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23rd May 2009, 06:38 PM

i love my mates but in a bar right now and he's all the time constant like those birds are hot and i'm like thinking no there not! I'm gay! Sorry just had to vent...

**Lexington** · 23rd May 2009, 06:47 PM

Just wonder out loud what their brothers look like.

Lex

silentsound · 23rd May 2009, 07:56 PM

for every girl he yells about loudly admire some guy's ass (assuming you're out to him...)

23rd May 2009, 08:05 PM

No, not out to him at all... He's one of my oldest mates since like primary school (o.m.g! 20 years near on, i'm so old! Lol)

23rd May 2009, 08:36 PM

I hate when they do that at work with customers. They act like the dog on that comercial who's being teased with bacon strips. Like "dogs dont know its not bacon" im watching going "bro dont know thats a man" lol. Entertaining untill awkward eyes look at me so I can share in the frenzy.

littledinosaurs · 23rd May 2009, 08:50 PM

sucks.
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tm74 · 24th May 2009, 06:08 AM

You have my sympathy - I had a similar experience last year while I was figuring myself out - me and two mates in a bar, and they were debating how hot they thought the women were... the fact that I just didn't see it was another clear sign! (I'm not out to either of them, even now)

Just Adam · 24th May 2009, 06:13 AM

i get this all the time i just say meh and go back to my pint

Apocalypte · 24th May 2009, 06:18 AM

One of my straight female friends is like that, she's always commenting on the guys she likes, but if I dare to mention a hot girl, I get a deathglare.

Just Adam · 24th May 2009, 06:23 AM

^ you get deathglare i jsut feel like dieing as they all say hey theres a nice guy for you ... i aint out and all i get is abuse for like 20 mins

George · 24th May 2009, 06:28 AM

When my friends do that I just start talking about guys and when they give me the looks of death I just say "hey I'm just doing what you're doing.." and after a while they get the idea.

riddlerno1 · 24th May 2009, 06:29 AM

Im now out to all my mates so its not a problem....they just dont ask me!! However, when i wasnt they would ask and id be like' yeah shes ok' or 'shes pretty'. its only now i am told them that im gay that they said my comments made actual sense because i was commenting without any conviction as opposed to their comments of 'shes hot' or 'shes fit'.

**Lexington** · 24th May 2009, 07:18 AM

If you're not out to him, maybe he was doing some fishing? Any chance of you coming out to him?

Lex

24th May 2009, 08:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by riddlerno1

Im now out to all my mates so its not a problem....they just dont ask me!! However, when i wasnt they would ask and id be like' yeah shes ok' or 'shes pretty'. its only now i am told them that im gay that they said my comments made actual sense because i was commenting without any conviction as opposed to their comments of 'shes hot' or 'shes fit'.

Yeah That sounds exactly like me last night :-)
Don't think he was "fishing" he's just totally a horn demon when he's had a drink, anything in a short skirt and low top and he's panting like a mongrel lol!

**Filip** · 24th May 2009, 09:14 AM

I'm always amazed at how my straight friends seem to have a sixth sense to see hot women at the other side of a crowded street while I can't even notice them when they're standing next to me.

On the other hand they sometimes comment on how I'm staring into thin air. I'd say that the staring part is right, but not the thin air part

So I'm assuming they're just as blind to hot guys as I am to hot women.

redsapphire · 24th May 2009, 09:16 AM

Its just an idea, but if he's been your friend since primary school, you could consider coming out to him.
If you've been friends for that long then I doubt he would freak out over it, he clearly values your friendship.

Daniel · 24th May 2009, 09:24 AM

I have one straight male friend and he has a girlfriend and is really loyal. Everyone else checks out guys with me.

Although it is really awkward how my female friends ex boyfriends hit on me. I can never tell my friends about my day on occasion.

gaius · 24th May 2009, 09:27 AM

It seems to me, like said above, that he could be an ideal person to come out to so you don't have to lie to him, i'm in the lucky position now where friends know and, because i have also been known to observe the ladies, they tend to ask me what i think, because they know if i like her too then she's something very special! maybe could be worth the coming out to this friend and saying you can appreciate that shes hot but your not interested?

23rd May 2009, 06:38 PM	#1
ELusiveMuse Guest Posts: n/a	Straight mates... i love my mates but in a bar right now and he's all the time constant like those birds are hot and i'm like thinking no there not! I'm gay! Sorry just had to vent...

23rd May 2009, 06:47 PM	#2
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Straight mates... Just wonder out loud what their brothers look like. Lex

23rd May 2009, 07:56 PM	#3
silentsound Flaming Thespian Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: most people Age: 18 Posts: 2,253 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Straight mates... for every girl he yells about loudly admire some guy's ass (assuming you're out to him...) __________________ ...and I can't wait to figure out what's *wrong* with me, so I can say 'this is the way I [used] to be'

23rd May 2009, 08:05 PM	#4
ELusiveMuse Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Straight mates... No, not out to him at all... He's one of my oldest mates since like primary school (o.m.g! 20 years near on, i'm so old! Lol)

23rd May 2009, 08:36 PM	#5
Legnaj Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Straight mates... I hate when they do that at work with customers. They act like the dog on that comercial who's being teased with bacon strips. Like "dogs dont know its not bacon" im watching going "bro dont know thats a man" lol. Entertaining untill awkward eyes look at me so I can share in the frenzy.

23rd May 2009, 08:50 PM	#6
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Straight mates... sucks. :\ __________________ Âllo Là

24th May 2009, 06:08 AM	#7
tm74 Hug Whore Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: no immediate family - pretty much everyone else Location: Wales, UK Age: 38 Posts: 415 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Straight mates... You have my sympathy - I had a similar experience last year while I was figuring myself out - me and two mates in a bar, and they were debating how hot they thought the women were... the fact that I just didn't see it was another clear sign! (I'm not out to either of them, even now) __________________ "Free your secrets to free yourself"

24th May 2009, 06:13 AM	#8
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Straight mates... i get this all the time i just say meh and go back to my pint __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

24th May 2009, 06:18 AM	#9
Apocalypte Ytse Jamming. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 27 Posts: 2,217 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Straight mates... One of my straight female friends is like that, she's always commenting on the guys she likes, but if I dare to mention a hot girl, I get a deathglare. __________________ "I like my beer cold...my TV loud...and my homosexuals flaming." - Homer Simpson

24th May 2009, 06:23 AM	#10
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Straight mates... ^ you get deathglare i jsut feel like dieing as they all say hey theres a nice guy for you ... i aint out and all i get is abuse for like 20 mins __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

24th May 2009, 06:28 AM	#11
George Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 2,387 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Straight mates... When my friends do that I just start talking about guys and when they give me the looks of death I just say "hey I'm just doing what you're doing.." and after a while they get the idea.

24th May 2009, 06:29 AM	#12
riddlerno1 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: London Age: 29 Posts: 712 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Straight mates... Im now out to all my mates so its not a problem....they just dont ask me!! However, when i wasnt they would ask and id be like' yeah shes ok' or 'shes pretty'. its only now i am told them that im gay that they said my comments made actual sense because i was commenting without any conviction as opposed to their comments of 'shes hot' or 'shes fit'.

24th May 2009, 07:18 AM	#13
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Straight mates... If you're not out to him, maybe he was doing some fishing? Any chance of you coming out to him? Lex

24th May 2009, 09:14 AM	#15
Filip Cecile's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but extended family Location: Belgium, EU Age: 28 Posts: 3,366 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Straight mates... I'm always amazed at how my straight friends seem to have a sixth sense to see hot women at the other side of a crowded street while I can't even notice them when they're standing next to me. On the other hand they sometimes comment on how I'm staring into thin air. I'd say that the staring part is right, but not the thin air part So I'm assuming they're just as blind to hot guys as I am to hot women. __________________ To the world, you're somebody, but to somebody, you're the world...

24th May 2009, 09:16 AM	#16
redsapphire EC's resident witch Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Wow Mama Out Status: most except family Location: Bonny Lingland Age: 20 Posts: 877 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Straight mates... Its just an idea, but if he's been your friend since primary school, you could consider coming out to him. If you've been friends for that long then I doubt he would freak out over it, he clearly values your friendship. __________________ *Don't Bend, Don't Break, Baby Don't Back Down...*

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24th May 2009, 09:24 AM	#17
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Straight mates... I have one straight male friend and he has a girlfriend and is really loyal. Everyone else checks out guys with me. Although it is really awkward how my female friends ex boyfriends hit on me. I can never tell my friends about my day on occasion. __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

24th May 2009, 09:27 AM	#18
gaius EC's Geordie Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi/gay Out Status: Out to friends, family and anyone who wants to kno Location: Lancaster University Age: 22 Posts: 397 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Straight mates... It seems to me, like said above, that he could be an ideal person to come out to so you don't have to lie to him, i'm in the lucky position now where friends know and, because i have also been known to observe the ladies, they tend to ask me what i think, because they know if i like her too then she's something very special! maybe could be worth the coming out to this friend and saying you can appreciate that shes hot but your not interested? __________________ "Life happens without warning"