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xjimmyx400 · 5th Aug 2009, 02:25 PM

So I like a guy who is 2 years younger than me and it's so great that I jsut forget he's younger than me sometimes.. Some of my friends are all supportive and others are hesitant. I want to hear some opinions.

Z3ni · 5th Aug 2009, 02:48 PM

What are your ages?

carrie90 · 5th Aug 2009, 02:51 PM

2 year's isn't a major age gap it just depend's on both your age's really

xjimmyx400 · 5th Aug 2009, 02:52 PM

Well I'm 16, he's 14.

5th Aug 2009, 02:53 PM

*SNIP*
I'm tired and thus failed. Ignore the prior edit if you saw it.

Age does matter to a certain extent. Things like age of consent and maturity levels are affected by your age. But if you are interested, go for it.

Beachboi92 · 5th Aug 2009, 03:09 PM

14 and 16 eh that really isnt big. When your young it seems a lot bigger than when you get to like college. I dated a girl who was 1 year younger than me. In the end as long as you are both comfortable with the age difference it is cool. It didnt work out with my girl cause she felt the age difference was to big because i was 1 year but 2 grades ahead. If he is mature enough then go for it. But be careful at our age with age differences like that. You gotta remember that that could be you in college and he as a sophomore in high school. But like i said, if you are both comfortable with the age difference and he is mature enough to hang with you then go for it

later on in life that age difference will seem like nothing

xjimmyx400 · 5th Aug 2009, 03:33 PM

I feel more certain about it now. I'll see him tonight at practice so who knows maybe something will happen.

Daniel · 5th Aug 2009, 05:11 PM

Well I have dated someone who was 5 years my senior. I think the older you are the less of a deal it is. But age does make a difference. However, 2 years is very different than 5.

Okay 6 years older. It was Europe.

bob4carl09 · 5th Aug 2009, 05:32 PM

It's tricky. First of all, age of consent is an important consideration, so if things are going in *that* direction, make sure you're covered. Last thing you want is a sadistic parent screaming statutory rape.

Most people will assume it's not a good idea, and generally they'd be right - I think it's fair to say that most 14 yo's don't have a level of maturity consistant with most 16 yo's, but I underlined most there cus it's general, not specific. If you and he are comfortable, mature about the difference and responsible, I think it's ok. But in all honesty, I'd be less dubious if it were 26 and 24.

My two cents, but I guess it's a very subjective debate.

Beachboi92 · 5th Aug 2009, 06:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bob4carl09

It's tricky. First of all, age of consent is an important consideration, so if things are going in *that* direction, make sure you're covered. Last thing you want is a sadistic parent screaming statutory rape.

Most people will assume it's not a good idea, and generally they'd be right - I think it's fair to say that most 14 yo's don't have a level of maturity consistant with most 16 yo's, but I underlined most there cus it's general, not specific. If you and he are comfortable, mature about the difference and responsible, I think it's ok. But in all honesty, I'd be less dubious if it were 26 and 24.

My two cents, but I guess it's a very subjective debate.

quoted for truth

George · 5th Aug 2009, 07:27 PM

I don't like dating people younger than me, but older than me I'm open to. The oldest I'd date is around 29 or so, but that's just because I love maturity.

djt820 · 5th Aug 2009, 07:56 PM

16 and 14? Perfectly acceptable. Dont mind the assholes who say other wise

twixy30 · 5th Aug 2009, 08:07 PM

i dont think age matters its all in the heart i have like lots of younger people and if someone i likes is younger and they like me then i would go for it

string3343 · 5th Aug 2009, 08:27 PM

Two years definitely isn't a big deal, but a maturity difference could cause problems later on in the relationship.

Shevanel · 5th Aug 2009, 10:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beachboi92

Quote:

Originally Posted by bob4carl09

It's tricky. First of all, age of consent is an important consideration, so if things are going in *that* direction, make sure you're covered. Last thing you want is a sadistic parent screaming statutory rape.

Most people will assume it's not a good idea, and generally they'd be right - I think it's fair to say that most 14 yo's don't have a level of maturity consistant with most 16 yo's, but I underlined most there cus it's general, not specific. If you and he are comfortable, mature about the difference and responsible, I think it's ok. But in all honesty, I'd be less dubious if it were 26 and 24.

My two cents, but I guess it's a very subjective debate.

quoted for truth

I also agree, Also, (After a long time of me forgetting what I was going to write, I remembered) usually if you have to ask if the age difference is iffy, it probably is iffy. Just saying.

Davey · 5th Aug 2009, 11:00 PM

As long as its mutual and someone isn't using the other's ignorance or anything i see nothing wrong with age gaps.

Steve · 6th Aug 2009, 12:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by djt820

16 and 14? Perfectly acceptable. Dont mind the assholes who say other wise

i dont think its fair of you to call anyone who disagrees with you an asshole every one is entitled to their own opinion

p.s please ignore my bad english.

PJ James · 6th Aug 2009, 12:31 AM

A decade older and 4 years younger are my personal limits, but then I'm an adult

16 and 14 is a bit iffy as your so young but as long as you don't push him to do things he's not ready for then ok. Remember not to let him push himself too fast 'cause he wants to impress you either

Miles D · 6th Aug 2009, 12:44 AM

14 & 16 sounds fine to me. I tend to date older people just because I'm more mature than most 17 year olds, and also going into my second year of college when most people my age are starting their senior year of high school.

hope everything works out between you two

George · 6th Aug 2009, 06:58 AM

Sorry, forgot to put in my post earlier that 14/16 is a fine gap in a relationship.

More than that though I'm not a fan of.

5th Aug 2009, 02:25 PM	#1
xjimmyx400 Art Nerd Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I lost track of who knows and who doesn't. Location: San Antonio Texas Age: 19 Posts: 104 Join Date: Jul 2009	Age matters? So I like a guy who is 2 years younger than me and it's so great that I jsut forget he's younger than me sometimes.. Some of my friends are all supportive and others are hesitant. I want to hear some opinions.

5th Aug 2009, 02:48 PM	#2
Z3ni Ec's ADD Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayish Out Status: My Twin Location: England, Manchester Posts: 3,080 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Age matters? What are your ages? __________________ Through pain, lies success.

5th Aug 2009, 02:51 PM	#3
carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Age matters? 2 year's isn't a major age gap it just depend's on both your age's really __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

5th Aug 2009, 02:52 PM	#4
xjimmyx400 Art Nerd Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I lost track of who knows and who doesn't. Location: San Antonio Texas Age: 19 Posts: 104 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: Age matters? Well I'm 16, he's 14.

5th Aug 2009, 02:53 PM	#5
Numfarh Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Age matters? SNIP I'm tired and thus failed. Ignore the prior edit if you saw it. Age does matter to a certain extent. Things like age of consent and maturity levels are affected by your age. But if you are interested, go for it.

5th Aug 2009, 03:09 PM	#6
Beachboi92 Occasionally Caddy Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: queer Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Frederick Maryland Age: 19 Posts: 2,226 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: Age matters? 14 and 16 eh that really isnt big. When your young it seems a lot bigger than when you get to like college. I dated a girl who was 1 year younger than me. In the end as long as you are both comfortable with the age difference it is cool. It didnt work out with my girl cause she felt the age difference was to big because i was 1 year but 2 grades ahead. If he is mature enough then go for it. But be careful at our age with age differences like that. You gotta remember that that could be you in college and he as a sophomore in high school. But like i said, if you are both comfortable with the age difference and he is mature enough to hang with you then go for it later on in life that age difference will seem like nothing __________________ All men are created equal, it is only men themselves who place themselves above equality. David Allan Coe

5th Aug 2009, 03:33 PM	#7
xjimmyx400 Art Nerd Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: I lost track of who knows and who doesn't. Location: San Antonio Texas Age: 19 Posts: 104 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: Age matters? I feel more certain about it now. I'll see him tonight at practice so who knows maybe something will happen.

5th Aug 2009, 05:11 PM	#8
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Age matters? Well I have dated someone who was 5 years my senior. I think the older you are the less of a deal it is. But age does make a difference. However, 2 years is very different than 5. Okay 6 years older. It was Europe. __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe Last edited by Daniel; 5th Aug 2009 at 05:11 PM.. Reason: I lied.

5th Aug 2009, 05:32 PM	#9
bob4carl09 Falling...deep... and its all good! Full Member Gender: Manfolk Orientation: Gay Out Status: 2 best mates, 3 at uni & my lil cuz Location: Swansea, Wales Age: 25 Posts: 476 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Age matters? It's tricky. First of all, age of consent is an important consideration, so if things are going in that direction, make sure you're covered. Last thing you want is a sadistic parent screaming statutory rape. Most people will assume it's not a good idea, and generally they'd be right - I think it's fair to say that most 14 yo's don't have a level of maturity consistant with most 16 yo's, but I underlined most there cus it's general, not specific. If you and he are comfortable, mature about the difference and responsible, I think it's ok. But in all honesty, I'd be less dubious if it were 26 and 24. My two cents, but I guess it's a very subjective debate.

5th Aug 2009, 07:27 PM	#11
George Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 2,387 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Age matters? I don't like dating people younger than me, but older than me I'm open to. The oldest I'd date is around 29 or so, but that's just because I love maturity.

5th Aug 2009, 07:56 PM	#12
djt820 Brutally Honest Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: DICKS EVERYWHERE Out Status: Like A Cock Slapping Your Face Kind-of Out. Location: SoCal Age: 19 Posts: 1,282 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Age matters? 16 and 14? Perfectly acceptable. Dont mind the assholes who say other wise __________________

5th Aug 2009, 08:07 PM	#13
twixy30 finding myself Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: ok i think i got this now i REALLY like GIRLS yeah Out Status: more people then i thought i would tell & EC Location: Dallas, texas Age: 34 Posts: 316 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Age matters? i dont think age matters its all in the heart i have like lots of younger people and if someone i likes is younger and they like me then i would go for it __________________ we are special in our own way! never let anyone tell you your notTwix

5th Aug 2009, 08:27 PM	#14
string3343 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: to my brother!! Location: United States Age: 19 Posts: 80 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Age matters? Two years definitely isn't a big deal, but a maturity difference could cause problems later on in the relationship.

5th Aug 2009, 11:00 PM	#16
Davey Here Then There! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Upper Sandusky, Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 954 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Age matters? As long as its mutual and someone isn't using the other's ignorance or anything i see nothing wrong with age gaps. __________________ I've found true love. Davey+Bryan November 17, 2008

6th Aug 2009, 12:31 AM	#18
PJ James Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Leicestershire UK Age: 24 Posts: 63 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Age matters? A decade older and 4 years younger are my personal limits, but then I'm an adult 16 and 14 is a bit iffy as your so young but as long as you don't push him to do things he's not ready for then ok. Remember not to let him push himself too fast 'cause he wants to impress you either

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6th Aug 2009, 12:44 AM	#19
Miles D Rude... and not ginger. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: queer Out Status: everyone Location: San Diego, CA ⇒ Great Barrington, MA Age: 20 Posts: 1,171 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Age matters? 14 & 16 sounds fine to me. I tend to date older people just because I'm more mature than most 17 year olds, and also going into my second year of college when most people my age are starting their senior year of high school. hope everything works out between you two __________________ Bowties are cool. Fezzes are cool.

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George Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 2,387 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Age matters? Sorry, forgot to put in my post earlier that 14/16 is a fine gap in a relationship. More than that though I'm not a fan of.