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I have been single all my life but know that I´m bi. Normal?

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  1. thatakwardgirl

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    so here is my issue:

    Am I really bi if I have never had any partner? I am still very young so I don´t want to have a real relationship yet but I am definitely attracted to both genders. Does that still make me bi? Because I often hear the question "how do you know you´re bi if you didn't have a partner"

    please help :slight_smile:
     
    #1 thatakwardgirl, May 7, 2017
  2. silverhalo

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    Absolutely. You dont have to have had a partner to know what you like. If anyone, but especially a straight person says this just ask them how they know they are straight.
     
    #2 silverhalo, May 7, 2017
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    I've also been single all my life, but I know I'm attracted to women.
     
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    My friend, I'm in the same situation as you are. But hey, still bi.
     
    #4 skittlz, May 7, 2017
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    I've also been single all my life, but I know I like men.
     
    #5 AJ56, May 8, 2017
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    You don't need to be with someone to like who you like :slight_smile:
     
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    Ditto. Totally normal.
     
    #7 Twisted777, May 9, 2017
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    Same here. Never been in a relationship, but have been attracted to guys and girls and am open to being in a relationship with people regardless of gender. I understand your worry, I had the same when I was coming to term with my sexuality, but your feelings are real despite never being in a relationship, and your feelings are really all that matters in deciding your sexuality.
     
    #8 L0ser, May 9, 2017
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    Being bisexual has more to do with who you're attracted to. No one else can determine the criteria for it except for yourself. Being single is just a matter of not being in a relationship. It has nothing to do with your actual sexual orientation.

    I hope this helps.
     
    #9 Ljjgreat2017, May 9, 2017
  10. Embi

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    I knew that I was bi before I had my first partner. And the only relationship I ever was in was online. So yes, as others already mentioned, it's totally normal, don't worry.

    And I got the "How can you know you're bi if you never had a partner?" thing as well. It's so annoying and people who say that have no idea how attraction works :rolle:
     
    #10 Embi, May 10, 2017
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    Attraction is what makes you bi, not your partner.
     
    #11 Assassin'sKat, May 10, 2017
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    I have the same situation :slight_smile: I am young, and never been in a relationship, and only recently started realizing my attraction to both girls and guys, however, that doesn't make your attraction any less real.

    Basically, just because you have never been in an actual relationship does not make your sexual-attraction wrong or "confused" (i get that a lot).

    Great comeback to being asked that (as somebody stated above): How do you know your straight if you've never been in a relationship, either?

    LMAO, you're normal (and special and unique :slight_smile: ) Don't ever feel like you have to fit in to a crowd though either, it is great to stand out for good reasons :slight_smile:
     
    #12 RogueSoldierDZV, May 15, 2017
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    Yes.
     
    #13 Austin, May 16, 2017
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