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rainemc · 26th May 2009, 04:36 PM

What is a crush? Plain and simple. I don't know if I've ever had a crush. Is having a good conversation and wanting to talk a lot to that person a crush even though It's non sexual? Feel free to answer both questions or only one. Thanks!

gaius · 26th May 2009, 04:40 PM

it's someone who is more special to you than everyone else, you like them more than a friend

Shevanel · 26th May 2009, 04:58 PM

Someone you could see yourself with and desire that? I think the definition of crush is varies often.

littledinosaurs · 26th May 2009, 05:03 PM

it's that thing i have on joey. :X
hahahahaha

A crush is usually when you want someone for some reason (know or unknown) and you do not have to have a good relation with that person. It can be with anyone who catches your eye/interest. They also have a varied life.

pirateninja · 26th May 2009, 05:11 PM

You know you have a crush on someone...

....if when you faceplant in front of them you go bright red...

...and THEN when they come over to see if you're okay, you faint..... into their arms....

.... deliberately.

silentsound · 26th May 2009, 05:14 PM

It doesn't have to be consumed with sexuality, although that is often a little part of it. It's that feeling that you just want to be close to someone. Like you want to be their friend, but you want a deeper kind of friendship. Like you would like nothing more than to just sit all day with that person and just talk. Like all you want is time to get to know him or her and see what makes him or her tick. You want to get in rhythm with him or her. You just want to see and think and breathe him or her. You feel close to him or her and think about that closeness all the time. You want to live in that state of closeness just sitting next to the person forever.

To me, that's a crush, but I guess everyone has their own definition?

Thisisnew · 26th May 2009, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by silentsound

It doesn't have to be consumed with sexuality, although that is often a little part of it. It's that feeling that you just want to be close to someone. Like you want to be their friend, but you want a deeper kind of friendship. Like you would like nothing more than to just sit all day with that person and just talk. Like all you want is time to get to know him or her and see what makes him or her tick. You want to get in rhythm with him or her. You just want to see and think and breathe him or her. You feel close to him or her and think about that closeness all the time. You want to live in that state of closeness just sitting next to the person forever.

To me, that's a crush, but I guess everyone has their own definition?

Wow if that doesnt define a crush then I don't know what does.

George · 26th May 2009, 05:52 PM

I reckon a crush is when you want to get into someone's pants.

For example, using this definition, I could say I have a crush on Tyler, Joey, David, Chris, and the list goes on.. lol.

Dazed · 26th May 2009, 06:07 PM

a crush to me is this.

a liking of a person that you feel yo have no chance with. and when you feel you have no chance you are CRUSHed.

GoBabyGoGo · 27th May 2009, 02:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Gin Uh Fur

a crush to me is this.

a liking of a person that you feel yo have no chance with. and when you feel you have no chance you are CRUSHed.

^ ^ the story of my life

Swamp56 · 27th May 2009, 02:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Polyamorous

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gin Uh Fur

a crush to me is this.

a liking of a person that you feel yo have no chance with. and when you feel you have no chance you are CRUSHed.

^ ^ the story of my life

Ditto

malachite · 27th May 2009, 06:40 AM

Well, in my XP there are two kinds of crushes.
The first is purely a physically attraction. Someone walks into a room the lights seems to dim everywhere else expect around him. Your heart starts to thump and you feel a warm shiver.

The other is a kind of “Oh, my God I think I this person” kind of crush. These seem to develop over time (either short or long). Maybe you hang out with someone and find you have a lot I common and start to feel an attraction. Or maybe you never hung out you just start feeling like you want to get to know this person.

I’ve both kinds of crushes and I think the second is the most torturous.

This leads me to a new thought, sometimes I hate pretty people.

carrie90 · 27th May 2009, 12:14 PM

To me a crush is that one special person who no matter how much you try you can't stop thinking about. That one person who drives you totally crazy in a good way and you make a complete fool of yourself around (Thats probally just me lol). It someone who for one reason or another stands out from everybody else cause they are special to you. Thats my definition anyway everybody has different ones

26th May 2009, 04:36 PM	#1
rainemc Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not sure (still trying to figure it out) Out Status: Mom, friends, slowly coming out to school : ) Location: near new york city (new jersey) Age: 18 Posts: 192 Join Date: Dec 2008	What is a crush? What is a crush? Plain and simple. I don't know if I've ever had a crush. Is having a good conversation and wanting to talk a lot to that person a crush even though It's non sexual? Feel free to answer both questions or only one. Thanks!

26th May 2009, 04:40 PM	#2
gaius EC's Geordie Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi/gay Out Status: Out to friends, family and anyone who wants to kno Location: Lancaster University Age: 22 Posts: 397 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: What is a crush? it's someone who is more special to you than everyone else, you like them more than a friend __________________ "Life happens without warning"

26th May 2009, 04:58 PM	#3
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: What is a crush? Someone you could see yourself with and desire that? I think the definition of crush is varies often. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

26th May 2009, 05:03 PM	#4
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: What is a crush? it's that thing i have on joey. :X hahahahaha A crush is usually when you want someone for some reason (know or unknown) and you do not have to have a good relation with that person. It can be with anyone who catches your eye/interest. They also have a varied life. __________________ Âllo Là

26th May 2009, 05:11 PM	#5
pirateninja EC's Sailor Uranus Full Member Gender: Biologically Female Orientation: Heterosexually Challenged Out Status: Most people Location: Bath, England Age: 21 Posts: 5,853 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: What is a crush? You know you have a crush on someone... ....if when you faceplant in front of them you go bright red... ...and THEN when they come over to see if you're okay, you faint..... into their arms.... .... deliberately. __________________ Holly the Pirateninja Ars Longa, Vita Brevis.

26th May 2009, 05:14 PM	#6
silentsound Flaming Thespian Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: most people Age: 18 Posts: 2,253 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: What is a crush? It doesn't have to be consumed with sexuality, although that is often a little part of it. It's that feeling that you just want to be close to someone. Like you want to be their friend, but you want a deeper kind of friendship. Like you would like nothing more than to just sit all day with that person and just talk. Like all you want is time to get to know him or her and see what makes him or her tick. You want to get in rhythm with him or her. You just want to see and think and breathe him or her. You feel close to him or her and think about that closeness all the time. You want to live in that state of closeness just sitting next to the person forever. To me, that's a crush, but I guess everyone has their own definition? __________________ ...and I can't wait to figure out what's *wrong* with me, so I can say 'this is the way I [used] to be'

26th May 2009, 05:52 PM	#8
George Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 2,387 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: What is a crush? I reckon a crush is when you want to get into someone's pants. For example, using this definition, I could say I have a crush on Tyler, Joey, David, Chris, and the list goes on.. lol.

26th May 2009, 06:07 PM	#9
Dazed Banned Gender: ladyfella Orientation: MaddyBensexual Out Status: out to all :] Location: Richmond VA Age: 24 Posts: 2,189 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: What is a crush? a crush to me is this. a liking of a person that you feel yo have no chance with. and when you feel you have no chance you are CRUSHed.

27th May 2009, 06:40 AM	#12
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: What is a crush? Well, in my XP there are two kinds of crushes. The first is purely a physically attraction. Someone walks into a room the lights seems to dim everywhere else expect around him. Your heart starts to thump and you feel a warm shiver. The other is a kind of “Oh, my God I think I this person” kind of crush. These seem to develop over time (either short or long). Maybe you hang out with someone and find you have a lot I common and start to feel an attraction. Or maybe you never hung out you just start feeling like you want to get to know this person. I’ve both kinds of crushes and I think the second is the most torturous. This leads me to a new thought, sometimes I hate pretty people.

27th May 2009, 12:14 PM	#13
carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: What is a crush? To me a crush is that one special person who no matter how much you try you can't stop thinking about. That one person who drives you totally crazy in a good way and you make a complete fool of yourself around (Thats probally just me lol). It someone who for one reason or another stands out from everybody else cause they are special to you. Thats my definition anyway everybody has different ones __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

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