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riddlerno1 · 15th Apr 2009, 11:52 AM

This happened today and really annoyed me. My cousins son who is 6 came over and was watching telly (deal or no deal) and the male contestant went to hug one of the other female contestants.

My cousins son then said "does he hug the other men?"
Me: Yes
Him: he shouldnt hug the men
Me: Why?
Him: cos its not right
Me: Why is it not right, theres nothing wrong with hugging, men can hug other men and its ok

He then left the room. But it just made me so annoyed cos his dad (my cousin) is extreemly homophobic and i know he is picking up certain stuff from his dad. I always try to get him to question this but the poor lad is only 6 and doesnt really understand. Why cant they educate kids at school, it would just make kids grow up with an open mind, especially thiose poor kids who are unfortunate to have bigoted parents!

Just Adam · 15th Apr 2009, 12:23 PM

best way is for him to just spend more time with you help stop him becoming homophobic, at the moment hes young and cant fully understand what beeing gay is but as he gets older with your help he will understand that its nothing wrong especially if in a bit you come out to him he will see well your normal so its ok

Jeimuzu · 15th Apr 2009, 12:31 PM

Maybe that little boy will learn in his own time. I hope he can break down the barriers his father gives him, given time.

xequar · 15th Apr 2009, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by riddlerno1

Why cant they educate kids at school, it would just make kids grow up with an open mind, especially thiose poor kids who are unfortunate to have bigoted parents!

Because the right-wing extremist whackjobs scream that it would be "indoctrinating the children" all while they put the kids through Sunday School and other religious indoctrination classes and the churches say flat-out that they need to get to the children when they're young.

Yeah, they need to get to the children when they're young because adults are generally smart enough to say "Fuck you" to religion if they weren't indoctrinated into it as children.

Dazed · 16th Apr 2009, 08:48 AM

if we were able to educate the children what age would be right? kids are coming out at younger ages but parents think they are too young to understand. i hope when he is older he will understand that its okay.

Alex19 · 16th Apr 2009, 10:11 AM

yea, i hate hearing things like that where one or both of the parents are homophobes and it starts to rub off on the kids.

beckyg · 16th Apr 2009, 02:03 PM

What you said to the kid was perfect!

15th Apr 2009, 11:52 AM	#1
riddlerno1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: London Age: 29 Posts: 712 Join Date: Aug 2008	Kids need to be educated This happened today and really annoyed me. My cousins son who is 6 came over and was watching telly (deal or no deal) and the male contestant went to hug one of the other female contestants. My cousins son then said "does he hug the other men?" Me: Yes Him: he shouldnt hug the men Me: Why? Him: cos its not right Me: Why is it not right, theres nothing wrong with hugging, men can hug other men and its ok He then left the room. But it just made me so annoyed cos his dad (my cousin) is extreemly homophobic and i know he is picking up certain stuff from his dad. I always try to get him to question this but the poor lad is only 6 and doesnt really understand. Why cant they educate kids at school, it would just make kids grow up with an open mind, especially thiose poor kids who are unfortunate to have bigoted parents!

15th Apr 2009, 12:23 PM	#2
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Kids need to be educated best way is for him to just spend more time with you help stop him becoming homophobic, at the moment hes young and cant fully understand what beeing gay is but as he gets older with your help he will understand that its nothing wrong especially if in a bit you come out to him he will see well your normal so its ok __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

15th Apr 2009, 12:31 PM	#3
Jeimuzu Wreck Cognition Full Member Gender: Heterogametic Orientation: Rawr. Out Status: 99% out. Location: Middlesbrough Age: 23 Posts: 1,744 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Kids need to be educated Maybe that little boy will learn in his own time. I hope he can break down the barriers his father gives him, given time. __________________

16th Apr 2009, 08:48 AM	#5
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Kids need to be educated if we were able to educate the children what age would be right? kids are coming out at younger ages but parents think they are too young to understand. i hope when he is older he will understand that its okay.

16th Apr 2009, 10:11 AM	#6
Alex19 who else but me? Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: homo Out Status: I think everyone knows by now Location: New York Age: 21 Posts: 1,301 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Kids need to be educated yea, i hate hearing things like that where one or both of the parents are homophobes and it starts to rub off on the kids. __________________ "It's always darkest before dawn."

16th Apr 2009, 02:03 PM	#7
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Kids need to be educated What you said to the kid was perfect! __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

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