There is a guy whom I accepted friendship on FB. I am a pretty private person and do not like sharing my personal life on social media. The only time that I have shared a few pictures of myself is when I have obtained a connection with someone over a period of time. However, such as Messenger, Video Chat, etc. No ....I will not participate. In regards to sharing pictures/videos on FB...I had mentioned in an earlier post that I did share with someone whom I thought were pretty cool with me and he did totally the opposite of what I had expected from him. He shared my pictures with several outside sources that dealt with gay porn. So...in my opinion...you really can't determine who is fake or not just on the fact of them not sharing their pics. It could be from the effects of a situation such as mine and now this person is being extra cautious. Besides...with me...I am not pursuing anything romantic or sexual with anyone on FB...I just try to give support to those who have posted their personal information of some concern or sharing some kind of an achievement in their lives. Anyway, this guy who I have been FB "friends" for quite some time and over the past year...he has been sharing his personal successes on FB. I have given him congratulatory comments from time to time or if he is worried about something and sharing it on FB, I have also reached out to give some kind of positive encouragement. However, after doing the latter earlier today...once he realized that I was online...he decided to reach out to me. Unfortunately, in my opinion...he would have done better not doing so at all because the pictures of myself that are on my FB page are very similar to what I have uploaded for my avatar on this site or I am wearing sunglasses. Therefore, this guy started off by asking me is the picture on my profile is really me or a fake? Once I established that the picture was actually me...he then asked me if I could submit to him a picture of myself full faced without any hat or glasses. I had decided to submit him two pictures. One of me modeling in a charity fashion show event that took place last month and one where that was taken while at a night club last Summer. Once he received them...he replied that my pictures looked as if they were old pictures instead of newer ones which I immediately got offended. When I replied that they were not...he then asked me if modeling is something that I did for a living. When I replied that I did that for a charity event. He then sent me an invite to join Facebook Messenger which I did not do. This app asked for personal information such as your mobile phone number and even so...I was not going to participate considering the fact that I did not like the tone of the conversation and I did not know him at all to consider accepting his invite for something of that nature. Once he saw where I did not immediately accept his invite...he signed off. What really bothered me about this guy's approach was how he just assumed that I was single and was interested in him in a sexual or romantic way which I was not. Unfortunately, he did not take none of this in consideration and just assumed what he wanted. I am telling this story because as you can see by reading it that I had other reasons for not sharing my pictures or my personal life on FB specifically for those reasons and because I am private and not interested in doing so. Yet, people tend to assume negative things about you without taking the time to realize that they know nothing about you or what you have been through.
Hey Jon, Thanks for this post! I’m even far more conservative than you are when it comes to pictures. I don’t even care to allow myself to be photographed most of the time, let alone permit a photograph of myself to be put online. And I don’t do social media sites (other than technically and indirectly EC). You had a very unfortunate, but not completely unexpected experience from sharing with relative strangers online. I’m very sorry that that happened! Not that I have any great or overarching advice, I’d just say that from what I have read from your postings here on EC and even our direct interactions (awkward though they may have been), you have an extremely sharp head on your shoulders and I admire your gut instincts. Thanks for sharing your story! I would only add to your advice/warning that seemingly ‘impersonal’ online contacts can truly come back to ‘haunt’ you in your personal and/or professional life. From that standpoint, putting your entire (or even most of) your personal life ‘out there’ on the Internet on social sites, dating apps, etc can truly come back to haunt you and everyone should be very careful about how much they share with strangers online. Just my 2cents.
First of all Quantumreality...thank you so much for responding to my post. Also, thanks again for the compliment that you have given me. I truly appreciate it. I also agree with your "two cents" advice as well. After that experience with someone whom I thought I knew very well..no matter how unfortunate for me that had turned out but it also turned into being a very valuable lesson also. Therefore, the last thing I think or even consider is submitting pictures on any social media site besides my avatar and that is saying a lot to say the least. Thanks again for your advice and your response...Jayson :smilewave ---------- Post added 23rd Feb 2017 at 10:56 AM ---------- Just wanted to add that the same day there was this guy whom I have also chatted with briefly on several occasions and he is always posting topics about how conservative he is and how he condones receiving pictures or messages of a sexual nature. Therefore, whenever he contacted me, I always kept the conversation general. However, this particular time...he posted this message stating that he was in need of a deep, hard massage and would love to hear from any takers who feel that can deliver. Now, to be honest, there is a possibility that I could have been wrong by responding. I sent him a somewhat humorous reply that mentioned that if he really wants the massage to come to DADDY because I got mad skills when it comes to giving massages so I've been told. Since I am aware how overly cautious he is in regards to submitting provocative pictures or postings..I have to say that I was startled when after he received my message that he submitted a request for me to have a Facebook video call with him. Nonetheless after getting over the shock...I declined to do so and it pissed him off. Oh well....such as life...we don't always get what we want!!!!
I use Facebook as a promotional tool, so I have a ton of FB "friends" that I literally don't know at all. One day, one such FBF sent me a message out of the blue. "I've got a chub fetish. Give me your number so we can make something happen." ...in other words, the internet will be the internet, I'm afraid. I'm a bit surprised that you sent him the pictures. What motivated you to do so? (Not criticizing - literally just curious.) Lex
I'm fine with sending pictures of myself but I do so with me holding a piece of paper with a hand written number or word/phrase chosen by the other person so they can be sure it's a genuine photo of me.
First of all...thank you for responding to my initial post. I appreciate it. To be honest with you...I was mad at myself afterwards for sending them. Initially, I thought the guy seemed nice since I had submitted messages of encouragement and positivity which he seemed to appreciate over the last year. Therefore, it was a delayed reaction which does not happen a lot with me...I am usually on point so to speak. At the end of the day...it was a stupid move on my part. That's all I can tell you if I am being honest.
