I've been starting to like it. I used to like the word queer. It was all inclusive, but now in my city it basically means poly, kinky and bi. But mainly poly and kinky. So pretty much a unicorn to a lot of guys. To me the word dyke means that I'm not here for men. I'm the boss and I'll put any men who fetishize me in their place. I'm not a unicorn, I'm a dyke.
I don't run into the word much but if I had to I would classify it, in my mind, as a word similar to faggot in that intent is important and currently it should probably only be used by those who actually are part of that minority group.
I agree with Austin. I don't come across it much either. But to me it has negative connotations and should only be used by those that like to use it.
It doesn't bother me, if someone called me a dyke as an insult I'd probably just laugh and be like "ya I am" I agree that dyke definitely has different connotations with queer, I agree that it sounds more...hmmm "solid" To me dyke is lesbian, queer is pansexual and "open" ---------- Post added 27th Apr 2017 at 01:57 PM ---------- But also, that doesn't mean that I do think people *should* use it as an insult and of course if someone is speaking down to me because I'm gay I'd be pissed off. To me it depends on how someone uses it and what connotations it has to them. I do agree that most straight people wouldn't use it in an endearing way like some lesbians I've seen.
I actually kind of like how it's vulgar and not endearing. It seems like lesbian reminds people too much of lesbian porn. Queer is associated with kinky/poly girls who see girls more as something kinky or poly than an actual orientation. If I could find a term that didn't have overly sexual or open connotations I would use it. It would be even better if it was family friendly.
Obviously I'm not a lesbian, and so I'll go to the closest alternative I have had experience with, which is Faggot. I don't mind it actually, I massively prefer it over queer, queer sounds a bit patronising to me. Obviously with the term Faggot it depends on the context of the use.
