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View Poll Results: Who took it better when you came out?
My mom was more accepting than my dad 17 25.76%
My dad was more accepting than my mom 10 15.15%
They were both accepting 17 25.76%
Neither of them were accepting 4 6.06%
I haven't come out to them yet 9 13.64%
Other (please specify) 9 13.64%
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Old 13th May 2017, 03:16 AM   #21
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

Both were accepting.

My dad somehow struggled with the information and was a little more hesitant than my mum at first, I could see that. He got over it soon though.
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Old 14th May 2017, 06:22 AM   #22
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

My mom took it really well but I haven't told my dad. To clarify I haven't seen my dad in probably two years now. I do have his number. I am able to contact him. It's just that the rest of my family advises that I don't contact him. He never talked about religion or politics though so I don't even have the slightest clue about how he would react.
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Old 19th May 2017, 08:01 AM   #23
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

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Both were accepting.

My dad somehow struggled with the information and was a little more hesitant than my mum at first, I could see that. He got over it soon though.
That's pretty much how it went for me as well.
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Old 19th May 2017, 03:43 PM   #24
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

I think my mom knew before I did... lol. My dad had already passed away before I came out to mom but she said he would have been just fine with it.
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Old 19th May 2017, 04:20 PM   #25
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

It didn't take my mom long to come around, but my dad hasn't really spoken to me since.
Seems too worried about what his "friends" might think of him. Who knows.
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Old 19th May 2017, 04:52 PM   #26
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

I'm only out to my mom and she's fine with it. My dad, I have no idea.
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Old 19th May 2017, 11:23 PM   #27
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

Neither technically. My dad died when I was very young and I'm not interested in doing a séance to find out.

I've never officially told my mom about my sexuality. There have been a few weird WTF moments in the past when I said I was gay. She seemed like she was about to go from 1 to 100. I know she's definitely suspected it when I was younger, before the weird blurting. For example, there used to be a commercial with Hiedi (sp?) Klum that was a remake for a famous Tom Cruise scene. My mom used to give me so much grief over it. She kept accusing me of enjoying it too much. If I did, I don't think it was obvious to me. I would always be confused (and ashamed, quite frankly) when she would say this.

I once came out as trans when I was much younger and she was supportive. However, a few years ago, I stated that I didn't feel female or male. It was a mistake that I really regretted.

She's very religious now, hence the massive change in her attitude towards these things. Anyway, I've told her that I'm straight and she believes me.
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Old 20th May 2017, 01:40 AM   #28
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

I don't care what mother would say cause she abandoned me before i could crawl or
talk and won't tell even if i should know where she is.

Papá would likely accept it , maybe take a bit longer about the non-male stereotype.
His hope was for me to be happy, i know because of my name meaning.
I wish i could stay whit him long enough so i could tell and him.
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Old 20th May 2017, 04:15 AM   #29
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

My mother was more accepting, but only by a very small amount. It did not take long for my dad to swing around at all.
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

My mom has been very accepting and supportive about it all while my dad hasn't spoken to me in about 7 years but to be fair we never really got along that well to begin with.
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

Dad by far.
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Old 20th May 2017, 11:07 AM   #32
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

I'll clarify.

My dad accepts. Doesn't really support. My mom... tolerates.
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Old 20th May 2017, 07:08 PM   #33
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

When I came out to my mother, she was supportive. She just worries about me and how other people might react, but so does any other good, accepting mother... She still needs a bit of work on her supportive stance, though.

My dad died when I was younger, before I found out my sexuality(still finding out about it now, though), so I don't know how he would've reacted.
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

Considering my father was never involved in my life and we don't talk lol...my mom was more accepting of me for who I am. She still goes through phases of denial or anger about it, but I'm her only "child," so I suppose it's not easy for her to accept me being gay, especially for someone of her generation who was brought up differently than I was. But at the end of the day, she loves me for who I am, she's proud of me, and she just wants me to be myself and be happy.
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Old 21st May 2017, 02:31 PM   #35
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

i havent told my parents properly. but my mum has told me she doesnt want me dating a girl because "being gay is so hard" and she wants biological grandchildren. she also makes me wear feminine clothes and if i dont she'll embarrass me at the function. my dad however is the opposite. he says he doesnt care who i like or what i look like as long as im safe and happy.
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Re: Which one of your parents took it better when you came out?

Neither ever have. Disowned at 14. Still struggle with it at 34 but back in therapy for it now
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Old 22nd May 2017, 03:42 AM   #37
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Neither ever have. Disowned at 14. Still struggle with it at 34 but back in therapy for it now
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