Thats what I sound like?!?! - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Mike J · 1st May 2009, 12:36 AM

A few days ago I saw a recording of an interview I was in and I sound so freaking...GAY. I 100% honestly had no idea. To me I sound normal, mature and somewhat masculine. I can't believe it, I was in shock. I was quite embarrased but I guess no one else would have noticed.

Why do I sound so different to myself!!

**Ben** · 1st May 2009, 12:40 AM

Hah the exact same thing happened to me. The first time I heard my voice back all I could think of was how stereotypically gay I sounded.

But it's okay. Our voice is simply one part of us that makes us individual, it's nothing to be ashamed of!

riddlerno1 · 1st May 2009, 03:48 AM

It happened to me too!!! It was actually quite strange to think thats how others hear my voice cos that not how i think i sound. But like Ben said, its only a small part of who you are and its ok!

Tim · 1st May 2009, 04:02 AM

XD Happens to me all the time, it's why I HATE my voice with a passion XD

Others say it's normal though ._.

1st May 2009, 04:04 AM

i always feel that way! i sometimes wonder why people dont just automatically peg me as gay

maybe this is how straight dudes hear their voices too?

J Schuelke · 1st May 2009, 11:00 AM

omg! that's like the time I started using a microphone when singing and performing. when I would always play guitar I wouldn't really have any equipment, and then I started using amps and mics. the first time I sang through the microphone, I was a little shocked and I was all like "man, is that how I sound?" but then I got used to it.

once you get past the initial shock, it's all good.

**Victor** · 1st May 2009, 11:07 AM

Haha... I had the same experience. I always thought that my voice was pretty much neutral when it comes to masculinity or femininity, but when I recorded my voice some time ago, I thought that it sounded rather "gay."

It doesn't and never really did bother me though. I was simply surprised and wondered just how no one picked up on it.

Mason · 1st May 2009, 04:02 PM

This has happened to me. I did a project for a class one time, and it got filmed. When we watched it later on, I was so surprised about how my voice sounded. It shocked me, to say the least. I'm used to it now.

olides84 · 1st May 2009, 04:07 PM

Hey guys, let us be the judge!

Go record your voice on the epic EC thread: http://www.emptyclosets.com/forum/sh...ad.php?t=15252

Bryan44 · 1st May 2009, 05:34 PM

I always thought that I had a normal guy voice too, pshh then I heard myself in a video and I was like "man, I am sooo gay.."

Jeimuzu · 1st May 2009, 06:15 PM

We totally need to hear each other talk! =D

Greggers · 1st May 2009, 06:19 PM

My voice is...

Super NOT gay sounding xD Kinda funny, cause everything else about me is.

Cheria · 1st May 2009, 06:42 PM

Over recorded material, I sound straight. In person though, I think it would be at least debatable.

Roralo · 1st May 2009, 07:28 PM

I don't have that problem, well at least, not the gay accent. In terms of speech, I guess my 'politeness' would give me away. And a 'tch' sound here and there.

Starburst · 1st May 2009, 07:28 PM

LOL. We have a thing in common.

**Owen** · 2nd May 2009, 08:27 AM

I always thought I sounded pretty masculine, but when I listen to recordings of myself, I can't help but shudder. My voice much more effeminate than I wish it was, although it's not as gay as some of the flaming people in my school, so that gives me some level of comfort.

Kenko · 2nd May 2009, 10:29 AM

Supposedly I sound a lot like my brother, who has a masculine sounding voice, but I think that's debatable. I hear my voice every time the answering machine plays the outgoing greeting, and I don't think it sounds too "gay", though I think some other recordings kind of do. No one accuses me of having a hugely effeminate voice.

I think it may have to do with how you hear your voice. When you talk a lot more of the sound gets transmitted through your bones to your ear, which is why you "sound different", and I think it may emphasize lower frequencies, which may make your voice sound deeper or more "masculine" to yourself then it does to others.

http://www.wanderings.net/notebook/M...ordingPlayback

http://wcco.com/local/voice.sounds.d....2.751703.html

qisforquinton · 2nd May 2009, 01:01 PM

I sound really gay when I talk. Like, I say "like" like, 5 times in every sentence.

Mike J · 2nd May 2009, 01:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by paco

i always feel that way! i sometimes wonder why people dont just automatically peg me as gay

maybe this is how straight dudes hear their voices too?

Yeah I was wondering this too. When I speak people must automatically assume so.

seanr · 2nd May 2009, 02:53 PM

I HATE my voice. to me, I sound...normal. average. maybe slightly feminine

but overall, ok.
then I heard the playback of my german speaking exam. miss had to check it was there.
I sounded all posh and odd

I sounded like I was constantly bored :/

I HATED that X((

1st May 2009, 12:36 AM	#1
Mike J Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Age: 21 Posts: 96 Join Date: Apr 2009	Thats what I sound like?!?! A few days ago I saw a recording of an interview I was in and I sound so freaking...GAY. I 100% honestly had no idea. To me I sound normal, mature and somewhat masculine. I can't believe it, I was in shock. I was quite embarrased but I guess no one else would have noticed. Why do I sound so different to myself!! __________________ HELLO!

1st May 2009, 12:40 AM	#2
Ben Was Invisible. EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 3,704 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! Hah the exact same thing happened to me. The first time I heard my voice back all I could think of was how stereotypically gay I sounded. But it's okay. Our voice is simply one part of us that makes us individual, it's nothing to be ashamed of!

1st May 2009, 03:48 AM	#3
riddlerno1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: London Age: 29 Posts: 712 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! It happened to me too!!! It was actually quite strange to think thats how others hear my voice cos that not how i think i sound. But like Ben said, its only a small part of who you are and its ok!

1st May 2009, 04:02 AM	#4
Tim Psycho Glitter Btch Full Member Gender:* Guy, Unless Life Was a Horrible April Fools Joke. Orientation: Gay/Asexual/Confusing to Explain Out Status: Armed and Fabulous! XD Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 7,381 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! XD Happens to me all the time, it's why I HATE my voice with a passion XD Others say it's normal though ._. __________________ Rawr! :3 ~The Stalker User Known As Tim~ Rawr! :3 EC's Sailor Star Healer, Oxymoron and All. Star Sensitive Inferno! Sailor Starlight, Stage On! [Vic] 7:49 pm: I keep my pants off in public.

1st May 2009, 04:04 AM	#5
paco Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! i always feel that way! i sometimes wonder why people dont just automatically peg me as gay maybe this is how straight dudes hear their voices too?

1st May 2009, 11:00 AM	#6
J Schuelke Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: My Mom, and most friends Location: wisconsin Age: 23 Posts: 190 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! omg! that's like the time I started using a microphone when singing and performing. when I would always play guitar I wouldn't really have any equipment, and then I started using amps and mics. the first time I sang through the microphone, I was a little shocked and I was all like "man, is that how I sound?" but then I got used to it. once you get past the initial shock, it's all good. __________________ Every day should be gay pride day.

1st May 2009, 11:07 AM	#7
Victor Moo EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty damn out Location: California Age: 21 Posts: 1,972 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! Haha... I had the same experience. I always thought that my voice was pretty much neutral when it comes to masculinity or femininity, but when I recorded my voice some time ago, I thought that it sounded rather "gay." It doesn't and never really did bother me though. I was simply surprised and wondered just how no one picked up on it.

1st May 2009, 04:02 PM	#8
Mason Master Chef Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Salinas, CA Age: 19 Posts: 101 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! This has happened to me. I did a project for a class one time, and it got filmed. When we watched it later on, I was so surprised about how my voice sounded. It shocked me, to say the least. I'm used to it now.

1st May 2009, 04:07 PM	#9
olides84 stranger in a strange land Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty much Location: Belgium Posts: 1,042 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! Hey guys, let us be the judge! Go record your voice on the epic EC thread: http://www.emptyclosets.com/forum/sh...ad.php?t=15252

1st May 2009, 05:34 PM	#10
Bryan44 Dork Full Member Gender: Male Location: Georgia (the state) Posts: 2,065 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! I always thought that I had a normal guy voice too, pshh then I heard myself in a video and I was like "man, I am sooo gay.."

1st May 2009, 06:15 PM	#11
Jeimuzu Wreck Cognition Full Member Gender: Heterogametic Orientation: Rawr. Out Status: 99% out. Location: Middlesbrough Age: 23 Posts: 1,744 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! We totally need to hear each other talk! =D __________________

1st May 2009, 06:19 PM	#12
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! My voice is... Super NOT gay sounding xD Kinda funny, cause everything else about me is. __________________ "It's a male duck."

1st May 2009, 06:42 PM	#13
Cheria にひひっ♪ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost everyone Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 636 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! Over recorded material, I sound straight. In person though, I think it would be at least debatable. __________________

1st May 2009, 07:28 PM	#14
Roralo Bopping,dropping and shaking life Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: The Sunniest State in the USA Posts: 182 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! I don't have that problem, well at least, not the gay accent. In terms of speech, I guess my 'politeness' would give me away. And a 'tch' sound here and there. __________________ Love.Live.Laugh

1st May 2009, 07:28 PM	#15
Starburst Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Mal-licious <3 Out Status: A few people Location: Indianapolis, IN, USA & Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam. Age: 20 Posts: 130 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! LOL. We have a thing in common.

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2nd May 2009, 10:29 AM	#17
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! Supposedly I sound a lot like my brother, who has a masculine sounding voice, but I think that's debatable. I hear my voice every time the answering machine plays the outgoing greeting, and I don't think it sounds too "gay", though I think some other recordings kind of do. No one accuses me of having a hugely effeminate voice. I think it may have to do with how you hear your voice. When you talk a lot more of the sound gets transmitted through your bones to your ear, which is why you "sound different", and I think it may emphasize lower frequencies, which may make your voice sound deeper or more "masculine" to yourself then it does to others. http://www.wanderings.net/notebook/M...ordingPlayback http://wcco.com/local/voice.sounds.d....2.751703.html

2nd May 2009, 01:01 PM	#18
qisforquinton Master Thespian Full Member Gender: Maleee Orientation: I like guys Out Status: some friends Location: Lameville, NY Age: 19 Posts: 434 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! I sound really gay when I talk. Like, I say "like" like, 5 times in every sentence. __________________ Sugar, we're goin' down swingin'

2nd May 2009, 02:53 PM	#20
seanr massive portal fan :D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: family IRL, EVERYONE on the internet :D Location: swindon, UK Age: 19 Posts: 478 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Thats what I sound like?!?! I HATE my voice. to me, I sound...normal. average. maybe slightly feminine but overall, ok. then I heard the playback of my german speaking exam. miss had to check it was there. I sounded all posh and odd I sounded like I was constantly bored :/ I HATED that X((