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Psychedelic Bookmarks · 15th Jul 2009, 09:07 AM

I'd like to do a little survey of the EC bisexuals to see what your feelings about your bisexuality are. Whether it makes you feel guilty, worried or conflicted in any way. I know quite a lot of people don't like to identify as bisexual per se, but anybody who recognises they have some measure of romantic/sexual attraction towards both sexes is welcome to take part, regardless of whether they call themselves bisexual.

Also, I better point out that some of the options must be chosen in tandem. For example, if you are a man and tick "My homosexual attraction", you must logically also choose "My attraction to men".

Thanks for responding!

Étoile · 15th Jul 2009, 09:27 AM

I think my difficulty with being bisexual is my attraction to the opposite sex. I'm not comfortable with dating a girl. It'd feel...awkward. LOL See, I tell everyone I'm gay because I don't want to have sex or be in a relationship with a woman, I'm just attracted to them. I seem to be much more attracted to guys and I dream of falling in love with a guy one day, not a girl. I think my Orientation Description describes my situation best.

jazzyspazzy · 15th Jul 2009, 09:30 AM

ooops, i didnt realise it was multiple choice... i ticked "heterosexual's reactions to my sexuality" but would have ticked "my attraction to women" as well, because i get scared about fancying a girl who is straight becuase of the way they might react.

crystaltriforce · 15th Jul 2009, 09:30 AM

i think my dificulty is getting people to believe me

Psychedelic Bookmarks · 15th Jul 2009, 09:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by crystaltriforce

i think my dificulty is getting people to believe me

Oh, yeah, tell me about it. I should have included that. I suppose that goes under other people's reactions.

Shevanel · 15th Jul 2009, 11:13 AM

I would say nothing really ... "Bothers" me about being bisexual. I haven't encountered any people challenging my bisexuality in real life. I've only noticed that in stupid places like youtube comments and crap, and it wasn't toward me. but I really don't care what other people think. I'm quite happy with it

littledinosaurs · 15th Jul 2009, 06:55 PM

I love being Bi.
If other people have issue with me being bi well it's their issue, not mine.

View Poll Results: Tick aspects of your bisexuality that make you feel guilty, worried or conflicted
No aspect makes me feel bad	2	14.29%
My attraction to men	2	14.29%
My attraction to women	6	42.86%
My homosexual attraction	2	14.29%
My heterosexual attraction	6	42.86%
Homosexual attraction while in a monogamous heterosexual relationship	2	14.29%
Heterosexual attractions while in a monogamous homosexual relationship	3	21.43%
Heterosexuals' reactions to my sexuality	6	42.86%
Homosexuals' reactions to my sexuality	3	21.43%
Bisexuals' reactions to my sexuality	0	0%
Another aspect	5	35.71%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 14. You may not vote on this poll

15th Jul 2009, 09:07 AM	#1
Psychedelic Bookmarks Helena Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Close family and quite a few friends Location: UK Age: 18 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Oct 2007	Difficulties for bisexuals I'd like to do a little survey of the EC bisexuals to see what your feelings about your bisexuality are. Whether it makes you feel guilty, worried or conflicted in any way. I know quite a lot of people don't like to identify as bisexual per se, but anybody who recognises they have some measure of romantic/sexual attraction towards both sexes is welcome to take part, regardless of whether they call themselves bisexual. Also, I better point out that some of the options must be chosen in tandem. For example, if you are a man and tick "My homosexual attraction", you must logically also choose "My attraction to men". Thanks for responding! __________________ "I refuse to recognize the terms hetero-, bi-, and homo-sexual. Everybody has exactly the same sexual needs. People are just sexual, the prefix is immaterial." (Morissey)

15th Jul 2009, 09:27 AM	#2
Étoile He ate my heart Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: 95% Gay, 5% Cheesecake Out Status: Out to everyone Location: The Peach State Age: 20 Posts: 1,575 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Difficulties for bisexuals I think my difficulty with being bisexual is my attraction to the opposite sex. I'm not comfortable with dating a girl. It'd feel...awkward. LOL See, I tell everyone I'm gay because I don't want to have sex or be in a relationship with a woman, I'm just attracted to them. I seem to be much more attracted to guys and I dream of falling in love with a guy one day, not a girl. I think my Orientation Description describes my situation best. __________________ "I love that lavender blonde; the way she moves, the way she walks, I touch myself, can't get enough."

15th Jul 2009, 09:30 AM	#3
jazzyspazzy Esto quad es - be yourself!!! Full Member Gender: Tomboy Orientation: Guys, girls who look like guys, genderqueer people Out Status: Anyone who looks at my facebook profile Location: Somerset Age: 17 Posts: 295 Join Date: Nov 2008	Re: Difficulties for bisexuals ooops, i didnt realise it was multiple choice... i ticked "heterosexual's reactions to my sexuality" but would have ticked "my attraction to women" as well, because i get scared about fancying a girl who is straight becuase of the way they might react. __________________ Be the change you wish to see in the world - Mahatma Gandhi

15th Jul 2009, 09:30 AM	#4
crystaltriforce raised by nintendo and sega Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: all but extended family Location: outside of Philadelphia Age: 21 Posts: 1,825 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Difficulties for bisexuals i think my dificulty is getting people to believe me __________________ we need masculinity....PUT ON THE "FUZZY FUZZY CUTE CUTE" SONG!!!

15th Jul 2009, 11:13 AM	#6
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Difficulties for bisexuals I would say nothing really ... "Bothers" me about being bisexual. I haven't encountered any people challenging my bisexuality in real life. I've only noticed that in stupid places like youtube comments and crap, and it wasn't toward me. but I really don't care what other people think. I'm quite happy with it __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

15th Jul 2009, 06:55 PM	#7
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Difficulties for bisexuals I love being Bi. If other people have issue with me being bi well it's their issue, not mine. __________________ Âllo Là

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