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silentsound · 30th Apr 2009, 02:27 PM

Now, I have a pretty good gaydar (it's better for girls than boys) just because I am good at reading people and can kind of get a sense of people. But I was thinking today about some of the random other out there gaydar techniques that I occasionally half-jokingly employ (sometimes as double-checkers). I know there is no sure way to tell, but what are some of those weird ones you have heard of? I want to see what this list looks like...

Some of mine are:
finger length
pronoun ambiguity (the person I marry, etc)
"my 'roommate'"
and many others...

djt820 · 30th Apr 2009, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by silentsound

pronoun ambiguity

Shit, I do that all the time.

Roralo · 30th Apr 2009, 04:10 PM

Hahahah. Person ambiguity, I use that A LOT. But I never noticed finger length? What about it?

Absentminded · 30th Apr 2009, 04:18 PM

Hm...I don't go by any of those...I must be particularly strange. I can walk up to someone and basically tell, like a person can tell black from white.

jazzrawr · 30th Apr 2009, 04:20 PM

Aaaah, the pronoun game.
A dead giveaway.
I do it all the time. XD

Just Adam · 30th Apr 2009, 04:21 PM

i just dodge it " adam are you gay"

actually the way i respond i couldent be more gay if i try lol

LornTehViking · 30th Apr 2009, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by jazzrawr

Aaaah, the pronoun game.
A dead giveaway.
I do it all the time. XD

Agreed.

Or there's the "HEY ARE YOUR FINGERNAILS DIRTY?!"
And then the person will check. More flambouyantly = palm down, fingers slightly bent toward face = slight gaydar beeping, and the opposite is well, the opposite (fingers curled in toward palm, palm up)

someguy82 · 30th Apr 2009, 05:41 PM

I have really terrible gaydar.

silentsound · 30th Apr 2009, 07:02 PM

oh I do love the pronoun game...

also short fingernails on girls (shit, I have those too because I play guitar...)

silentsound · 30th Apr 2009, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Roralo

Hahahah. Person ambiguity, I use that A LOT. But I never noticed finger length? What about it?

I find it's more consistent with girls actually. It's the idea that finger length is related to hormone exposure in the womb, like homosexuality, so a gay person is more likely to have a longer ring finger than index finger (it's supposedly inverse for boys).

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Originally Posted by Absentminded

Hm...I don't go by any of those...I must be particularly strange. I can walk up to someone and basically tell, like a person can tell black from white.

yeah, I'm like that too, I typically just sort of know.

Kenko · 30th Apr 2009, 07:22 PM

Facebook:
1) Status / lack of status
2) Mutual friends who are gay

30th Apr 2009, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by LornTehViking

Or there's the "HEY ARE YOUR FINGERNAILS DIRTY?!"
And then the person will check. More flambouyantly = palm down, fingers slightly bent toward face = slight gaydar beeping, and the opposite is well, the opposite (fingers curled in toward palm, palm up)

or, they just dont look at all

meh, my gaydar sucks. it takes a floaty walk, limp wrists, a lisp, and fabulous clothes for me to know you're gay.

LornTehViking · 30th Apr 2009, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by silentsound

oh I do love the pronoun game...

also short fingernails on girls (shit, I have those too because I play guitar...)

Joke:
What do you call a lesbian with long fingernails?
Single.

Lol.

GhostDog · 30th Apr 2009, 07:44 PM

I tend to think I don't have one, yet for some reason I found Rachel Maddow really, really interesting even before I knew she was gay (the first time I watched her show, hehe). And I went to a show and ended up spending most of it staring at one particular singer, get home, look at the band's webpage, and find out she's a lesbian. It's weird! I don't even know what it is I'm noticing.

But I totally use the gender ambiguity when I talk about hypothetical significant others. I.. kind of keep hoping someone notices it so I don't have to say anything, but they've yet to mention it. :P

BlakeHarmony · 30th Apr 2009, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Kenko

Facebook:
1) Status / lack of status
2) Mutual friends who are gay

I definitely use the lack of "interested in".
I have also become very skilled at he pronoun game, it's great fun. What is also fun, when disusing who you like you tell whoever is trying to figure it out that you will answer yes or no questions truthfully. This is usually how it goes:
-Is he in band
-nope
-gr 11?
-nope
-gr 10?
-nope
-gr 12?
-nope
-what??? So, you like someone who doesn't go to the school...
-I never said that, did I?

It's really funny, they get so confused!

Mickey · 30th Apr 2009, 08:18 PM

Sorry,but MY gaydar is good only for the stereotypical gay person. I wish it wasn't like that,but,alas,it is.

507bro · 30th Apr 2009, 09:35 PM

can some one let me in on how to play the pronoun game?
i'm like lost lol, i wana learn so i can use it on people

30th Apr 2009, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by someguy82

I have really terrible gaydar.

Meeee too. I think it's practically non-existant, unless there are more obvious, "stereotypical" signs.

Cheria · 30th Apr 2009, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by 507bro

can some one let me in on how to play the pronoun game?
i'm like lost lol, i wana learn so i can use it on people

Whenever you talk about someone you like, don't use he or she, instead say that person or they.

507bro · 30th Apr 2009, 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Roswell

Quote:

Originally Posted by 507bro

can some one let me in on how to play the pronoun game?
i'm like lost lol, i wana learn so i can use it on people

Whenever you talk about someone you like, don't use he or she, instead say that person or they.

can you give me an example

i feel stupid

30th Apr 2009, 02:27 PM	#1
silentsound Flaming Thespian Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: most people Age: 18 Posts: 2,253 Join Date: Jun 2008	Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques Now, I have a pretty good gaydar (it's better for girls than boys) just because I am good at reading people and can kind of get a sense of people. But I was thinking today about some of the random other out there gaydar techniques that I occasionally half-jokingly employ (sometimes as double-checkers). I know there is no sure way to tell, but what are some of those weird ones you have heard of? I want to see what this list looks like... Some of mine are: finger length pronoun ambiguity (the person I marry, etc) "my 'roommate'" and many others... __________________ ...and I can't wait to figure out what's *wrong* with me, so I can say 'this is the way I [used] to be'

30th Apr 2009, 04:10 PM	#3
Roralo Bopping,dropping and shaking life Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: The Sunniest State in the USA Posts: 182 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques Hahahah. Person ambiguity, I use that A LOT. But I never noticed finger length? What about it? __________________ Love.Live.Laugh

30th Apr 2009, 04:18 PM	#4
Absentminded EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: I'm a ladies kind of guy ;) Out Status: I flirt in public. Take a guess ;) Location: Vermont Age: 19 Posts: 546 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques Hm...I don't go by any of those...I must be particularly strange. I can walk up to someone and basically tell, like a person can tell black from white.

30th Apr 2009, 04:20 PM	#5
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques Aaaah, the pronoun game. A dead giveaway. I do it all the time. XD __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

30th Apr 2009, 04:21 PM	#6
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques i just dodge it " adam are you gay" actually the way i respond i couldent be more gay if i try lol __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

30th Apr 2009, 05:41 PM	#8
someguy82 ... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 29 Posts: 313 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques I have really terrible gaydar.

30th Apr 2009, 07:02 PM	#9
silentsound Flaming Thespian Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: most people Age: 18 Posts: 2,253 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques oh I do love the pronoun game... also short fingernails on girls (shit, I have those too because I play guitar...) __________________ ...and I can't wait to figure out what's *wrong* with me, so I can say 'this is the way I [used] to be'

30th Apr 2009, 07:22 PM	#11
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques Facebook: 1) Status / lack of status 2) Mutual friends who are gay

30th Apr 2009, 07:44 PM	#14
GhostDog is Spartacus. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: MAGICAL. Out Status: The hiiills are aliiive with the sound of muuusic! Location: DFW area, Texas Age: 24 Posts: 2,503 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques I tend to think I don't have one, yet for some reason I found Rachel Maddow really, really interesting even before I knew she was gay (the first time I watched her show, hehe). And I went to a show and ended up spending most of it staring at one particular singer, get home, look at the band's webpage, and find out she's a lesbian. It's weird! I don't even know what it is I'm noticing. But I totally use the gender ambiguity when I talk about hypothetical significant others. I.. kind of keep hoping someone notices it so I don't have to say anything, but they've yet to mention it. :P __________________ <3 Kirah, who may or may not be made of delicious candy (and the lesbians)

30th Apr 2009, 08:18 PM	#16
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques Sorry,but MY gaydar is good only for the stereotypical gay person. I wish it wasn't like that,but,alas,it is. __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

30th Apr 2009, 09:35 PM	#17
507bro Asian Invasion Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Ghey with a little hint of str8 Out Status: Facebook, Friends Location: Mankato, MN Age: 20 Posts: 337 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Auxiliary Gaydar Techniques can some one let me in on how to play the pronoun game? i'm like lost lol, i wana learn so i can use it on people __________________

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