friend" due to her being pretty much stand offish with me, and dropping me last minute, even though we've made plans long in advance, and her having tons of excuses for not responding to MY messages, but have no issues messaging the guy I met through her. Well, lo and behold, she messaged me yesterday out of the blue. I nearly fell off my chair, lol. I've explained to her how I deleted her off my Facebook, etc. and she didn't seem overly upset over it. In fact, she just laughed. So even though I had this whole "fuck it" attitude, and went this far to remove her from my life, we are now cool again. I feel like such a fool for freaking out like this. The thing is, I don't have many friends, and I was really hurt by her (seemingly) abandoning me and pushing me aside like this. She's in a relationship now, and I am really happy for her. So yeah, very childish and rash of me to want to write her off just because she didn't reply to my messages. I should've known there was a good reason for it, other than "network problems". Yes, my frustration was warranted, because if she really had "network problems" she wouldn't be chatting to OTHER people, and she wouldn't be coming online at various times during the day, she wouldn't READ my messages if there really was a problem. So on the one hand, I'm still a bit upset, but on the other hand, at least everything's okay again now, we're talking like old times. I have to stop being so fucking overly sensitive to these things. Just thought I'd update you all on this situation. :icon_redf
Hey, I've been in similar situations before. It's ok to be defensive and cautious of people who you may feel aren't putting 100% effort in with you for whatever reason, but we have to be careful we don't make rash decisions. It's important to try and identify when you feel someone is being stand offish and take a step back, think about all possibilities first and then draw up a conclusion. People have many things going on in their life, and sometimes it can be something as minute as not having a signal to message back on time! It's great your friend was able to laugh it off and see the funny side, but perhaps as a side note next time try not to be as wary with people without contemplating all options as to why they may be behaving like this, do you know what I mean? Glad you didn't lose a friend
