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Alex19 · 8th May 2009, 11:21 AM

so, ive kinda been thinking and it seems that among the LGBT community, these kind of relationships are more widely accepted. of coarse, thats just what it looks like to me. i know there are many straight ppl who accept it, but it seems like less of a big deal to us. what do u think?

beckyg · 8th May 2009, 11:25 AM

I don't know. Interracial marriages are very accepted here in Oregon by both straights and gays.

Amy · 8th May 2009, 11:33 AM

I think, that as a community, we do accept and tolerate more in general.

MusicIsLife · 8th May 2009, 12:07 PM

I honestly have no idea.

I mean i think it depends on where you live and how traditional the families involved are. I know that certain members of my family would shit a brick if one of my brothers dated someone black/asian/indian/native/etc. :/

**Ben** · 8th May 2009, 12:14 PM

One of my aunties married a black man and my step-grandmother hated it.

I think gay people as a whole understand the effects of discrimination more and therefore are less likely to discriminate.

**EM68** · 8th May 2009, 12:18 PM

My first BF was African American and race was never an issue or ever brought up.

Mickey · 8th May 2009, 12:30 PM

I think the LGBT community is a very accepting group. I have to agree,WE KNOW what
discrimination is like.
My niece is married to a black man,and I couldn't care less. It's ALL about equality and
love is love.

8th May 2009, 12:32 PM

I think that we as gays see the hurt that discrimination can cause, and for the most part try to avoid doing it. My mom is dating a black man, and I would never think twice about it. A person is a person- sometimes I think that people forget about that.

boy0boy · 8th May 2009, 02:02 PM

While the LGBT community can sympathize with issues of acceptance, I really have to go with the middle of the road on this one. I mean percentage wise LGBT's are pretty low compared to the rest of the world and I know of instances where a gay guy has said, "I'm not attracted to/ I wouldn't date a ________" So really I think it's pretty even.

I'd like to hope that EVERYONE is getting past the stigma of being in an interracial relationship.

No One · 8th May 2009, 02:09 PM

Yea i dont know bu i know it depends on the household i mean like my parents would be fine if i dated a black girl but my grandparents wouldn't be. I remember once at christmas my grandma said to my aunt who was dating a black guy "if your going to marry him wait until my parents die i mean i dont like it and they would have a heart attack!" i was like =O

Wander · 8th May 2009, 02:28 PM

I would like to think that LGBT people have a broader sense of acceptance for people outside their own characteristics, but it's not always the case. On the average, though, I can say that I'm more accepting of interracial couples than most straight people I know.

djt820 · 8th May 2009, 03:58 PM

My white grandmother married my black step-grandfather.
Why is this an issue? People should love who they love. Regardless of anything else.

Cheria · 8th May 2009, 04:25 PM

I say just a tad more because we'd likely know what it's like to be discriminated.
Just a tad, though.

Just Adam · 8th May 2009, 04:31 PM

i think lgbt people are more accepting as we know what the recieving ends like but interacial i think is pretty much accepted across the board apart from some extremist places but then all things are there.

Crackajack · 8th May 2009, 04:34 PM

I clicked yes simply because i hope we do.

**Lexington** · 8th May 2009, 05:27 PM

I can only speak for gay men (not lesbians or bisexuals), but from what I've seen, I'd say we accept it LESS than straight people. Or, at least, we're more likely to be vocal about it. "Why are you going out with HIM?"

Lex

Dazed · 8th May 2009, 05:30 PM

i would like to hope we accept it more. but i have noticed that most my gay guy friends avoid dating a different race.

Alex19 · 8th May 2009, 05:51 PM

wow, theres some really good comments on here! personally, i would not have a prob with dating someone outside my race. i kind of think the differences would b kinda cool, ya know? but there would have to b similarities too (although that would most likely b on a personal level- not racial)

Bryan44 · 8th May 2009, 07:56 PM

Um well my mom is white and my dad is black so throughout my life I have seen people who have not liked my family because of this, but when it comes to whether gays accept it more or not i really cant say.

DexterMorgan · 8th May 2009, 07:59 PM

I think it's the same as straight people.

And I'm not racist or anything...I just don't find black men attractive...

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8th May 2009, 11:21 AM	#1
Alex19 who else but me? Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: homo Out Status: I think everyone knows by now Location: New York Age: 21 Posts: 1,301 Join Date: Feb 2009	interracial relationships so, ive kinda been thinking and it seems that among the LGBT community, these kind of relationships are more widely accepted. of coarse, thats just what it looks like to me. i know there are many straight ppl who accept it, but it seems like less of a big deal to us. what do u think? __________________ "It's always darkest before dawn."

8th May 2009, 11:25 AM	#2
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: interracial relationships I don't know. Interracial marriages are very accepted here in Oregon by both straights and gays. __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

8th May 2009, 11:33 AM	#3
Amy DFTBA Full Member Gender: Somewhere between female and I don't know Out Status: Open, not out. Location: Northern California, United States Age: 18 Posts: 2,380 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: interracial relationships I think, that as a community, we do accept and tolerate more in general. __________________ "The opposite of love is not hate, but fear" Forrest Church

8th May 2009, 12:07 PM	#4
MusicIsLife EC Addict Full Member Gender: Not even sure anymore. Something in between. Orientation: I like girls :) Out Status: Everyone on orientation 7 people on trans issue. Location: Montréal, QC Age: 23 Posts: 1,595 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: interracial relationships I honestly have no idea. I mean i think it depends on where you live and how traditional the families involved are. I know that certain members of my family would shit a brick if one of my brothers dated someone black/asian/indian/native/etc. :/

8th May 2009, 12:14 PM	#5
Ben Was Invisible. EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 3,704 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: interracial relationships One of my aunties married a black man and my step-grandmother hated it. I think gay people as a whole understand the effects of discrimination more and therefore are less likely to discriminate.

8th May 2009, 12:18 PM	#6
EM68 Happily Married! :) EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about. Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 43 Posts: 4,288 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: interracial relationships My first BF was African American and race was never an issue or ever brought up. __________________ I'm beautiful in my way, 'Cause God makes no mistakes I'm on the right track, baby I was Born This Way -Lady Gaga

8th May 2009, 12:30 PM	#7
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: interracial relationships I think the LGBT community is a very accepting group. I have to agree,WE KNOW what discrimination is like. My niece is married to a black man,and I couldn't care less. It's ALL about equality and love is love. __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

8th May 2009, 12:32 PM	#8
Lacri Guest Posts: n/a	Re: interracial relationships I think that we as gays see the hurt that discrimination can cause, and for the most part try to avoid doing it. My mom is dating a black man, and I would never think twice about it. A person is a person- sometimes I think that people forget about that.

8th May 2009, 02:02 PM	#9
boy0boy the Lorax Full Member Gender: bro Orientation: I dig Dudes Out Status: outside the box Location: I wander often Age: 23 Posts: 254 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: interracial relationships While the LGBT community can sympathize with issues of acceptance, I really have to go with the middle of the road on this one. I mean percentage wise LGBT's are pretty low compared to the rest of the world and I know of instances where a gay guy has said, "I'm not attracted to/ I wouldn't date a ________" So really I think it's pretty even. I'd like to hope that EVERYONE is getting past the stigma of being in an interracial relationship. __________________ "I love you.... I've always felt that there was this unspoken connection between us, and ever since the first time I saw you and you were holding my favorite pop-tart."

8th May 2009, 02:09 PM	#10
No One Eternally Male Crazed! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Unofficially out to everyone but my family. Age: 18 Posts: 1,021 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: interracial relationships Yea i dont know bu i know it depends on the household i mean like my parents would be fine if i dated a black girl but my grandparents wouldn't be. I remember once at christmas my grandma said to my aunt who was dating a black guy "if your going to marry him wait until my parents die i mean i dont like it and they would have a heart attack!" i was like =O __________________

8th May 2009, 02:28 PM	#11
Wander Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Parents, aunts, grandma, counselor, online friends Location: Central Alabama Age: 18 Posts: 2,360 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: interracial relationships I would like to think that LGBT people have a broader sense of acceptance for people outside their own characteristics, but it's not always the case. On the average, though, I can say that I'm more accepting of interracial couples than most straight people I know.

8th May 2009, 03:58 PM	#12
djt820 Brutally Honest Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: DICKS EVERYWHERE Out Status: Like A Cock Slapping Your Face Kind-of Out. Location: SoCal Age: 19 Posts: 1,282 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: interracial relationships My white grandmother married my black step-grandfather. Why is this an issue? People should love who they love. Regardless of anything else. __________________

8th May 2009, 04:25 PM	#13
Cheria にひひっ♪ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost everyone Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 636 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: interracial relationships I say just a tad more because we'd likely know what it's like to be discriminated. Just a tad, though. __________________

8th May 2009, 04:31 PM	#14
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: interracial relationships i think lgbt people are more accepting as we know what the recieving ends like but interacial i think is pretty much accepted across the board apart from some extremist places but then all things are there. __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

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8th May 2009, 04:34 PM	#15
Crackajack K6 beats all. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone except dad. Location: Launceston. England. Age: 16 Posts: 206 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: interracial relationships I clicked yes simply because i hope we do. __________________ "I'm not homophobic, I hate everyone...." - unknown

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Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: interracial relationships I can only speak for gay men (not lesbians or bisexuals), but from what I've seen, I'd say we accept it LESS than straight people. Or, at least, we're more likely to be vocal about it. "Why are you going out with HIM?" Lex

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Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: interracial relationships i would like to hope we accept it more. but i have noticed that most my gay guy friends avoid dating a different race.

8th May 2009, 05:51 PM	#18
Alex19 who else but me? Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: homo Out Status: I think everyone knows by now Location: New York Age: 21 Posts: 1,301 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: interracial relationships wow, theres some really good comments on here! personally, i would not have a prob with dating someone outside my race. i kind of think the differences would b kinda cool, ya know? but there would have to b similarities too (although that would most likely b on a personal level- not racial) __________________ "It's always darkest before dawn."

8th May 2009, 07:56 PM	#19
Bryan44 Dork Full Member Gender: Male Location: Georgia (the state) Posts: 2,065 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: interracial relationships Um well my mom is white and my dad is black so throughout my life I have seen people who have not liked my family because of this, but when it comes to whether gays accept it more or not i really cant say.

8th May 2009, 07:59 PM	#20
DexterMorgan The Lonely Stoner Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Santa Monica, CA, USA Age: 18 Posts: 657 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: interracial relationships I think it's the same as straight people. And I'm not racist or anything...I just don't find black men attractive... __________________ Closets are for clothes; not me.