How do you know? For sure...

You just know what you like.

Vagina? No.
Penis? Oh yes, me likey.

It varies from person to person. Some people are emotionally attracted to girls and sexually attracted to guys...

It really just varies.

 

Its mostly the attraction, who do you feel to lean towards to guys or girls, like who did you tend to get crushes on. I mean we can all date anyone but that doesnt prove it, who do you feel is right to be with. Its whats inside that counts.

 

Well...I have identified as bisexual since I was about 14. Puberty-ish age, I suppose. I started noticing that not only did I like boys...I liked...girls.

The problem is, I'm still not 100% about it. I probably won't ever bee 100% about it.

Some people on here gave me some great advice when I had a problem like this: don't worry about the label. You like who you like, and that's that. If you click with someone, no matter their gender, then you click.

 

My advice. Ditch the labels and run it, what ever it is.

See a cute guy, go chat him up. See a cute girl, go chat her up. Just keep your mind open and it will become clear in time.

 

I don't know for sure. When I was little I had crushes on boys, but I would also have what I now think were crushes on girls- including movie characters. Like the girl in Hercules? Yeah, I had a crush on her.

Anyways, the thought of having sex with a boy isn't appealing to me. I can think boys are hot with clothes on, but penis... not so much. Girls are just... better for me.

So I don't know. And right now that's fine with me... maybe I'll figure it out in the future, maybe I never will. Whatever.

 

Well I for sure know I'm gay because I can't ever see myself getting past the "friends" stage with a girl. Sure there may be a great lady out there for me, and if we find each other will I give it a shot? Sure, but I doubt that the one for me is a woman. I'm sexually and emotionally attracted to guys, so I call myself gay.

I'd say don't rush to decide what you are or are not. Just let it happen. Sexuality and attraction aren't some precise science that we can measure and calculate, they are bigger than all of us.

 

Because boys are icky

In all seriousness, how does any straight person know for an absolute fact that they are straight? Sexuality is fluid, and though I consider myself a 5.5-6 on the Kinsey scale, I could wake up tomorrow and find a guy hot.

But for arguments sake i hit puberty and felt like a man cause I thought girls were hot.

 

I knew something was a bit off when I was 5.

By 11/12 I definately knew I was into boys. I just always pictured myself having a wedding with a boy, or holding hands, etc. Girls never really entered the picture...lol.

 

Basically the fact that the idea of sex with a girl is highly unappealing to me. I'm actually still emotionally attracted to girls somewhat, but sexually it would just never work out. So I didn't know until very late, both because I was a late bloomer and I had always gotten crushes on girls. I'd place myself at a three on the Kinsey scale emotionally (meaning 50/50 bisexual), but at a 5.5-6 physically (meaning almost completely gay).

 

I had tons of crushes on women and I was sexually attracted to them in highschool, but thought it was just something all girls felt. Haha... how wrong was I eh? But I was dating boys all the while (thinking it would go away while I didn't tell anyone till uni). Then I started dating guys and kept finding female friends attractive in uni. I knew for sure the first time I was with a woman (because with a dude, I didn't feel that chemistry: physically, sexually or emotionally). I can laugh and have a fun time with guys, but not in the way I can with women.

*shrug*

 

This.

Also. For myself, the way I know, is because I know. ^_^ That's how I know, I don't know about anyone else, but I know thats how I know, because I know ^_^

*explodes from "know" overload*

 

I've honestly never been sure. However, I've always leaned more towards guys...so I decided on gay. When I was finally coming out to myself, I sat down and counted all the major crushes in my life. I could count the female ones on one hand...guys, even my toes wouldn't be enough.

 

i was kinda in between growing up. i remember liking guys and not knowing what it was when i was as young as 7, but in 3rd 4th and 5th grades i liked some girls, and i still noticed some guys, though i still didnt realize what it was.

but after 6th grade i started really liking guys bodies but it took a few years to realize that i didnt like girls. and i know i'm gay because girls are just a complete turnoff to me.

theres no definite science to sexuality, and i hear it can fluctuate a lot in certain people. trying to put an exact label on yourself might make things a lot harder. try to ignore what you should be, just figure it out based on what your instinct wants.

 

you dont allways have to just know sometimes it can sneek up on you and slap you that your not straight. but like i say and others have dont label yourself your sexuality doesent define you just be yourself and take it how it comes

 

Just to add some thoughts on the issue. There is a common belief that girls are lovers and guys are lusters. What I mean by this is that it is easy and safe to get into an emotional relationship with a woman because women in our society tend to be the more emotion-oriented of the two sexes. Meanwhile, men are usually portrayed as only thinking with their 'little head' and/or their stomach, so they aren't usually trusted with emotional issues and more with immediate/fast attraction, carnal cravings, and quick gratification.

This belief has led a lot of people to come to the conclusion that it is more difficult or even impossible to form emotional relationships with men. This can be a source of major confusion when you are physically attracted to them but cannot get around the idea that woman are the nurturers and emotional ones. There's a common theme of "I can see myself in a long-term friendship with a girl but only having sex with a guy" that this plays into. This, in turn, can create the feeling that you are attracted to both sexes in some way.

If this sounds like you, it might be worth examining why you find each sex attractive. Are there any assumptions being made such as "men can't form the emotional bonds women can" or "women understand me better" that can't really be proven? If so, it might indicate that you may not have what would technically qualify as an attraction to women at all, but more of a kinship to them. Someone once said here that "the proof is in the porn" and it's pretty much true. The frequency of women to men that can arouse you (not necessarily in porn, but just by looks or personality) will tell you how gay or bi you are.

 

I agree with that. Also remember that it can vary over time. Someone may feel they are totally gay then end up meeting and falling in love with someone of the opposite sex. It doesn't matter. Just go with what feels right for you now.

 

I think there is no way you can ever know for sure.
Think about it. To be 100% gay, never attracted to women, you'd have to meet every woman that ever was born and will be born. Holy shoot, just thinking about it makes my head spin!
Most people have "exceptions to the rule", and so it comes down to which label most suits you. A lot of people who identify as gay have opposite-sex relationships, and tons of straight people have same-sex relationships.
Just go with the flow

 

wooho, first post for me on here.

i like the whole attitude of see what happens. All my life i have always thought of myself gettin a girlfriend, married and stuff. over the past few years i had alot of family problems and now i am startin to think differently. god knows what the end result will be when i do decide what im into. thats why i decide to explore.