What the hell is sexuality?

[silas99]

I was thinking about sexuality today (instead of revising for finals). Sexuality confuses me so much....how is it that I like girls. It cannot be personality alone because otherwise I would have feelings towards a lot of blokes I know. So surely there must be a degree of sexual attraction to women??? But then I start thinking....if I met someone and had no idea what their gender was...would I be attracted to them (like people who fall in love over the internet...how does that work?) And if lesbians are attracted to girls then why are some attracted to butch women, who dress like men and some act like men? You cant tell me they are attracted to that person because they enpower femininity, because their outward appearance is rather masculine. In which case why are those lesbians outwardly sexually attracted to those women and not men? What the hell defines sexuality? I started thinking about it after I watched "She's the man".....loser you might say....but actually its a portrayal of Shakespeares "Twelth night". And it got me thinking about the psychology of sexuality. Olivia falls in love with Cesario (in reality Cesario is Viola,a woman, impersonating a man). What has she fallen in love with? And on discovering the truth about her love's true gender ( a woman)....does she just fall out of love?

Damn now I've confused everyone who just read that post, but I just thought I'd ramble a bit. What are other people's thoughts on this...or am I just thinking way too much about it!

Well they did a case study on men a women that ended up with intresting results. The tests were bases on attraction. Attraction relies on a number of things. The sound of your voice, the symmetry of your face, your smell, your status.

For the guys they played 2 sound bites and they were to rate which voice was more atractive to them. What they didn't know was that it was the same woman but they recorded her voice twice, once when she was at the peak of fertility and then when she wasent. Suprisingly the guys picked her "peak" voice. Scientist think that this is based on our subconcious biological instinct to mate.

With the women, they had men run on a treadmill untill their shirts where soaked with sweat. They placed the drenched shirts in containers and asked a pannel of girls to sniff the jars and rate the smells on a scale of 1-5 or 1-10 (dont remember). Well turns out that the women who were at the peak of fertility found most of the smells to be sweet while the ones who wern't found the smells to be rather nasty.

Biology plays a lot into how we pick and choose what we do and do not like. I mean butch women give off a certain scent while lipsticks don't...I really don't know, all these studies are being done to heterosexuals so I cant back up any ideas but the reasons we like someone, in my perspective, is probably a factor of both nature and nurture but i like to side on the nature side more so than the nurture.

(I'm taking Human Sexuality starting next week. Maybe I can answer more of your question once the class is said an done with) :cD

[AeonToy]

WOW! that is super interesting!!!!!

[Greggers]

I fall in love with a person, man or woman, but im sexually attracted to the penis and lack of boobies. I know alot of women who if you transplanted who they were into a mans body i would be ALL over that.

If someone dresses like a woman, but i know at the end of the day that person packs a penis under it all, i can still be attracted to them (personally) and often am.

[silas99]

Thats really interesting legnaj. I would do that module if it was offered on my course. It would be great if you posted some random facts when you've started it.

Originally Posted by Greggers

I fall in love with a person, man or woman, but im sexually attracted to the penis and lack of boobies. I know alot of women who if you transplanted who they were into a mans body i would be ALL over that.

If someone dresses like a woman, but i know at the end of the day that person packs a penis under it all, i can still be attracted to them (personally) and often am.

That makes sense....I suppose I could use the reverse and say I'm attracted to the boobies and not the penis! But Greg what if you fell in love with a gay Transman, who hadnt had any reconstructive surgery. He's still a man but doesn't technically have a penis. I guess it would depend on the person.

[Bernard1992]

Wow, you all gave such interesting replies and I don't have anything to compare to them so just want to say that it was an interesting read and that this topic is why it is hard to classify yourself as a certain sexuality in my opinion.

[Greggers]

Originally Posted by silas99

Thats really interesting legnaj. I would do that module if it was offered on my course. It would be great if you posted some random facts when you've started it.

That makes sense....I suppose I could use the reverse and say I'm attracted to the boobies and not the penis! But Greg what if you fell in love with a gay Transman, who hadnt had any reconstructive surgery. He's still a man but doesn't technically have a penis. I guess it would depend on the person.

I could never be with someone without the penis, cause thats what is sexually attractive. I could love someone, but it would not be a "whole" relationship.

[qisforquinton]

Originally Posted by Greggers

I could never be with someone without the penis, cause thats what is sexually attractive. I could love someone, but it would not be a "whole" relationship.

well said

Originally Posted by silas99

Thats really interesting legnaj. I would do that module if it was offered on my course. It would be great if you posted some random facts when you've started it.

That makes sense....I suppose I could use the reverse and say I'm attracted to the boobies and not the penis! But Greg what if you fell in love with a gay Transman, who hadnt had any reconstructive surgery. He's still a man but doesn't technically have a penis. I guess it would depend on the person.

Sure no problem but I think Greg's "Whole Relationship" idea just jammed the last nail in the coffin on the subject for now.