what gives you away? - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

seanr · 22nd Apr 2009, 08:20 AM

well, it hasn't been done, and I'm bored :3
so, what do you do that would give you away?

for me, it's my legs. I know, it's strange O.o

I cross them a lot and I seem to remember some phycology teacher at my school said that girls generally cross there legs, while boys don't O.o

if not that, then how I listen to music. sometimes, my sister has laughed because I've started singing aloud on our noisy bus XD

what about you lot? what do you do that screams gay?

**Eleanor Rigby** · 22nd Apr 2009, 08:24 AM

I love Mylene Farmer's music (at least until the Mylenium Tour, I'm more reserved about the two last albums). It may not mean a lot for most of you, so I have to let you know that she is the french gay icon for 20 years or so.

Kenko · 22nd Apr 2009, 08:36 AM

I watch American / Canadian Idol? I like dance music? I like checking out guys?

**Martin** · 22nd Apr 2009, 08:45 AM

Mmmm, probably staring at guys.

I tend to just sort of drift out of conversation when looking at somebody and cute without listening to what peeps around me are saying, and they can probably tell I am looking at somebody as I then have a "Huh? You say something?" moment.

Oh, and my music also kinda gives it away. Apparently singing Kylie Minogue and Girls Aloud songs isn't masculine? Ohh, and dancing along to the Ketchup Song.

riddlerno1 · 22nd Apr 2009, 10:10 AM

All of the above but only to someone who knows me really well. I cross my legs when i sit on the sofa at home and i also drift off when a cute guy walks past. Oh and i love listening to ABBA!

aerwolfen · 22nd Apr 2009, 10:14 AM

oh yes ! ABBA is definetly my favorite,and i use the word " cute " alot.

SailingKoala · 22nd Apr 2009, 10:25 AM

If crossing Legs is something females do more than blokes then that's one thing I always stand with my legs crossed and when sitting in public have them crossed..... When at home I can't just sit in a chair I'm always curled up in the chair, Never had anyone call me on my stance, but if I see someone watching me I have always straightened up/ shifted position

-Michael- · 22nd Apr 2009, 10:28 AM

I don't really have any gives.

No-one really knows unless told....

I suppose it's the masses of girl friends I have.

that or the fact that anything vulgar brings a look of disgust on my face

unless it's me being vulgar.

If the the word cock is used...i'm disgusting.

I struggle saying penis...

I always say tiddler.

theworld · 22nd Apr 2009, 10:29 AM

'my boyish personality' as one friend put it

and the fact that I never talk about girls as another friend said made her suspect :P

other than that, I'm pretty inconspicuous I think, with the exception of the rainbow bracelet I now wear which no one really notices.

nametakenagain · 22nd Apr 2009, 10:40 AM

I have a high pitched voice and say "Oh my god, it's like..." very often. I am also vocal about my love for Lady Gaga.

stratavos · 22nd Apr 2009, 10:51 AM

hmn... probably the checking out guys peice, as well as liking musicals and music from musicals. I also use my hands to talk when I get really involved in the conversation.

22nd Apr 2009, 11:28 AM

I have a tendency to use exaggerated hand gestures, and probably the fact that I love musicals.

Also my female friend to male friend ratio is quite clearly skewed in the predictable direction!

partietraumatic · 22nd Apr 2009, 11:35 AM

that my best friend is a girl i spose

and my obscene love of shopping

Just Adam · 22nd Apr 2009, 11:36 AM

i dont usually cross legs sat i do standing though or standing on one foot music i like alot of dance and stuff singing gay bar and aqua around the plce prob gives me away but of late i have been getting a bit camper aswell more animated.

Greggers · 22nd Apr 2009, 12:07 PM

Edit: So wow, ok, i started making a "complete list" of things that give me away but it was too long. Not surprising, ive been outed by many a random stranger as of late.

The biggest give away is the fact that i own more musicals than the movie rental store now. Everyone who comes over to my house asks my mother "why so many musicals?" and i think she lies and says they are hers hehe.

Also the fact that my iPod is pretty much Britney, Madonna, Beyonce, Cher, Lady GaGa, Spice Girls, ect. ect. you get the point here haha...

Mickey · 22nd Apr 2009, 12:08 PM

I think my T-shirts,jeans,baseball cap ,tats and pride rings must scream LESBIAN!

Just Adam · 22nd Apr 2009, 12:09 PM

greggers .. are you gay? lol

cos i notice alot of musicals^ hehe

22nd Apr 2009, 12:15 PM

haha probably the way I stand, like never on two feet, im always like putting all the weight on one foot and leaning. haha and how I use my hands no matter what im talking about.
I also kinda have a higher pitched voice lol.
Love musicals and Acting haha, and maybe the Britney Spears on my ipod.

Just Adam · 22nd Apr 2009, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by TripleM

haha probably the way I stand, like never on two feet, im always like putting all the weight on one foot and leaning. haha and how I use my hands no matter what im talking about.
I also kinda have a higher pitched voice lol.
Love musicals and Acting haha, and maybe the Britney Spears on my ipod.

my twin apart from britney spears lol

GhostDog · 22nd Apr 2009, 12:18 PM

Hah, apparently nothing does!

I am very, very vocal about my adoration for Rachel Maddow though. Whenever she comes on, I tend to squeal and go sit over by the TV, grinning. Hah, and it sure as hell ain't for the politics. :D

22nd Apr 2009, 08:20 AM	#1
seanr massive portal fan :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: family IRL, EVERYONE on the internet :D Location: swindon, UK Age: 19 Posts: 478 Join Date: Dec 2008	what gives you away? well, it hasn't been done, and I'm bored :3 so, what do you do that would give you away? for me, it's my legs. I know, it's strange O.o I cross them a lot and I seem to remember some phycology teacher at my school said that girls generally cross there legs, while boys don't O.o if not that, then how I listen to music. sometimes, my sister has laughed because I've started singing aloud on our noisy bus XD what about you lot? what do you do that screams gay?

22nd Apr 2009, 08:24 AM	#2
Eleanor Rigby Filip's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out as straight ally Location: France Age: 32 Posts: 5,400 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: what gives you away? I love Mylene Farmer's music (at least until the Mylenium Tour, I'm more reserved about the two last albums). It may not mean a lot for most of you, so I have to let you know that she is the french gay icon for 20 years or so. __________________ "Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of another, always at the same time as an end and never simply as a means." Immanuel Kant

22nd Apr 2009, 08:36 AM	#3
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: what gives you away? I watch American / Canadian Idol? I like dance music? I like checking out guys?

22nd Apr 2009, 08:45 AM	#4
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,047 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: what gives you away? Mmmm, probably staring at guys. I tend to just sort of drift out of conversation when looking at somebody and cute without listening to what peeps around me are saying, and they can probably tell I am looking at somebody as I then have a "Huh? You say something?" moment. Oh, and my music also kinda gives it away. Apparently singing Kylie Minogue and Girls Aloud songs isn't masculine? Ohh, and dancing along to the Ketchup Song.

22nd Apr 2009, 10:10 AM	#5
riddlerno1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: London Age: 29 Posts: 712 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: what gives you away? All of the above but only to someone who knows me really well. I cross my legs when i sit on the sofa at home and i also drift off when a cute guy walks past. Oh and i love listening to ABBA!

22nd Apr 2009, 10:14 AM	#6
aerwolfen Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: and a few friends Location: winnipeg manitoba Age: 49 Posts: 178 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: what gives you away? oh yes ! ABBA is definetly my favorite,and i use the word " cute " alot. __________________ if your looking for me,when times are rough,and your feeling abit odd,jump onto my rainbow,it leads to cloud nine,no worries,I'll be there with open arms and a hug for peaceful bliss.

22nd Apr 2009, 10:25 AM	#7
SailingKoala Sailing is a Part of Me Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: People that don't know don't matter Location: Oxford Age: 33 Posts: 140 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: what gives you away? If crossing Legs is something females do more than blokes then that's one thing I always stand with my legs crossed and when sitting in public have them crossed..... When at home I can't just sit in a chair I'm always curled up in the chair, Never had anyone call me on my stance, but if I see someone watching me I have always straightened up/ shifted position __________________ "Life is a futile effort, to escape death for as long as possible. Living life for the moment no one survives...Death"

22nd Apr 2009, 10:28 AM	#8
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,198 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: what gives you away? I don't really have any gives. No-one really knows unless told.... I suppose it's the masses of girl friends I have. that or the fact that anything vulgar brings a look of disgust on my face unless it's me being vulgar. If the the word cock is used...i'm disgusting. I struggle saying penis... I always say tiddler.

22nd Apr 2009, 10:29 AM	#9
theworld Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oregon Age: 21 Posts: 209 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: what gives you away? 'my boyish personality' as one friend put it and the fact that I never talk about girls as another friend said made her suspect :P other than that, I'm pretty inconspicuous I think, with the exception of the rainbow bracelet I now wear which no one really notices.

22nd Apr 2009, 10:40 AM	#10
nametakenagain That's what she said! Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 61 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: what gives you away? I have a high pitched voice and say "Oh my god, it's like..." very often. I am also vocal about my love for Lady Gaga.

22nd Apr 2009, 10:51 AM	#11
stratavos professional lurker Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bisexual prefering males Out Status: don't ask don't tell (ask and I'll tell) Location: oakville(college) and oshawa(hometown) ont, Canada Age: 22 Posts: 1,101 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: what gives you away? hmn... probably the checking out guys peice, as well as liking musicals and music from musicals. I also use my hands to talk when I get really involved in the conversation. __________________ <-is a very bad influence... and definately enjoys it hail lord ilpallazzo!

22nd Apr 2009, 11:28 AM	#12
saudade Guest Posts: n/a	Re: what gives you away? I have a tendency to use exaggerated hand gestures, and probably the fact that I love musicals. Also my female friend to male friend ratio is quite clearly skewed in the predictable direction!

22nd Apr 2009, 11:35 AM	#13
partietraumatic A gay heteropolitan? Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Enough for now Location: Oxford and Birmingham, UK Age: 20 Posts: 1,300 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: what gives you away? that my best friend is a girl i spose and my obscene love of shopping __________________ 'Im not your toy and this isn't another girl meets boy'

22nd Apr 2009, 11:36 AM	#14
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: what gives you away? i dont usually cross legs sat i do standing though or standing on one foot music i like alot of dance and stuff singing gay bar and aqua around the plce prob gives me away but of late i have been getting a bit camper aswell more animated. __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

22nd Apr 2009, 12:07 PM	#15
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: what gives you away? Edit: So wow, ok, i started making a "complete list" of things that give me away but it was too long. Not surprising, ive been outed by many a random stranger as of late. The biggest give away is the fact that i own more musicals than the movie rental store now. Everyone who comes over to my house asks my mother "why so many musicals?" and i think she lies and says they are hers hehe. Also the fact that my iPod is pretty much Britney, Madonna, Beyonce, Cher, Lady GaGa, Spice Girls, ect. ect. you get the point here haha... __________________ "It's a male duck."

22nd Apr 2009, 12:08 PM	#16
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: what gives you away? I think my T-shirts,jeans,baseball cap ,tats and pride rings must scream LESBIAN! __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

22nd Apr 2009, 12:09 PM	#17
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: what gives you away? greggers .. are you gay? lol cos i notice alot of musicals^ hehe __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

22nd Apr 2009, 12:15 PM	#18
TripleM Guest Posts: n/a	Re: what gives you away? haha probably the way I stand, like never on two feet, im always like putting all the weight on one foot and leaning. haha and how I use my hands no matter what im talking about. I also kinda have a higher pitched voice lol. Love musicals and Acting haha, and maybe the Britney Spears on my ipod.

22nd Apr 2009, 12:18 PM	#20
GhostDog is Spartacus. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: MAGICAL. Out Status: The hiiills are aliiive with the sound of muuusic! Location: DFW area, Texas Age: 24 Posts: 2,503 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: what gives you away? Hah, apparently nothing does! I am very, very vocal about my adoration for Rachel Maddow though. Whenever she comes on, I tend to squeal and go sit over by the TV, grinning. Hah, and it sure as hell ain't for the politics. :D __________________ <3 Kirah, who may or may not be made of delicious candy (and the lesbians)