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theworld · 29th May 2009, 09:44 AM

^?

I'm still waiting for it all to go away and was wondering how long it 'normally' takes you to stop thinking about him/her in that way.?

partietraumatic · 29th May 2009, 09:56 AM

with my ex it took me a rediculously long time,like 6/7 months before i was completely over him. But then again he was my first boyfriend,first kiss,first everything else,so that probably added more time than is normal i guess...

Psychedelic Bookmarks · 29th May 2009, 11:09 AM

There can be a lot of variation. My brother was with his first proper girlfriend for over 2 years, and when they broke up, he was definately still in the dumps a year later. But that's a lot longer than would be average for a less significant relationship.

Just Adam · 29th May 2009, 12:00 PM

i never forget someone as i learn from each experience so i take that with me.

revolutionrock · 29th May 2009, 12:51 PM

It took me months to get over my crush, and then it was gone in about a second.

**Eleanor Rigby** · 29th May 2009, 12:57 PM

It depends on people and on the relationship I guess.
I haven't been in that situation for a long time, it took me a year to be over the guy I was with before my husband.
And it took me 3 years to heal from my first crush, but thing were slightly different since we were not a couple but friends and that he died a very brutal way.
It took 2 years for my best friend to recover from her six years of relationship after her boyfriend had dumped her.
I wish you all the best, take care, Eleanor

George · 30th May 2009, 03:58 AM

It took me a good year to get over a crush I had.. It varies from person to person and from situation to situation.

Callie · 30th May 2009, 05:27 AM

I´m still not over my crush I´ve had for over five years now (I know eleven seems a little young, but it´s true). The last two years I´ve been trying really hard, I don´t think I´ll ever be over her.

WhiteFox · 31st May 2009, 02:21 AM

Me personally my first BF was about 10 months ago. He turned out to be a complete ass but every single time a certain song comes on my ipod I cant help but think of all the good moments we had. I'm over him but ask for jus thinking back and getting a little sad, im not sure if that ever truly goes away

Fox

Stuie · 31st May 2009, 06:49 AM

I seem to be getting better and better at getting over people, last crush was 3 days.

However, I do wish I did have someone to get more emotionally attached to.

But someone will come along someday.

twixy30 · 31st May 2009, 08:50 AM

it does take time they take a peice of you when they walk out that door and walk away just hang in there it does get better over time. it just depends on how deep the relasionship was to see how long it would take to get over them good luck my friend

China33 · 1st Jun 2009, 05:53 AM

I wish you all the best, take care, Eleanor

Mind Freak · 2nd Jun 2009, 03:05 PM

Hmm. Maybe a couple months if I really liked the person and got screwed over. If I liked the person and we both decided it was time for us to stop seeing each other then a couple of days. And if I never got the chance to explore the crush then maybe a few months.

I get over them all eventually though I think.

Scentedcandle · 2nd Jun 2009, 04:05 PM

For me its been like 6months in the making and im nowere close to geting there. The thing is were wernt even together cause she was straight she just walked into my life and for some reason turn everything upside down. These no set time just as long as it takes you, goodluck

4th Jun 2009, 06:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Callie

I´m still not over my crush I´ve had for over five years now (I know eleven seems a little young, but it´s true). The last two years I´ve been trying really hard, I don´t think I´ll ever be over her.

I think I'm much the same going on 6 years this year and its getting really hard to get over him but i'm hoping the feeling will erode eventually

Jose Carioca · 4th Jun 2009, 08:07 PM

It takes me about 3 months to get over most of my crushes. Though, there are usually some residual feelings that never go away. Then again, crushes are so frequent I'm never really free from them!

ok455 · 4th Jun 2009, 10:57 PM

it Depends on the crush how strong or weak it is. My last major crush was my senior year this guy was amazing. It seems like these days every time i have a crush on a guy something turns me off about them

I never been in a relationship i had a friend i messed with for a few years on and off and when it became off for good i got over it quickly i figured we both had to move on our lives he was my first for everything even virginity.

A rant i just can not stand people who happiness is from being in a relationship and when they break up with someone they get so depressed they shut down the whole world from them. And they get in those back to back relationships they don't take a breather its like they have to be in a relationship at all times to be happy

29th May 2009, 09:44 AM	#1
theworld Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oregon Age: 21 Posts: 209 Join Date: Jan 2009	how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? ^? I'm still waiting for it all to go away and was wondering how long it 'normally' takes you to stop thinking about him/her in that way.?

29th May 2009, 09:56 AM	#2
partietraumatic A gay heteropolitan? Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Enough for now Location: Oxford and Birmingham, UK Age: 20 Posts: 1,300 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? with my ex it took me a rediculously long time,like 6/7 months before i was completely over him. But then again he was my first boyfriend,first kiss,first everything else,so that probably added more time than is normal i guess... __________________ 'Im not your toy and this isn't another girl meets boy'

29th May 2009, 11:09 AM	#3
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? There can be a lot of variation. My brother was with his first proper girlfriend for over 2 years, and when they broke up, he was definately still in the dumps a year later. But that's a lot longer than would be average for a less significant relationship. __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

29th May 2009, 12:00 PM	#4
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? i never forget someone as i learn from each experience so i take that with me. __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

29th May 2009, 12:51 PM	#5
revolutionrock Diggin' the obviousness. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Arizona Age: 21 Posts: 246 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? It took me months to get over my crush, and then it was gone in about a second.

29th May 2009, 12:57 PM	#6
Eleanor Rigby Filip's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out as straight ally Location: France Age: 32 Posts: 5,400 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? It depends on people and on the relationship I guess. I haven't been in that situation for a long time, it took me a year to be over the guy I was with before my husband. And it took me 3 years to heal from my first crush, but thing were slightly different since we were not a couple but friends and that he died a very brutal way. It took 2 years for my best friend to recover from her six years of relationship after her boyfriend had dumped her. I wish you all the best, take care, Eleanor __________________ "Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of another, always at the same time as an end and never simply as a means." Immanuel Kant

30th May 2009, 03:58 AM	#7
George Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 2,387 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? It took me a good year to get over a crush I had.. It varies from person to person and from situation to situation.

30th May 2009, 05:27 AM	#8
Callie Yes. Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Kinsey 4 Out Status: Not out at all Location: Sweden Age: 19 Posts: 526 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? I´m still not over my crush I´ve had for over five years now (I know eleven seems a little young, but it´s true). The last two years I´ve been trying really hard, I don´t think I´ll ever be over her.

31st May 2009, 02:21 AM	#9
WhiteFox Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but some family Location: Az Lake Havasu Age: 22 Posts: 231 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? Me personally my first BF was about 10 months ago. He turned out to be a complete ass but every single time a certain song comes on my ipod I cant help but think of all the good moments we had. I'm over him but ask for jus thinking back and getting a little sad, im not sure if that ever truly goes away Fox

31st May 2009, 06:49 AM	#10
Stuie Hugs - $POA Full Member Gender: e^(πi) +1 = 0 Orientation: Schnoo Out Status: Moo Cow Location: Canberra, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 1,463 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? I seem to be getting better and better at getting over people, last crush was 3 days. However, I do wish I did have someone to get more emotionally attached to. But someone will come along someday. __________________ STRAAAAAAAAAAAWURUWERT AND THE LESBIANS! MADDATRON3000X's (Maddy) Fag Hag Loves Pauline in the form of the equation f(x): (-∞,2) -> R, 2^-x

31st May 2009, 08:50 AM	#11
twixy30 finding myself Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: ok i think i got this now i REALLY like GIRLS yeah Out Status: more people then i thought i would tell & EC Location: Dallas, texas Age: 34 Posts: 316 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? it does take time they take a peice of you when they walk out that door and walk away just hang in there it does get better over time. it just depends on how deep the relasionship was to see how long it would take to get over them good luck my friend __________________ we are special in our own way! never let anyone tell you your notTwix

1st Jun 2009, 05:53 AM	#12
China33 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Location: CHINA Posts: 33 Join Date: May 2009	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? I wish you all the best, take care, Eleanor

2nd Jun 2009, 03:05 PM	#13
Mind Freak Hey y'all (It's a southern thang);D Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Uh? Bi! Out Status: HOLY COW [at least 10] WHOLE PEOPLE! ;) Age: 19 Posts: 755 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? Hmm. Maybe a couple months if I really liked the person and got screwed over. If I liked the person and we both decided it was time for us to stop seeing each other then a couple of days. And if I never got the chance to explore the crush then maybe a few months. I get over them all eventually though I think. __________________

2nd Jun 2009, 04:05 PM	#14
Scentedcandle Member Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: New Zealand Age: 21 Posts: 71 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? For me its been like 6months in the making and im nowere close to geting there. The thing is were wernt even together cause she was straight she just walked into my life and for some reason turn everything upside down. These no set time just as long as it takes you, goodluck

4th Jun 2009, 08:07 PM	#16
Jose Carioca 1/3 of the Three Caballeros Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: M/M Out Status: A few people Location: San Diego Age: 20 Posts: 287 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? It takes me about 3 months to get over most of my crushes. Though, there are usually some residual feelings that never go away. Then again, crushes are so frequent I'm never really free from them!

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ok455 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Can't tell L!O!L Age: 24 Posts: 437 Join Date: May 2005	Re: how long to forget ex, crush, etc...? it Depends on the crush how strong or weak it is. My last major crush was my senior year this guy was amazing. It seems like these days every time i have a crush on a guy something turns me off about them I never been in a relationship i had a friend i messed with for a few years on and off and when it became off for good i got over it quickly i figured we both had to move on our lives he was my first for everything even virginity. A rant i just can not stand people who happiness is from being in a relationship and when they break up with someone they get so depressed they shut down the whole world from them. And they get in those back to back relationships they don't take a breather its like they have to be in a relationship at all times to be happy __________________ http://209.50.252.116/smile.gif Last edited by ok455; 4th Jun 2009 at 11:02 PM..