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WhiteFox · 8th Sep 2009, 06:39 PM

so yea my grandma is moving quite a ways away. She has cancer and to be honest I dont think shes winning. I was helping my family move all of the stuff out and I got to thinking about how sad it actually is. Her house that I have known for years is now just an empty house. So many memories and time spent there and now its nothing. I imagine in a few years I will be doing this again when she is gone and I can barely think of how I will feel. All her possessions which to me and the ordinary person are just things that have no meaning but everything in that house has a meaning to her. All of it is special. I dont know it was just a weird feeling and its so weird I almost cant explain it. I just wanted to rant and get it off my chest is all

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Kenko · 8th Sep 2009, 07:05 PM

Black Cat · 8th Sep 2009, 07:35 PM

Well I'm sorry you're going through that. Sadly it is something that everyone, at some point in our lives, must go through.

Miles D · 8th Sep 2009, 07:45 PM

I know exactly how you feel. When my grandma had her first stroke (she had a few more that eventually ended her life) my mom and I packed up all of her stuff. I was the last one in her house, and it felt so weird to see it completely empty. I hope your grandma is around for as long as she can be.

carrie90 · 9th Sep 2009, 11:29 AM

I'm so sorry (*hugs*) my Grandma has demensia and her brain has just totally gone I remember having to pack up her house i spent alot of time at and the thought of other people living in it just got me so upset i feel for you

**Eleanor Rigby** · 9th Sep 2009, 11:48 AM

I'm very sorry about your grand-mother

I know how important grand-parents are in our lifes. I still have my 4 grand-parents, but 3 of them are in a pretty bad shape now. It's hard to see them getting older and getting health problems.
Cherish the time you can spend with her. The moments we spend with our grand-parents now are the good memories we'll have tomorow.

Mickey · 9th Sep 2009, 11:35 PM

It's always a hard thing to go through. I had to move my Grandmother's "life" around,twice. When she left her own home,to go to an apt.It was so hard. Then moving her from her apt. to a nursing home,was bad,too.
I know it broke her heart and my heart broke for her.
I think this is the hardest part of life.
I still miss my grandmother and she's been gone 16 years.
I'm sorry you're going through this,but the good part is,you have many fond memories.

**Gerry** · 9th Sep 2009, 11:49 PM

Hold on to the memories you have with her, I think that's the only thing you can do at this stage. We all have fond memories of our grandparents and it's so hard to see them go. I lost my grandma 3 years ago and I still miss talking to her everyday. Stay strong and we're here for you.

werekid · 10th Sep 2009, 02:29 AM

she maybe gone but she will live forever in your memories and your heart

waitingsucks · 11th Sep 2009, 02:25 AM

My grandma is in pretty bad shape also, she had a stroke which in turn result in her complete loss of balance and recently her husband (my grandfather) passed. It's all very sad, but unfortunately just one of the parts of life. I guess all we can do is be there with our family and form a support network. And yes it is the strangest feeling, I can't even begin to describe our sadness when our grandparents get to the end of their lives.
Hope you feel better

Mirko · 12th Sep 2009, 09:56 PM

8th Sep 2009, 06:39 PM	#1
WhiteFox Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but some family Location: Az Lake Havasu Age: 22 Posts: 231 Join Date: Jul 2008	Grandma so yea my grandma is moving quite a ways away. She has cancer and to be honest I dont think shes winning. I was helping my family move all of the stuff out and I got to thinking about how sad it actually is. Her house that I have known for years is now just an empty house. So many memories and time spent there and now its nothing. I imagine in a few years I will be doing this again when she is gone and I can barely think of how I will feel. All her possessions which to me and the ordinary person are just things that have no meaning but everything in that house has a meaning to her. All of it is special. I dont know it was just a weird feeling and its so weird I almost cant explain it. I just wanted to rant and get it off my chest is all Fox

8th Sep 2009, 07:05 PM	#2
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: Grandma __________________ Some of us are at different harmonics, but we all have the same fundamental frequency.

8th Sep 2009, 07:35 PM	#3
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: Grandma Well I'm sorry you're going through that. Sadly it is something that everyone, at some point in our lives, must go through. __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

8th Sep 2009, 07:45 PM	#4
Miles D Rude... and not ginger. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: queer Out Status: everyone Location: San Diego, CA ⇒ Great Barrington, MA Age: 20 Posts: 1,171 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Grandma I know exactly how you feel. When my grandma had her first stroke (she had a few more that eventually ended her life) my mom and I packed up all of her stuff. I was the last one in her house, and it felt so weird to see it completely empty. I hope your grandma is around for as long as she can be. __________________ Bowties are cool. Fezzes are cool.

9th Sep 2009, 11:29 AM	#5
carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Grandma I'm so sorry (hugs) my Grandma has demensia and her brain has just totally gone I remember having to pack up her house i spent alot of time at and the thought of other people living in it just got me so upset i feel for you __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

9th Sep 2009, 11:48 AM	#6
Eleanor Rigby Filip's sidekick EC Advisor Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out as straight ally Location: France Age: 32 Posts: 5,400 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Grandma I'm very sorry about your grand-mother I know how important grand-parents are in our lifes. I still have my 4 grand-parents, but 3 of them are in a pretty bad shape now. It's hard to see them getting older and getting health problems. Cherish the time you can spend with her. The moments we spend with our grand-parents now are the good memories we'll have tomorow. __________________ "Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of another, always at the same time as an end and never simply as a means." Immanuel Kant

9th Sep 2009, 11:35 PM	#7
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Grandma It's always a hard thing to go through. I had to move my Grandmother's "life" around,twice. When she left her own home,to go to an apt.It was so hard. Then moving her from her apt. to a nursing home,was bad,too. I know it broke her heart and my heart broke for her. I think this is the hardest part of life. I still miss my grandmother and she's been gone 16 years. I'm sorry you're going through this,but the good part is,you have many fond memories. __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

9th Sep 2009, 11:49 PM	#8
Gerry We're all a little mad! EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Las Vegas Age: 24 Posts: 5,551 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Grandma Hold on to the memories you have with her, I think that's the only thing you can do at this stage. We all have fond memories of our grandparents and it's so hard to see them go. I lost my grandma 3 years ago and I still miss talking to her everyday. Stay strong and we're here for you. __________________ "Everybody's journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality".-James Baldwin

10th Sep 2009, 02:29 AM	#9
werekid EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: kentucky Age: 19 Posts: 345 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: Grandma she maybe gone but she will live forever in your memories and your heart

11th Sep 2009, 02:25 AM	#10
waitingsucks Rainbow Philosopher Full Member Gender: XY Orientation: Guylove (between 2 guys) Out Status: 3 people. Location: Melbourne, Victoria, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 2,736 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Grandma My grandma is in pretty bad shape also, she had a stroke which in turn result in her complete loss of balance and recently her husband (my grandfather) passed. It's all very sad, but unfortunately just one of the parts of life. I guess all we can do is be there with our family and form a support network. And yes it is the strangest feeling, I can't even begin to describe our sadness when our grandparents get to the end of their lives. Hope you feel better __________________ "Do you think so little of me that if I had a choice, I'd choose to live my life dodging prejudice and discrimination?" What's all this stuff about choice? You are the way you are and no one can tell you contrary to what you know in your heart.

12th Sep 2009, 09:56 PM	#11
Mirko Molitva Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 35 Posts: 10,052 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Grandma __________________ ~ Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are ~

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