I have been wanting to cut my hair so badly, but because my husband is so against it, says I dont look good that way, look like a gay etc, that I have yet to follow through with it. For goodness sake, its such a baby step and feels so crucial to me being authentic. Ive hated my hair my entire life and now it kind of makes sense why. Do I just take the step anyway and deal with the backlash? What would you do? ---------- Post added 14th Jan 2017 at 10:20 PM ---------- Im sorry, I didnt mean to post this thread twice. I noticed a typo and tried to stop it to fix it. Apparently that didnt work lol. Sorry!
OMG, my first husband was so like that. Why are you questioning this? It is your head, your hair. Cut it, dye it, do what you like, girl. I know you said you are not ready yet to leave your husband or even come out, but this is you. Don't keep letting yourself live for what others want you to do. I know easier said than done. But we are talking hair here. However - if the backlash is physical abuse.... I would not, but I would get out like asap. You don't even have to come out to get out of that situation.
I agree with the others. It's YOUR hair. And hair grows back. If this means so much to you, why allow your husband to dictate your hairstyle(s)? Do you tell him how he should wear HIS hair? Probably not, so what gives him the right to tell you what to do with YOUR hair? Make an appointment with a hairdresser, and text your husband that you're at the hairdresser's and there'd be a surprise for him when you get home. That way, it's already done and unless he resorts to physical means of backlash, the worst that can happen is he utters some foul words. But it'd already be done so all he can do is learn to accept the new look. (And having it done will make you feel like a brand new person). Just do it!