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Should I Tell Him?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by SadConfusedBandGeek, Jun 29, 2007.

  1. SadConfusedBandGeek

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    Ok I really really like one of my friends, and i think he might be gay to. I've been hinting it a lot lol, and kinda kidding around with it so it wont be a total shock, but i think that he thinks i am joking!

    Also right now his msn message happens to be, Josh likes BOYS!!!!!!!!!!

    LOL! yes it really is. And also, a few of my friends know i am actually gay, and i know a few more i haven't told would be ok with it. But if he tells people, that i dont really want to know it could be a big mess!! lol. Cause of course people have ALL SUMMER to talk about it without having to ask me if its true of not.

    But i really like him and wanna tell him the truth but i dont know wut will happen! Should i tell him??!?!?!:help:
     
  2. Jim1454

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    I don't understand? Wouldn't you confirm it if they asked you? I had the impression you were pretty open about it. Letting people find out indirectly is a pretty easy way to come out completely.

    Plus, if there's the potential upside of your friend also being gay, then it might be a win/win.

    Good luck!

    *pines for the days when he actually had the summer off!*
     
  3. Blue0090

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    I was in the same situation.. I told him through a letter but unfornately.. he told me he's straight. But he also told me that he has total respect for who I am so we're still friends even tho he knows i like him. Plus he is the only guy that knows my secret
     
  4. SadConfusedBandGeek

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    Lol, ya i am honestly not trying to hide it anymore, but still when people talk about me being gay without having my opinion on it, it can turn into a bad thing. Like NORMALLY at school and stuff i would be open and confident about it, and when you are like that, you are less likely to be made fun of. But when people dont know how I feel about it then they will prolly make fun of me and stuff.

    Also since i am only in grade 8, well grade 9 now. I have 4 YEARS! left of school (yes i will go to the same school for all 4) so i dont wnat to have no friends for 4 yearS:frowning2:
     
  5. SadConfusedBandGeek

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    OMFGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
    I TOLD HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Let's say it didn't go as well as i hoped. BUT it didn't go as bad as i feared.

    Here is our msn conversation.
    BTW if u cant tell I am Josh -- Wearing Pajamas (Yes! everyone had to know)
    and he is "friend"

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:

    So u gonna go throw rocks at nikita again today?

    "Friend"
    i dunno

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    lol cuz u love her rite?

    "Friend"
    no

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    haha jk
    so who do ya like then

    "Friend"
    a boy!!!
    jk
    a GIRL

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    lol
    Ohhhh
    wut girl then? (If ur SURE its a girl )

    "Friend"
    someone that u don't no

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    oh lol
    someone who dont live here?

    "Friend"
    ya

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    cool, where they live?

    "Friend"
    "Place"

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    fun
    lol i dont like anyone here either
    Cause everyone here is TO DAMN STRAIGHT
    lol

    "Friend"
    OMG

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    lol!
    ?
    ?

    "Friend"
    ?

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    y did u say OMG?

    "Friend"
    u said that u don't like anyone here because they r to straight

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    lol so?

    "Friend"
    i am scared because it means u r gay

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    lol ur scared of me now

    "Friend"
    ya

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    ..ok
    thanks....
    u seriously scared of me now?

    "Friend"
    ya

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    why?

    "Friend"
    u r gay

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    Thats not a good reason....
    u weren't scared of me before
    ...

    "Friend"
    i kinda was

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    oh
    great....
    y did u hang out with me then?

    "Friend"
    i like have no friends!!! (**** NOTE He is new here)

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    ...gee well i thought i was ur friend

    "Friend"
    u r

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    how come ur scared or me then

    "Friend"
    u like boys

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    Who cares?

    "Friend"
    i dunno

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    Well...i'm still the same

    \
    so r u not my friend now

    "Friend"
    i am

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    Oh...lol i thought u were gonna hate me

    "Friend"
    ok

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    U dont hate me tho?

    "Friend"
    no

    Josh --- Wearing Pajamas says:
    k lol
    good




    Ya thats about it^^^ I honestly hope he doesn't hate me though.
     
  6. Red87

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    Well.. that didn't go TOO bad. Could have been a LOT worse. Who knows, he might still be gay himself, just too afraid to come out. I had that happen to me, but I was on the receiving side... Buddy of mine came out to me, and I kept playin straight even though I really wanted to let him know about myself as well. He knows now, but back then was when I was still questioning myself, even though I knew deep down I was gay.
     
  7. Jim1454

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    Congratulations!!!!!!!

    LOL! Thats kinda funny, don't you think?

    I think that went ok! Is this someone that you only know online, or a friend from school that you were chatting with online? He might come out to you yet... just let him get used to the idea.

    Way to go! :thumbsup:
     
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    I laughed at that part too, sorry :lol:

    Looks good though! There's plenty of time for change :slight_smile:
     
  9. SadConfusedBandGeek

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    Ya he said he kinda was and i was like...LOL!!!!!!!!!!! i kinda thought he knew before, cause EVERYONE where i live has amazing gaydar except me:frowning2: But it was still a bit funny

    and no i know him in person just telling him online. cause i haven't actually told anyone in person:stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    PS. After i told him i told 2 more friends!! YAY!! lol
     
  10. SpikySpice

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    Well, Josh so you told him, taht was really great:thumbsup:

    But hey, now you have overcomed the 1st step: comming out to HIM. Now is teh 2nd step: being caution.

    Even tho you told him, he said he is still your friend, but taht was only momentarily. I dont wnat to fright you but you have to watch out of him, if he will go around and telll everyone else.

    But you have to expect all the outcomes, like he is (not)gay, or your friends wont like you if he'll tell them bout you. Be ready any second, so if things happen, you are alraedy repaired, and wont be shocked

    But hey Josh, just relax, man, you should be happy cuz you are proud of who you are and you told him the truth. Now if you have a crush on this guy, dont be sad if he is NOT gay, ok. And if he is gay, maybe he will need time to get soem energy and will come out at the right time. You need to be patient, tho

    (Lol, am i being waaaaaaayyyyyy tooOOoo serious?)
     
  11. SadConfusedBandGeek

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    lol YES! u are being way to serious lol. But i am a spaz and i get excited wayyy to easy :slight_smile:

    But since i told him (I am smarter than u think) I told my 2 other friends that are friends with him and thye are both cool with it! HAHAH I can think:slight_smile: i own.

    But ya anyway lol i just need to take a chill pill .

    hahah thanx for the advice though:slight_smile: u own too!:slight_smile:
     
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    Oh anyway, he is new so he dont have many friends,s o taht wont be a BBiggGg problemo:slight_smile:

    so relax now, take a chill pill, yer:grin: