High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

MusicIsLife · 7th Sep 2009, 10:42 AM

I was just thinking today how lucky I was to go to that school that I went to. Apart from people saying "that's so gay" there was very little homophobia in my grade, if any at all.

One of the most popular kids in my grade was openly gay, and for a project in my grad year we had to make t-shirts in regards to some social issue like racism, homophobia, etc. And I did one that said "homophobia is gay!" on it, with like a collage of men kissing men and women kissing women.

The only negative thing that happened is that one of my friends kind of freaked out and refused to sit next to me in any of our shared classes that day, and the teacher LOVED my shirt :P

So yeah. Is anyone else in/went to a school that is fairly accepting of homosexuality?

RainInAfrica · 7th Sep 2009, 10:45 AM

My school isn't accepting at all, the word 'Fagget' is used a million times a day.

ADTR fan · 7th Sep 2009, 10:47 AM

well we have a GSA called "the spectrum" and its seems pretty cool. a lot of people signed up the first day of school. granted, they also gave out free candy so....

Tokarov · 7th Sep 2009, 10:50 AM

I go to a catholic school....lolz wats GSA? It's unheard of where I am.

RainInAfrica · 7th Sep 2009, 10:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tokarov

I go to a catholic school....lolz wats GSA? It's unheard of where I am.

Same

frostreaver · 7th Sep 2009, 10:55 AM

I think it was quite tolerated in my school.

I'm not out yet but I believe there was a guy in the another class that was pretty much openly gay/bi. He did declare the fact that he liked/wanted to marry (lol) one of my probably straight male classmate. He also has a lot of girl friends and appeared to get along very well with his class.

Its been 2 years but I don't remember my friends making fun of him but they DID make fun of the my classmate who was the target of the gay guy. Its not brought up often though, most people just don't seem to bother.

Greggers · 7th Sep 2009, 11:28 AM

Well i went to an evangelical Christian school so when people tried to use pictures of attractive models (full clothed, they were like department store models) on the posters to sell the yearbook the staff FLIPPED out like we were trying to give people wrong sexual thoughts or something. So just think how they would re-act to homosexuality

NOT good.

My university however is amazing. The lounge that i spend hours each school day in doing homework, chatting with friends, eating lunch, ect. has two GIANT rainbow flags on the wall. As you walk by one of the busy hallways you also will find a giant display for the Pride Network (LGBT group) that includes a big picture of two hot guys kissing with some slogan like "Does this bug you?" or something. I know not too many people are out, but ive never heard of anyone getting gay bashed (i looked up news about the school to check) and everyone just keeps to themselves for the most part.

Apocalypte · 7th Sep 2009, 11:57 AM

Uni? Very accepting.

Secondary school? All-girl, Catholic, with nuns. Hell no.

carrie90 · 7th Sep 2009, 12:04 PM

Hmm mine was kinda 50/50 I never had any terrible Homophobic abuse but it wasn't the most accepting but I never felt in danger or anything

jazzrawr · 7th Sep 2009, 03:23 PM

My school isn't very homophobic either. People are pretty chill about it, generally.
Nobody's given me a problem at all. Anyone who would make a problem out of it would be generally disliked because of it. I feel pretty lucky.

xequar · 8th Sep 2009, 07:16 AM

My University was pretty accepting, and it had a pretty active and visible GSA.

My high school, on the other hand... No. There were a couple of students that were suspected of being gay. They frequently got the ever-loving shit beaten out of them.

merlov1 · 8th Sep 2009, 08:39 AM

Lol, it was almost rampant at my first high school(I went to 2). The second was calmer and I think I was the only out guy there, lol

RaeofLite · 8th Sep 2009, 09:24 AM

GSA (for any who don't know) is a Gay Straight Alliance. Where heteros help and do community things in a school or work/town setting to help out LGBT rights and educate people about LGBT.

I didn't have one, and didn't formerly put all the puzzle pieces into my head that I was gay till my graduating year. By then, I went to uni and went through hell, realizing I was different. But people seem more accepting.

Kupo! · 8th Sep 2009, 09:25 AM

My high school was a small school and people tended to share all the same views, save for some of the actual good people n the place. i wasnt out in HS, but someone else did say they were gay im pretty sure they beat the crap outta him a couple of times. So i can say that my school was completly homophobic. they didnt even like talking about it in classes or anything. it was considered rude. >.>
I can tell you i do not miss that place @ all....

kettleoffish · 8th Sep 2009, 09:34 AM

It could be a lot worse. I live in a small town, so it's not a very big place, and I am the only gay guy out to everyone there as far as I know (and I would probably hear). I know of few others who are out to a few people, but nobody is as open about it as I am.

I used to get quite a lot of (mostly) verbal abuse at school, but that was mostly because I came out at a very young age and my classmates weren't exactly mature 12 year olds. I'm now friends with quite a few of the people who once picked on me, and I forgive them it, everyone does stupid shit. I hardly get any thing for it anymore. There are a few close minded idiots, same as anywhere but I don't normally have to even say anything to them because my friends get there first

Kupo! · 8th Sep 2009, 10:05 PM

^ must have been nice (and a little frightening) to come out at such a young age, had i dont that i wouldve gotten the piss beat outta me everyday. hell id probably be dead right now...

Just Adam · 8th Sep 2009, 11:32 PM

my school was openly intollerant.

werekid · 9th Sep 2009, 03:08 AM

i hear fag and that is so gay or he/she is so gay

hannahhrosee · 9th Sep 2009, 03:14 PM

my school doesn't take you seriously.
most people say they are gay as a trend.
*sigh*

Mitchell · 9th Sep 2009, 03:17 PM

I'd have to say that I'm one of the lucky ones.

I don't really run into problems, but the teachers I am around are sort of protecting of me in a sense...

7th Sep 2009, 10:42 AM	#1
MusicIsLife EC Addict Full Member Gender: Not even sure anymore. Something in between. Orientation: I like girls :) Out Status: Everyone on orientation 7 people on trans issue. Location: Montréal, QC Age: 23 Posts: 1,595 Join Date: Dec 2007	High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. I was just thinking today how lucky I was to go to that school that I went to. Apart from people saying "that's so gay" there was very little homophobia in my grade, if any at all. One of the most popular kids in my grade was openly gay, and for a project in my grad year we had to make t-shirts in regards to some social issue like racism, homophobia, etc. And I did one that said "homophobia is gay!" on it, with like a collage of men kissing men and women kissing women. The only negative thing that happened is that one of my friends kind of freaked out and refused to sit next to me in any of our shared classes that day, and the teacher LOVED my shirt :P So yeah. Is anyone else in/went to a school that is fairly accepting of homosexuality?

7th Sep 2009, 10:45 AM	#2
RainInAfrica Ec's Irishman Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: ''Gay as a goose'' Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Ireland, Dublin Age: 17 Posts: 364 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. My school isn't accepting at all, the word 'Fagget' is used a million times a day. __________________ Boredom has taken over. “If a bullet should go through my head let that bullet go through every closet door.” - Harvey Milk.

7th Sep 2009, 10:47 AM	#3
ADTR fan EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: NJ Age: 17 Posts: 461 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. well we have a GSA called "the spectrum" and its seems pretty cool. a lot of people signed up the first day of school. granted, they also gave out free candy so....

7th Sep 2009, 10:50 AM	#4
Tokarov Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Location: Southern California Age: 20 Posts: 688 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. I go to a catholic school....lolz wats GSA? It's unheard of where I am.

7th Sep 2009, 10:55 AM	#6
frostreaver ^_______^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some. Location: Amherst, NY Age: 22 Posts: 433 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. I think it was quite tolerated in my school. I'm not out yet but I believe there was a guy in the another class that was pretty much openly gay/bi. He did declare the fact that he liked/wanted to marry (lol) one of my probably straight male classmate. He also has a lot of girl friends and appeared to get along very well with his class. Its been 2 years but I don't remember my friends making fun of him but they DID make fun of the my classmate who was the target of the gay guy. Its not brought up often though, most people just don't seem to bother. __________________ You keep, keep running I keep, keep falling Let it fade away.

7th Sep 2009, 11:28 AM	#7
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. Well i went to an evangelical Christian school so when people tried to use pictures of attractive models (full clothed, they were like department store models) on the posters to sell the yearbook the staff FLIPPED out like we were trying to give people wrong sexual thoughts or something. So just think how they would re-act to homosexuality NOT good. My university however is amazing. The lounge that i spend hours each school day in doing homework, chatting with friends, eating lunch, ect. has two GIANT rainbow flags on the wall. As you walk by one of the busy hallways you also will find a giant display for the Pride Network (LGBT group) that includes a big picture of two hot guys kissing with some slogan like "Does this bug you?" or something. I know not too many people are out, but ive never heard of anyone getting gay bashed (i looked up news about the school to check) and everyone just keeps to themselves for the most part. __________________ "It's a male duck."

7th Sep 2009, 11:57 AM	#8
Apocalypte Ytse Jamming. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Dublin, Ireland Age: 27 Posts: 2,217 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. Uni? Very accepting. Secondary school? All-girl, Catholic, with nuns. Hell no. __________________ "I like my beer cold...my TV loud...and my homosexuals flaming." - Homer Simpson

7th Sep 2009, 12:04 PM	#9
carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. Hmm mine was kinda 50/50 I never had any terrible Homophobic abuse but it wasn't the most accepting but I never felt in danger or anything __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

7th Sep 2009, 03:23 PM	#10
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. My school isn't very homophobic either. People are pretty chill about it, generally. Nobody's given me a problem at all. Anyone who would make a problem out of it would be generally disliked because of it. I feel pretty lucky. __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

8th Sep 2009, 07:16 AM	#11
xequar Diapered and collared! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I have "The Gay." :) Out Status: Loud and proud! Location: Detroit area, Michigan Age: 30 Posts: 1,746 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. My University was pretty accepting, and it had a pretty active and visible GSA. My high school, on the other hand... No. There were a couple of students that were suspected of being gay. They frequently got the ever-loving shit beaten out of them. __________________

8th Sep 2009, 08:39 AM	#12
merlov1 Young Aussie Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne Age: 27 Posts: 36 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. Lol, it was almost rampant at my first high school(I went to 2). The second was calmer and I think I was the only out guy there, lol __________________ "It isn't what you do, it's what you are" Christopher Hitchens on defining being a writer.

8th Sep 2009, 09:24 AM	#13
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. GSA (for any who don't know) is a Gay Straight Alliance. Where heteros help and do community things in a school or work/town setting to help out LGBT rights and educate people about LGBT. I didn't have one, and didn't formerly put all the puzzle pieces into my head that I was gay till my graduating year. By then, I went to uni and went through hell, realizing I was different. But people seem more accepting. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

8th Sep 2009, 09:25 AM	#14
Kupo! Brony Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Cloudsdale Age: 22 Posts: 682 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. My high school was a small school and people tended to share all the same views, save for some of the actual good people n the place. i wasnt out in HS, but someone else did say they were gay im pretty sure they beat the crap outta him a couple of times. So i can say that my school was completly homophobic. they didnt even like talking about it in classes or anything. it was considered rude. >.> I can tell you i do not miss that place @ all....

8th Sep 2009, 09:34 AM	#15
kettleoffish new avatar time! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: all but parents.. for now. Location: Scotland Age: 18 Posts: 1,045 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. It could be a lot worse. I live in a small town, so it's not a very big place, and I am the only gay guy out to everyone there as far as I know (and I would probably hear). I know of few others who are out to a few people, but nobody is as open about it as I am. I used to get quite a lot of (mostly) verbal abuse at school, but that was mostly because I came out at a very young age and my classmates weren't exactly mature 12 year olds. I'm now friends with quite a few of the people who once picked on me, and I forgive them it, everyone does stupid shit. I hardly get any thing for it anymore. There are a few close minded idiots, same as anywhere but I don't normally have to even say anything to them because my friends get there first __________________ ~~There is no way to peace; peace is the way.~~ --A. J. Muste

8th Sep 2009, 10:05 PM	#16
Kupo! Brony Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Cloudsdale Age: 22 Posts: 682 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: High school and homophobia...I was one of the lucky ones. ^ must have been nice (and a little frightening) to come out at such a young age, had i dont that i wouldve gotten the piss beat outta me everyday. hell id probably be dead right now...

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