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Alice Insanity · 12th Apr 2009, 01:48 AM

Let's just call me challanged
As a girl I like girls
As a guy I like guys
Am I a girl
Am I a boy
Am I fucked
Yes, yes I think I am
...help?

Greggers · 12th Apr 2009, 02:37 AM

Maybe you should stop worrying about finding a label or name for what you are, and be be WHO you are?

No matter what you call yourself, your going to be attracted to whoever your body tells you your attracted to. You cant force yourself to like someone, thats not how things work.

Rather, focus on just being...you. Dont try and analyze that either, just be yourself. If there is one thing everyone can do and do well, its be themselves. It requires no effort. Just dont over-think things and do whats natural for you to do

Your only 14, it hurts me to see you struggling like this at this age

One of my biggest regrets was spending so much of my highschool days worrying. Really, figuring out my sexuality and gender issues when i was that young would NOT have helped. It was a time to be young and free, and i never got to do that. Try and just focus on being happy

Absentminded · 12th Apr 2009, 04:34 AM

Hunny, don't label yourself like that. I spent a few years doing that, and it's gotten me nowhere. At 13 I started thinking like that, and..out of habit, now I just do, and it hasn't done me any good. 14 is too young to have to think like that, give it time. Just go with the flow and what your body tells you, and don't go against it. You are who you are, and nobody can change that. Everything will work itself out in time.

Jamie G · 12th Apr 2009, 05:15 PM

Just be happy with yourself, don't worry about labeling yourself so soon, if you do feel the need to label yourself strongly because thats the kind of person you are, my suggestion would be wait it out see, you may find that soon enough it will become apparnt, you are in no way 'fucked' your perfectly normal, and i belive at some point most people do what you are doing..

Just go with the flow and be relaxed no matter who you are, your great! Be comfortable with it and don't stress or you'll wreck your highschool days by becomming withdrawn, and scared of yourself.

Kenko · 12th Apr 2009, 05:56 PM

You are... a wonderful person

You're only 14, it can take a while to figure out who you are. It took me till I was 19.

12th Apr 2009, 01:48 AM	#1
Alice Insanity Love of her life/Death of her world Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Albuquerque, New Mexico Age: 17 Posts: 23 Join Date: Mar 2009	I'm a dyke...no wait I'm a fag. Let's just call me challanged As a girl I like girls As a guy I like guys Am I a girl Am I a boy Am I fucked Yes, yes I think I am ...help?

12th Apr 2009, 02:37 AM	#2
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: I'm a dyke...no wait I'm a fag. Maybe you should stop worrying about finding a label or name for what you are, and be be WHO you are? No matter what you call yourself, your going to be attracted to whoever your body tells you your attracted to. You cant force yourself to like someone, thats not how things work. Rather, focus on just being...you. Dont try and analyze that either, just be yourself. If there is one thing everyone can do and do well, its be themselves. It requires no effort. Just dont over-think things and do whats natural for you to do Your only 14, it hurts me to see you struggling like this at this age One of my biggest regrets was spending so much of my highschool days worrying. Really, figuring out my sexuality and gender issues when i was that young would NOT have helped. It was a time to be young and free, and i never got to do that. Try and just focus on being happy __________________ "It's a male duck."

12th Apr 2009, 04:34 AM	#3
Absentminded EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: I'm a ladies kind of guy ;) Out Status: I flirt in public. Take a guess ;) Location: Vermont Age: 19 Posts: 546 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: I'm a dyke...no wait I'm a fag. Hunny, don't label yourself like that. I spent a few years doing that, and it's gotten me nowhere. At 13 I started thinking like that, and..out of habit, now I just do, and it hasn't done me any good. 14 is too young to have to think like that, give it time. Just go with the flow and what your body tells you, and don't go against it. You are who you are, and nobody can change that. Everything will work itself out in time.

12th Apr 2009, 05:15 PM	#4
Jamie G Easy Going Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Not out at all Location: West Midlands, UK Age: 19 Posts: 11 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: I'm a dyke...no wait I'm a fag. Just be happy with yourself, don't worry about labeling yourself so soon, if you do feel the need to label yourself strongly because thats the kind of person you are, my suggestion would be wait it out see, you may find that soon enough it will become apparnt, you are in no way 'fucked' your perfectly normal, and i belive at some point most people do what you are doing.. Just go with the flow and be relaxed no matter who you are, your great! Be comfortable with it and don't stress or you'll wreck your highschool days by becomming withdrawn, and scared of yourself.

12th Apr 2009, 05:56 PM	#5
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: I'm a dyke...no wait I'm a fag. You are... a wonderful person You're only 14, it can take a while to figure out who you are. It took me till I was 19.

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