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Tokarov · 2nd Sep 2009, 04:13 PM

Normally I'm just a stalker on these forums not really posting, but I was wondering how many of you out there have actually a really good straight guy friend, while you are a gay guy?

Personally I have one...and me being gay doesn't really matter. I even liked him for a while, he found out, and still didn't care, THAT'S One in a Million!

Anyway, heres the article:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/06/28/fa..._r=2&ref=style

stratavos · 2nd Sep 2009, 04:16 PM

yep I've got one of those, he's awesome like that, and we both are on the same page with each other too

endless poetry · 2nd Sep 2009, 04:17 PM

well, I do and he`s told me I`m his only friend who can make friends with other people (in other words, his social life is about zero)

I haven`t come out to him yet, but he jokes ALL the time about the gay man (me) he`s friends with (I`m not that effeminate am I?)

Shevanel · 2nd Sep 2009, 04:24 PM

I have almost no gay friends? lol I dunno, almost all my friends are straight. My best friend, my good high school friends, my college friends. 99% straight. I don't know why really? xD

But I'm also Bi... so... yeah.

Greggers · 2nd Sep 2009, 04:32 PM

I have about....one....male friend. He is straight. We dont have anything in common. We dont hang out alot. But when we do, sexuality is not an issue. I think the only reason we are friends is because we went to the same highschool, other than that we have nothing in common...

fallendream · 2nd Sep 2009, 04:35 PM

my best friend means alot to me...but hes closeted bi with only me knowing (he only told me) so does it count? or do they have to be 100% straight?

Tokarov · 2nd Sep 2009, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by fallendream

my best friend means alot to me...but hes closeted bi with only me knowing (he only told me) so does it count? or do they have to be 100% straight?

Meh there are no rules haha. It still counts in my book.

fallendream · 2nd Sep 2009, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Tokarov

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Originally Posted by fallendream

my best friend means alot to me...but hes closeted bi with only me knowing (he only told me) so does it count? or do they have to be 100% straight?

Meh there are no rules haha. It still counts in my book.

then i have one!

weve been through and discussed disturbing shit. such as wether bats give off ultra-sound moans during sex.

**Maddy** · 2nd Sep 2009, 04:45 PM

I'm not a gay guy, but I have one really close straight male friend from childhood. We met at the start of grade 4, when we were both 9, and clicked. I came out to im a couple of years ago, and he was totally fine with it, and told me he was questioning himself a bit (although he's since concluded that he's straight).

xequar · 2nd Sep 2009, 05:26 PM

Pretty much all of my friends are male, and damn near all of them are straight.

**Martin** · 2nd Sep 2009, 05:29 PM

My bezzie is a straight guy, and the vast majority of my mates are straight. My bezzie is more accepting and open minded than me, and quite a few of them have an obsession with what it's like to be gay and love the gay scene.

They're amazing. ^_^

HazMattic_Force · 2nd Sep 2009, 05:42 PM

OMG i had a friend like this but then i found out he is bi and now i totally have a crush on him ..... FML lol

tokwa · 2nd Sep 2009, 06:02 PM

Yeah, a closet homophobe. XD

cicciux · 2nd Sep 2009, 06:29 PM

I like your idea of not posting much (700+ posts)

I had two straight male friends and they both knew I liked them (not at the same time)... it was cool, though. They hugged me and everything ^_^

littledinosaurs · 2nd Sep 2009, 06:31 PM

My best friends are lesbians.

Kupo! · 2nd Sep 2009, 10:11 PM

my Best Friend is a girl. I had a really close guy friend who i thought was straight, now i am not so sure. his friends and i think he is bi, but we just dont know

**lostinthought9** · 3rd Sep 2009, 08:50 AM

My best friend is a straight guy, and he's totally cool with everything. Actually, he's the only one I can talk to without receiving some type of judgemental response.

jazzrawr · 3rd Sep 2009, 08:57 AM

I don't know if this is for lesbians too, but I'm posting anyways. ^.^

My best friend in the world is a straight girl, and she's completely fine with me being gay. Actually she loves it, we always say she's the straight version of me. XD We just make jokes about it all the time. Whenever anyone says "You're gay!" to anyone but me, I say "WOAH. I'm the gay one here. Don't be taking my title!" and we all laugh.

The majority of my other friends are straight too. They all became much more open-minded when they found out one of their best friends was gay.

So yeah, my best friend is a straight person of the same gender.

I've never crushed on her, though. I can't imagine dating her. XD She's too much like me.

**Lexington** · 3rd Sep 2009, 03:31 PM

>>>Personally I have one...and me being gay doesn't really matter. I even liked him for a while, he found out, and still didn't care, THAT'S One in a Million!

Not exactly one in a million, as these posts are showing.

The majority of my friends are straight men. I have several gay male friends and straight female friends, too. For whatever reason, I only know a couple lesbians, and they're not really close friends. Not by design, mind you. Just don't have that much in common with them, and so never really bonded.

Lex

Davo · 3rd Sep 2009, 03:45 PM

My two best friends are straight. In fact all my friends are straight and mainly guys, the only gay person I know is my boyfriend

2nd Sep 2009, 04:13 PM	#1
Tokarov Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Location: Southern California Age: 20 Posts: 688 Join Date: Dec 2007	Straight Friends? Article Normally I'm just a stalker on these forums not really posting, but I was wondering how many of you out there have actually a really good straight guy friend, while you are a gay guy? Personally I have one...and me being gay doesn't really matter. I even liked him for a while, he found out, and still didn't care, THAT'S One in a Million! Anyway, heres the article: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/06/28/fa..._r=2&ref=style

2nd Sep 2009, 04:16 PM	#2
stratavos professional lurker Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bisexual prefering males Out Status: don't ask don't tell (ask and I'll tell) Location: oakville(college) and oshawa(hometown) ont, Canada Age: 22 Posts: 1,101 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Straight Friends? Article yep I've got one of those, he's awesome like that, and we both are on the same page with each other too __________________ <-is a very bad influence... and definately enjoys it hail lord ilpallazzo!

2nd Sep 2009, 04:17 PM	#3
endless poetry We're off to see the wizard Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends know Location: Ottawa Age: 18 Posts: 547 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Straight Friends? Article well, I do and he`s told me I`m his only friend who can make friends with other people (in other words, his social life is about zero) I haven`t come out to him yet, but he jokes ALL the time about the gay man (me) he`s friends with (I`m not that effeminate am I?) __________________ Se eu te pudesse abraçar. Written no book of this life, I am a mere pamphlet who thinks that I am a best selling novel.

2nd Sep 2009, 04:24 PM	#4
Shevanel One Is Light. One Is Dark. Full Member Gender: The Dude Orientation: Bi-Winning Out Status: Everybody and Your Mom. Location: Bolivar, Ohio (From NY though) Age: 21 Posts: 7,672 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Straight Friends? Article I have almost no gay friends? lol I dunno, almost all my friends are straight. My best friend, my good high school friends, my college friends. 99% straight. I don't know why really? xD But I'm also Bi... so... yeah. __________________ If there were no rewards to reap, No loving embrace to see me through this tedious path I've chosen here, I certainly would've walked away by now. Gonna wait it out... Be patient.

2nd Sep 2009, 04:32 PM	#5
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Straight Friends? Article I have about....one....male friend. He is straight. We dont have anything in common. We dont hang out alot. But when we do, sexuality is not an issue. I think the only reason we are friends is because we went to the same highschool, other than that we have nothing in common... __________________ "It's a male duck."

2nd Sep 2009, 04:35 PM	#6
fallendream EC Addict Full Member Gender: manlyman, hwar! Orientation: i have a floppy wrist? Out Status: i left aslan... Age: 17 Posts: 945 Join Date: Jan 2009	Re: Straight Friends? Article my best friend means alot to me...but hes closeted bi with only me knowing (he only told me) so does it count? or do they have to be 100% straight? __________________ [seanathon] 1:09 am: You think I'm not naked? [seanathon] 1:09 am: I've got an ice pack tied to my head using socks.

2nd Sep 2009, 04:45 PM	#9
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,704 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Straight Friends? Article I'm not a gay guy, but I have one really close straight male friend from childhood. We met at the start of grade 4, when we were both 9, and clicked. I came out to im a couple of years ago, and he was totally fine with it, and told me he was questioning himself a bit (although he's since concluded that he's straight). __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

2nd Sep 2009, 05:26 PM	#10
xequar Diapered and collared! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I have "The Gay." :) Out Status: Loud and proud! Location: Detroit area, Michigan Age: 30 Posts: 1,746 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Straight Friends? Article Pretty much all of my friends are male, and damn near all of them are straight. __________________

2nd Sep 2009, 05:29 PM	#11
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,047 Join Date: Nov 2007	Re: Straight Friends? Article My bezzie is a straight guy, and the vast majority of my mates are straight. My bezzie is more accepting and open minded than me, and quite a few of them have an obsession with what it's like to be gay and love the gay scene. They're amazing. ^_^ __________________ The blue whale ejaculates up to 40 gallons during sexual intercourse, but only 10 gallons enters the female. Do you still wonder why the sea tastes salty?

2nd Sep 2009, 05:42 PM	#12
HazMattic_Force EC's Residential Raver Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Little Rock, Arkansas Age: 19 Posts: 696 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Straight Friends? Article OMG i had a friend like this but then i found out he is bi and now i totally have a crush on him ..... FML lol __________________ Humanity is Sadism at its Finest .

2nd Sep 2009, 06:02 PM	#13
tokwa Yez, that is my lips. Regular Member Gender: Guy Orientation: Girls/Guys Out Status: IDK Location: Phil Age: 19 Posts: 288 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Straight Friends? Article Yeah, a closet homophobe. XD __________________ Show me your teeth.

2nd Sep 2009, 06:29 PM	#14
cicciux Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to family and close friends Location: Buenos Aires Age: 25 Posts: 50 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Straight Friends? Article I like your idea of not posting much (700+ posts) I had two straight male friends and they both knew I liked them (not at the same time)... it was cool, though. They hugged me and everything ^_^

2nd Sep 2009, 06:31 PM	#15
littledinosaurs J'essaie de Parler Français! :] Full Member Gender: Garçon Orientation: Bisexuel Location: Nouvelle-Angleterre. Age: 21 Posts: 2,351 Join Date: Sep 2008	Re: Straight Friends? Article My best friends are lesbians. __________________ Âllo Là

2nd Sep 2009, 10:11 PM	#16
Kupo! Brony Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Cloudsdale Age: 22 Posts: 682 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Straight Friends? Article my Best Friend is a girl. I had a really close guy friend who i thought was straight, now i am not so sure. his friends and i think he is bi, but we just dont know

3rd Sep 2009, 08:50 AM	#17
lostinthought9 EC's Biggest Xena Fan EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Louisiana Age: 21 Posts: 2,059 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Straight Friends? Article My best friend is a straight guy, and he's totally cool with everything. Actually, he's the only one I can talk to without receiving some type of judgemental response. __________________

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jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Straight Friends? Article I don't know if this is for lesbians too, but I'm posting anyways. ^.^ My best friend in the world is a straight girl, and she's completely fine with me being gay. Actually she loves it, we always say she's the straight version of me. XD We just make jokes about it all the time. Whenever anyone says "You're gay!" to anyone but me, I say "WOAH. I'm the gay one here. Don't be taking my title!" and we all laugh. The majority of my other friends are straight too. They all became much more open-minded when they found out one of their best friends was gay. So yeah, my best friend is a straight person of the same gender. I've never crushed on her, though. I can't imagine dating her. XD She's too much like me. __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

3rd Sep 2009, 03:31 PM	#19
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Straight Friends? Article >>>Personally I have one...and me being gay doesn't really matter. I even liked him for a while, he found out, and still didn't care, THAT'S One in a Million! Not exactly one in a million, as these posts are showing. The majority of my friends are straight men. I have several gay male friends and straight female friends, too. For whatever reason, I only know a couple lesbians, and they're not really close friends. Not by design, mind you. Just don't have that much in common with them, and so never really bonded. Lex

3rd Sep 2009, 03:45 PM	#20
Davo Is mise Daibhidh Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost out to everyone Location: Scotland Age: 25 Posts: 434 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Straight Friends? Article My two best friends are straight. In fact all my friends are straight and mainly guys, the only gay person I know is my boyfriend