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Tiny Catastrophe · 8th Jul 2009, 07:20 PM

i got so upset over losing someone i thought i loved and cared about and i thought she cared too. turns out she was just playing me and she basically wrote me off today. yea it hurt cuz i have trust issues but you know what i realized? she's not worth getting upset over cuz she's not a real friend. now i kind of think it's funny that i cared about her and thought that she was one of my best friends. i realized i can't get depressed over stuff i can't control and if it was meant to be, it was meant to be but it obviously wasn't so i just have to move on and deal with it. i still have my best friend and non blood related sister jamie and she has been a true friend to me and as long as i have her i can get through anything. friends come and go but family is here forever and she is definitely the sister i never had and that's one person i will always care about. main lesson i learned: people come and people go but the people who matter most stay with you through it all and there's no use crying over someone who doesn't really care.

8th Jul 2009, 07:53 PM

well sorry to hear about losing someone you thought you loved and cared. Anyway its good to hear you have people you can rely upon and will stick with you no matter what. Anyway sometime you will find someone that will return the love to you and you will feel the same and you will be very happy.

Tiny Catastrophe · 8th Jul 2009, 08:18 PM

yea but for now i have 2 people that are like sisters to me n that are always there for me when it feels like the world is coming crashing down and i wouldnt trade them for anything

silentsound · 8th Jul 2009, 09:34 PM

good for you, I myself have had to come to that realization in what sounds like a similar situation, and while I know it is tough I am glad to see you have come to the correct conclusion.

Tiny Catastrophe · 8th Jul 2009, 10:21 PM

yea its deff gunna be hard but theres quite a few ppl i know who have gone threw this so theyre helpin me get threw it. my 2 best friends cant fully understand where im comin from and thats where my friend zorn comes in cuz he's going threw a similar situation. my best friends jamie and alex still support me the best way they kno how and i couldnt make it threw without them

MyLife134 · 8th Jul 2009, 11:02 PM

Im sorry to hear that but im glad you aren't really bothered by it. I have trust issues too so i know how it must have felt.

Absentminded · 9th Jul 2009, 03:48 AM

I'm sorry to hear about that, but at least you realize who your real friends are. She just doesn't know what she's missing out on!

Tiny Catastrophe · 9th Jul 2009, 12:12 PM

its gunna take some time for me to get over being written off by someone i grew so attached to but im jus not going to let it get to me so much and with the support of my friends and people on ec i kno i can make it through

8th Jul 2009, 07:20 PM	#1
Tiny Catastrophe Love is genderless <3 Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 2 sisters, mom, friends, school Location: New Yorkish Age: 19 Posts: 863 Join Date: Jun 2009	i learned something important today and i can finally say i'm ok i got so upset over losing someone i thought i loved and cared about and i thought she cared too. turns out she was just playing me and she basically wrote me off today. yea it hurt cuz i have trust issues but you know what i realized? she's not worth getting upset over cuz she's not a real friend. now i kind of think it's funny that i cared about her and thought that she was one of my best friends. i realized i can't get depressed over stuff i can't control and if it was meant to be, it was meant to be but it obviously wasn't so i just have to move on and deal with it. i still have my best friend and non blood related sister jamie and she has been a true friend to me and as long as i have her i can get through anything. friends come and go but family is here forever and she is definitely the sister i never had and that's one person i will always care about. main lesson i learned: people come and people go but the people who matter most stay with you through it all and there's no use crying over someone who doesn't really care. __________________ Sometimes pain becomes such a huge part of your life that you expect it to always be there. Because you cant remember a time in your life when it wasnt but then one day you feel something else. Something that feels wrong, only because its so unfamiliar. Then in that moment you realize you're happy.

8th Jul 2009, 07:53 PM	#2
dude99 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: i learned something important today and i can finally say i'm ok well sorry to hear about losing someone you thought you loved and cared. Anyway its good to hear you have people you can rely upon and will stick with you no matter what. Anyway sometime you will find someone that will return the love to you and you will feel the same and you will be very happy.

8th Jul 2009, 08:18 PM	#3
Tiny Catastrophe Love is genderless <3 Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 2 sisters, mom, friends, school Location: New Yorkish Age: 19 Posts: 863 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: i learned something important today and i can finally say i'm ok yea but for now i have 2 people that are like sisters to me n that are always there for me when it feels like the world is coming crashing down and i wouldnt trade them for anything __________________ Sometimes pain becomes such a huge part of your life that you expect it to always be there. Because you cant remember a time in your life when it wasnt but then one day you feel something else. Something that feels wrong, only because its so unfamiliar. Then in that moment you realize you're happy.

8th Jul 2009, 09:34 PM	#4
silentsound Flaming Thespian Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: most people Age: 18 Posts: 2,253 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: i learned something important today and i can finally say i'm ok good for you, I myself have had to come to that realization in what sounds like a similar situation, and while I know it is tough I am glad to see you have come to the correct conclusion. __________________ ...and I can't wait to figure out what's *wrong* with me, so I can say 'this is the way I [used] to be'

8th Jul 2009, 10:21 PM	#5
Tiny Catastrophe Love is genderless <3 Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 2 sisters, mom, friends, school Location: New Yorkish Age: 19 Posts: 863 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: i learned something important today and i can finally say i'm ok yea its deff gunna be hard but theres quite a few ppl i know who have gone threw this so theyre helpin me get threw it. my 2 best friends cant fully understand where im comin from and thats where my friend zorn comes in cuz he's going threw a similar situation. my best friends jamie and alex still support me the best way they kno how and i couldnt make it threw without them __________________ Sometimes pain becomes such a huge part of your life that you expect it to always be there. Because you cant remember a time in your life when it wasnt but then one day you feel something else. Something that feels wrong, only because its so unfamiliar. Then in that moment you realize you're happy.

8th Jul 2009, 11:02 PM	#6
MyLife134 Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Location: Marietta Age: 18 Posts: 40 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: i learned something important today and i can finally say i'm ok Im sorry to hear that but im glad you aren't really bothered by it. I have trust issues too so i know how it must have felt. __________________ Instead of looking only for what you want, try looking for what you deserve.

9th Jul 2009, 03:48 AM	#7
Absentminded EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: I'm a ladies kind of guy ;) Out Status: I flirt in public. Take a guess ;) Location: Vermont Age: 19 Posts: 546 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: i learned something important today and i can finally say i'm ok I'm sorry to hear about that, but at least you realize who your real friends are. She just doesn't know what she's missing out on!

9th Jul 2009, 12:12 PM	#8
Tiny Catastrophe Love is genderless <3 Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: 2 sisters, mom, friends, school Location: New Yorkish Age: 19 Posts: 863 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: i learned something important today and i can finally say i'm ok its gunna take some time for me to get over being written off by someone i grew so attached to but im jus not going to let it get to me so much and with the support of my friends and people on ec i kno i can make it through __________________ Sometimes pain becomes such a huge part of your life that you expect it to always be there. Because you cant remember a time in your life when it wasnt but then one day you feel something else. Something that feels wrong, only because its so unfamiliar. Then in that moment you realize you're happy.

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