I have a problem with my body and the way it works. Just some background: I am on antidepressants and mood stabilizers for being bipolar, since 2010. My sex drive seems to really be screwing around (pardon the pun). One day, I can masturbate 2, 3 times and then go without masturbation (or sex) for a few months without feeling like I'm missing out. The will to do it is there, but it just feels like so much effort, and quite frankly, I have a DGAF attitude about it (again, pardon the pun). I don't enjoy masturbation purely for the fact that I get off, I mostly do it when I'm bored or can't sleep. I don't get turned on like I used to. Now I have to add, I don't really mind this, as sex is not enjoyable for me anyway, and masturbation is also boring, even though I try to switch it up every once in a while. When I have sex, it feels like a massive chore. I don't enjoy it, even if it would be pretty damn good for others. I don't think it's depression though. Just me not being as into sex as what I think other women would be. For one, I can count on one hand the times that I actually reached an orgasm through sex (PIV or stimulation by hand). It's frustrating and I don't enjoy it like I should. Yes, I get turned on but I like the feeling of being turned on more than actually doing something about it, like self-stimulation or sex with a partner. I don't enjoy penetration as much as I used to. It does nothing for me. I know many female-bodied individuals aren't into penetration, but what does this mean for me? Should I be worried that A) I don't have a big sex drive anymore; B) I don't enjoy penetration anymore; C) Masturbation seems boring; and D) Sex of any kind (whether or not it involves PIV penetration) seems like a chore, and I have developed a "meh" opinion on it. I also used to get turned on by porn, but lately it's been "meh" too. I can't remember the last time I went out of my way to watch porn. That said, I do look at porn pictures, but the videos just don't seem to interest me anymore. One of my friends sent me a porn video yesterday, and though it was a pretty kinky video, it did nothing for me "down there"... Maybe the meds I'm on has an effect on my feelings, but I'm not currently on antidepressants and I still feel this way. I'm having a manic episode and my psychiatrist said I should wean off my antidepressants for now. So it's been roughly 2 weeks now of no antidepressants, and usually when I'm manic, I become super sexual. But not this time. I recently had a quick fling with a new guy I met, but the sex just wasn't doing anything for me. I don't know what's wrong with me - if there's anything wrong at all. I just don't know what to do anymore. Can anyone give some insight/opinions/suggestions? Is this my body's way of telling me I should try lesbian sex? I ... just don't know :help:
I think it's natural for our sex drives to fluctuate over time. One thing I would ask is if you are stuck in a rut. If you feel passionless in your daily life, it will likely show itself sexually as well. It could also be maybe you feel pressured to become or feel more sexual when your body isn't feeling it. It could also be medication related. Some have odd side effects. Or it could simply be you want to experiment. I could be way off base and it could be many factors, but just taking some wild guesses.
Hi Ruby! I hope you've been well! I can't give personal experience here, but I can give my limited knowledge on the matter. Of course any drug (especially an antidepressant) can inhibit sexual drive/desire as a side effect. It might be it's still affecting you, even after 2 weeks off. Or it could be something else entirely. Sex drive can fluctuate as we age but it isn't considered normal for a drastic change. Your quite young too, another oddity for an extreme switch. Its perfectly fine if your just not into sex so much, what's important is how much it's changed. Another thing is does your lack of interest bother you? Besides that I guess a doctor check up might be good. Sorry I can't offer more help.
Well, my mood is all over the place lately. One minute I'd be all and the next, I'd be like Aaah, the joys of being bipolar :dry: And I've found that my mood has a lot of influence on my sex drive. But even when I'm feeling ecstatic, full of energy and content, my sex drive often vanishes. So I don't know what's going on. Maybe I should discuss it with my p-doc?
