i love my mates but in a bar right now and he's all the time constant like those birds are hot and i'm like thinking no there not! I'm gay! Sorry just had to vent...
No, not out to him at all... He's one of my oldest mates since like primary school (o.m.g! 20 years near on, i'm so old! Lol)
I hate when they do that at work with customers. They act like the dog on that comercial who's being teased with bacon strips. Like "dogs dont know its not bacon" im watching going "bro dont know thats a man" lol. Entertaining untill awkward eyes look at me so I can share in the frenzy.
You have my sympathy - I had a similar experience last year while I was figuring myself out - me and two mates in a bar, and they were debating how hot they thought the women were... the fact that I just didn't see it was another clear sign! (I'm not out to either of them, even now)
One of my straight female friends is like that, she's always commenting on the guys she likes, but if I dare to mention a hot girl, I get a deathglare.
^ you get deathglare i jsut feel like dieing as they all say hey theres a nice guy for you ... i aint out and all i get is abuse for like 20 mins
When my friends do that I just start talking about guys and when they give me the looks of death I just say "hey I'm just doing what you're doing.." and after a while they get the idea.
Im now out to all my mates so its not a problem....they just dont ask me!! However, when i wasnt they would ask and id be like' yeah shes ok' or 'shes pretty'. its only now i am told them that im gay that they said my comments made actual sense because i was commenting without any conviction as opposed to their comments of 'shes hot' or 'shes fit'.
Yeah That sounds exactly like me last night Don't think he was "fishing" he's just totally a horn demon when he's had a drink, anything in a short skirt and low top and he's panting like a mongrel lol!
I'm always amazed at how my straight friends seem to have a sixth sense to see hot women at the other side of a crowded street while I can't even notice them when they're standing next to me. On the other hand they sometimes comment on how I'm staring into thin air. I'd say that the staring part is right, but not the thin air part So I'm assuming they're just as blind to hot guys as I am to hot women.
Its just an idea, but if he's been your friend since primary school, you could consider coming out to him. If you've been friends for that long then I doubt he would freak out over it, he clearly values your friendship.
I have one straight male friend and he has a girlfriend and is really loyal. Everyone else checks out guys with me. Although it is really awkward how my female friends ex boyfriends hit on me. I can never tell my friends about my day on occasion.
It seems to me, like said above, that he could be an ideal person to come out to so you don't have to lie to him, i'm in the lucky position now where friends know and, because i have also been known to observe the ladies, they tend to ask me what i think, because they know if i like her too then she's something very special! maybe could be worth the coming out to this friend and saying you can appreciate that shes hot but your not interested?
