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A little gift for the people who hate the term "partner"

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by thebikelady, Jun 3, 2009.

  1. thebikelady

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    Lawl <3333333333333333333
     
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    I about died when I read this a while ago. hahahaha
     
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    so funny and true! when i get a bf, im gonna call him just that- everything else is stupid and demeaning.
     
  5. Lmao. "This is my lover, Cindy." Dawn Denbo ftl. That article is sooo true though.
     
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    Lol you know what's funny, for some odd reason the other day, I was watching Oprah with my mom. And that Dr. Oz dude was on it. First off, it was probably the most awkward thing i've watched with my mom because they were talking about sex and shit. But the main part was when my mom was like, "yeah he's getting his own show, him and his partner will be on it" and i thought "partner? like his boyfriend?" so I asked if he was gay and she was like "what? no i meant like his business partner or something, i don't know" so yeah. I don't like when words "steal" from other words -_-

    EDIT: and Yeah he IS straight btw
     
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    "Partner" is actually used by straight people about there relationships here o-o

    Maybe its just around me to make me feel "special"...but they seem to use it alot.
     
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    Ahaha, I <3 Dawn Denbo and her lover Cindy. I want to go as Dawn Denbo and find a Cindy for Halloween and see if anyone gets it. XD
    ANYWHO.
    I loved this. I hate the term 'partner' too, this was hilarious. XD
     
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    My Mom used to call her ex-boyfriend her partner all of the time. Not just gay people use it.
     
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    Partner is too easily misinterpreted as something else, like a business partner as stated in the article. American Beauty is a great example... this conversation as taken from imdb:

    Jim Olmeyer: And this is my partner Jim.
    Jim "JB" Berkely: Jim Berkely, but people call me J.B.
    [extends his hand to shake]
    Colonel Frank Fitts: Ah, let's just cut to it, what are you selling?
    Jim Olmeyer: Nothing, we just wanted to welcome you to the neighborhood.
    Colonel Frank Fitts: You said you're partners, so, uh what's your business?
    Jim Olmeyer: Well, he's a tax attorney.
    Jim "JB" Berkely: And he's an anesthesiologist.

    And my best friend who I just came out to on aim, asked if I had a partner, because he wanted to know if he was gonna be introduced when he came home (he lives in CA). It was his attempt at being politically correct, but it made me laugh.

    I've just always had it in my head that if I got serious with someone I'd refer to him as my 'boyfriend'. Not that gender neutral terms don't appeal to me, but in this case it eliminates confusion and as for myself (and my own personal choices and preferences) I'm attracted to men and masculinity, not androgyny or anything that would make sense for me to say 'partner'.
     
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    ^ I was just in West Palm Beach two days ago! Nice little town that is...
     
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    The man I love is my boyfriend, and at some point, he hopefully will be my husband. I actually correct people when they say partner.
     
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    I don't like the term "partner" either. It sounds way too formal.

    Whoever I end up with, I'm going to call them my boyfriend. It sounds so much more playful and fun.
     
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    what's wrong with using boyfriend or husband (regardless of how legal it is) like most people do - it avoids confusion

    and i've heard straight people use partner - i can't help but think they're ggay for a split second :slight_smile:
     
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    i personally dont like girlfriend or boyfriend as it sounds childish and non commital it reminds me of them school romances that started and ended withen the day no real love.
    i agree partner is boreing but its accurate.

    maybe i will be able to use the word husband one day... who knows


    you could introduce as this is my seme this is my uke....or this is my bitch that is my master who i dont deserve.... either way :slight_smile:
     
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    Who came up with the term partner? I'm pretty sure that person was not gay.

    I read that a while back, it's funny, but so true.


    I love the Dawn Denbo reference, even tho I hate Dawn Denbo, her lover Cindy on the other hand is just fine.
     
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    Why should we have to use a gender neutral term to describe our g/f or b/f? Just to make those intolerant pricks around us feel less uncomfortable? Or sound like more of a respectable couple?
    When I get a girlfriend she will be my girlfriend, not my partner, ewww that even sounds gross.
     
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    Partner makes me think partner in crime.
     
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    Ive never really had a problem with the term partner but i always just used girlfriend. Ive never introduced my other half as my partner. Straight ppl steal the word partner though so we must now use what they do in the L word "my lover cindy" :lol:
     
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    I never like the word Partner i agree with the article Partner sounds like your working together it sound dull and boring like your forced together or something. I will just call my future Boyfriend Boyfriend fiancés Husband.