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28th Sep 2009, 05:51 PM

Here is a link to former ex gay survivor testomies. The ex gay movement organisations like exodus has screwed up thousands of people. The link is:
http://www.truthwinsout.org/category/videos/survivors/

Anyway a few years ago I was a part of an ex gay ministry called Exodus, and another conservative christian organisation supposed to cure people from homosexuality. Anyway the guys that went through it were never cured from homosexuality. Anyway the teachings of it and the churches screwed up the best years of my life. I only began to accept my sexuality at a slow process starting a few years ago, after I turned 30 and that is considered old for many on this site.

**Lexington** · 28th Sep 2009, 09:40 PM

Better late than not at all, though.

Lex

Kenko · 29th Sep 2009, 09:31 AM

The "cure rates" as reported by those organizations are absurdly low. Like 30 %

And of those, a good number revert to their homosexual ways before long (sometimes after a failed hetero marriage), another portion live asexually, and another portion work for the ex-gay ministry... until they revert to their homo ways.

beckyg · 29th Sep 2009, 03:49 PM

Thanks for speaking out against these organizations. They are very harmful.

xequar · 29th Sep 2009, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Kenko

The "cure rates" as reported by those organizations are absurdly low. Like 30 %

And of those, a good number revert to their homosexual ways before long (sometimes after a failed hetero marriage), another portion live asexually, and another portion work for the ex-gay ministry... until they revert to their homo ways.

And keep in mind that they define "cured" as anyone who goes through the program and SELF-REPORTS that they are less interested in the same sex. Generally it's mostly aversion therapy, that they are less interested in the same gender not because they are less attracted, but because they're fearful of the outcome if they were to have a same-sex relationship.

30th Sep 2009, 12:05 AM

Well when I was going ex gay organistations I was failing university and did not really feel good about myself. It stunted my goals and dreams. Since I began to accept myself as gay my university performance gradually went better. I still have self esteam issues but now I feel more at peace at myself and happier than when I was in the closet and thought that being gay was so wrong.

Revan · 30th Sep 2009, 12:31 AM

I'm sure you all know who Peterson Toscano is, but if not:

Peterson Toscano Vlogs

1st Oct 2009, 01:44 PM

cure? sexuality desicions aint a disease hahaha

Gaetan · 1st Oct 2009, 02:01 PM

And, really, they're not decisions either.

1st Oct 2009, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Gaetan

And, really, they're not decisions either.

well this is true but is the first word that came to mind.

fruitfly90 · 2nd Oct 2009, 02:45 AM

yeah i mean i didnt exactly choose to be bullied and shouted at in the street for being gay, i just chose to accept it and stand up for who i am.

28th Sep 2009, 05:51 PM	#1
dude99 Guest Posts: n/a	Former ex gay survivor testomines. Here is a link to former ex gay survivor testomies. The ex gay movement organisations like exodus has screwed up thousands of people. The link is: http://www.truthwinsout.org/category/videos/survivors/ Anyway a few years ago I was a part of an ex gay ministry called Exodus, and another conservative christian organisation supposed to cure people from homosexuality. Anyway the guys that went through it were never cured from homosexuality. Anyway the teachings of it and the churches screwed up the best years of my life. I only began to accept my sexuality at a slow process starting a few years ago, after I turned 30 and that is considered old for many on this site.

28th Sep 2009, 09:40 PM	#2
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Former ex gay survivor testomines. Better late than not at all, though. Lex

29th Sep 2009, 09:31 AM	#3
Kenko EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends + parents Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,407 Join Date: Jan 2007	Re: Former ex gay survivor testomines. The "cure rates" as reported by those organizations are absurdly low. Like 30 % And of those, a good number revert to their homosexual ways before long (sometimes after a failed hetero marriage), another portion live asexually, and another portion work for the ex-gay ministry... until they revert to their homo ways. __________________ Some of us are at different harmonics, but we all have the same fundamental frequency.

29th Sep 2009, 03:49 PM	#4
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Former ex gay survivor testomines. Thanks for speaking out against these organizations. They are very harmful. __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

30th Sep 2009, 12:05 AM	#6
dude99 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Former ex gay survivor testomines. Well when I was going ex gay organistations I was failing university and did not really feel good about myself. It stunted my goals and dreams. Since I began to accept myself as gay my university performance gradually went better. I still have self esteam issues but now I feel more at peace at myself and happier than when I was in the closet and thought that being gay was so wrong.

30th Sep 2009, 12:31 AM	#7
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,562 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Former ex gay survivor testomines. I'm sure you all know who Peterson Toscano is, but if not: Peterson Toscano Vlogs

1st Oct 2009, 01:44 PM	#8
gaz83 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Former ex gay survivor testomines. cure? sexuality desicions aint a disease hahaha

1st Oct 2009, 02:01 PM	#9
Gaetan DON'T TOUCH THE HAT! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Immediate Family and Friends Location: Idaho, USA Age: 25 Posts: 1,098 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Former ex gay survivor testomines. And, really, they're not decisions either. __________________ Those who say it cannot be done, shouldn't interrupt the people doing it.

2nd Oct 2009, 02:45 AM	#11
fruitfly90 Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: I kissed a girl, and she wrote a song about it. Out Status: Its pretty obvious that im gay. Location: Plymouth Age: 21 Posts: 27 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Former ex gay survivor testomines. yeah i mean i didnt exactly choose to be bullied and shouted at in the street for being gay, i just chose to accept it and stand up for who i am.