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RaeofLite · 20th Sep 2009, 10:29 PM

... so thisis my first real year of getting to know the dating scene and being true to my gay self.

I have a question...
Who pays for the bill generally? Should it go to the person who asked for the date, whoever wants to offer? Or split?

And... traveling. What to tell the hotel checkout counter in a possibly conservative area if theres two women/dudes (should you lie)?

Just want to hear your opinions/thoughts.

Greggers · 20th Sep 2009, 11:12 PM

Well for paying the bill, it depends on the type of person i was dating. I dont know how to describe it, but basically I am probably more of a submissive person. If i was dating someone who was a dominating type person, im sure they would pay. If i was dating someone who was also more of a submissive person id figure we might split it. (I know those words dont really fit, but its either that or "power top" and "power bottom"

take your pick)

And for traveling, if figure since im cheep id always want a one bed room if i was with my partner. I guess you could still lie, but it would be fishy. I dont think id go to a hotel at which i was afraid to hint at the fact im gay anyways though, so i dont think that would be a problem for me.

shimmersky · 20th Sep 2009, 11:16 PM

Whoever suggested the date / gave the invitation pays.
Or, y'all can rock-paper-scissors it out. Like adults. :P

They probably won't say, "Wait a minute, are you two going to have sex??" They're probably just going to say, "Here's your room key, ma'am. Enjoy your stay."

20th Sep 2009, 10:29 PM	#1
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Dating and Travel Guidelines for LGBTQ ... so thisis my first real year of getting to know the dating scene and being true to my gay self. I have a question... Who pays for the bill generally? Should it go to the person who asked for the date, whoever wants to offer? Or split? And... traveling. What to tell the hotel checkout counter in a possibly conservative area if theres two women/dudes (should you lie)? Just want to hear your opinions/thoughts. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

20th Sep 2009, 11:12 PM	#2
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Dating and Travel Guidelines for LGBTQ Well for paying the bill, it depends on the type of person i was dating. I dont know how to describe it, but basically I am probably more of a submissive person. If i was dating someone who was a dominating type person, im sure they would pay. If i was dating someone who was also more of a submissive person id figure we might split it. (I know those words dont really fit, but its either that or "power top" and "power bottom" take your pick) And for traveling, if figure since im cheep id always want a one bed room if i was with my partner. I guess you could still lie, but it would be fishy. I dont think id go to a hotel at which i was afraid to hint at the fact im gay anyways though, so i dont think that would be a problem for me. __________________ "It's a male duck."

20th Sep 2009, 11:16 PM	#3
shimmersky Careful chaos Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Everyone except extended family Location: Texas & Oklahoma Age: 21 Posts: 158 Join Date: Jul 2009	Re: Dating and Travel Guidelines for LGBTQ Whoever suggested the date / gave the invitation pays. Or, y'all can rock-paper-scissors it out. Like adults. :P They probably won't say, "Wait a minute, are you two going to have sex??" They're probably just going to say, "Here's your room key, ma'am. Enjoy your stay." __________________ Pride is the opposite of shame.