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-Michael- · 1st Oct 2009, 04:40 AM

Wooooooooo!

Okay, so since i've been with my boyfriend i've been doing typical boyfriendy things.

Like texting him asking how he is.
Saying i hope he's having a goodtime at a party he's at.

Talking to him on facebook and stuff.
Asking if he wants to do anything.

THANK THE UNIVERSE i don't have to anymore.

We're still together aha for those who may have misunderstood that last line.

But i was talking to his friend earlier today.
And she was like

He doesn't think he'll ever find someone who will be his world, he just likes his space.

YESS!!
Thank-god!

Unfortunately this means my previous attempts of being nice and boyfriend-like has just made me seem clingy.
BUT now i can go back to being myself.
Not giving a fuck about anything.
And i can let him do all the planning of when he wants to see me (if ever)
YESSS!!!!

I was annoying myself with all this being nice lark.

Now I can just be me again!

The only thing is, i can't be my usually arse self to people he may come across, as that way people may not like him because they don't like me.

Which kind of sucks, but it's a sacrifice i'll take.

And the whole 'never find someone to be his world' does this mean he thinks he'll never fall in love?
I'm not sure if i should be happy about that.
I mean right now i am, spesh if it means he won't love me.
Because then i know i won't love him.
So i won't have anything to worry about.

I know i'm going to be keeping myself at a distance, but thats the way i want it.
That way, when he breaks up with me, i can swiftly move on with a big smile on my face.

I don't know if i'm asking advice or just stating facts here.
I felt like i needed to tell someone.

George · 1st Oct 2009, 05:24 AM

Congratulations. You have officially declared yourself the woman of the relationship.

Just Adam · 1st Oct 2009, 06:07 AM

youve confused me your happy he doesent love you and you dont love him but you are going out together????

he is basically said all be it 3rd party that he will never be truelly together with someoen and thats good?

that would tear me up :S

RainInAfrica · 1st Oct 2009, 08:39 AM

God damn ! Im so jealous - My bf is so fregging clingy !

KeithJ108 · 1st Oct 2009, 11:13 AM

What is the point of having a bf who just wants his own space?

-Michael- · 1st Oct 2009, 01:10 PM

Noooo like

when we're together
we're together and all over each other and lovey dovey

but when we're apart we're not absolutely desperate to see each other

and you don't have to love someone to be with them
i mean i love him...but i'm not IN love (you know, that whole crap)
which is good, because i'd hate to be in love and then ruin it
(which i know i will)

i think i've confused myself now
but what i do know is
that I AM NOT THE WOMAN OF THE RELATIONSHIP
and that i plan to be with him for a very long time

and that i'm very happy

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Originally Posted by Just Adam

youve confused me your happy he doesent love you and you dont love him but you are going out together????

he is basically said all be it 3rd party that he will never be truelly together with someoen and thats good?

that would tear me up :S

and we're 17!

Jeez!

I don't want that commitment!

1st Oct 2009, 01:19 PM

you know you shouldnt think too much about it if that wanting space comment bothers you. i myself cant deal with having someone constantly wanting to be around.

1st Oct 2009, 01:35 PM

Um, congratulations? You have described what I hope is a wonderful relationship for you, but would be a shitty relationship for me. It sounds like you're only boyfriends when you just happen to be around each other.

PS- It's called a period. Or a full stop.

-Michael- · 2nd Oct 2009, 01:15 AM

Nonono

it's hard to explain.

BASICALLY there is no clinginess.
We'll talk, see each other in college.
Still get cuggles and kisses
But we don't need to be all over each other and dream about each other 24/7.
Also he seems very determined to not break up with me. Which i guess is a really good bonus.

And what are you talking about, periods and full-stops?

Just Adam · 2nd Oct 2009, 03:03 AM

im still confused but think the fog is clearing a little on this...i dont liek overly clingy either ..tehn again ive never had that problem but still it would drive me insane...

like txting you a hundred times a day >.>

but you love each other jsut not in love.... :S you either love each other or dont theres not exceptions or types of love so ill assume you love each other very much its easier that way lol...

and you both seem commited wanting to be with each other for a very long time...so it sounds good lol...i think ...yes good...wait...yes its good...i think lol haha

aslong as your both happy together no matter how it plays out... aslong as wherever you are in your relationship your both commited to each other even if you dont like teh commitment that you wont cheat on each other then its all good...

1st Oct 2009, 04:40 AM	#1
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,199 Join Date: Jun 2008	Oh thank crap for that! Wooooooooo! Okay, so since i've been with my boyfriend i've been doing typical boyfriendy things. Like texting him asking how he is. Saying i hope he's having a goodtime at a party he's at. Talking to him on facebook and stuff. Asking if he wants to do anything. THANK THE UNIVERSE i don't have to anymore. We're still together aha for those who may have misunderstood that last line. But i was talking to his friend earlier today. And she was like He doesn't think he'll ever find someone who will be his world, he just likes his space. YESS!! Thank-god! Unfortunately this means my previous attempts of being nice and boyfriend-like has just made me seem clingy. BUT now i can go back to being myself. Not giving a fuck about anything. And i can let him do all the planning of when he wants to see me (if ever) YESSS!!!! I was annoying myself with all this being nice lark. Now I can just be me again! The only thing is, i can't be my usually arse self to people he may come across, as that way people may not like him because they don't like me. Which kind of sucks, but it's a sacrifice i'll take. And the whole 'never find someone to be his world' does this mean he thinks he'll never fall in love? I'm not sure if i should be happy about that. I mean right now i am, spesh if it means he won't love me. Because then i know i won't love him. So i won't have anything to worry about. I know i'm going to be keeping myself at a distance, but thats the way i want it. That way, when he breaks up with me, i can swiftly move on with a big smile on my face. I don't know if i'm asking advice or just stating facts here. I felt like i needed to tell someone.

1st Oct 2009, 05:24 AM	#2
George Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 2,387 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Oh thank crap for that! Congratulations. You have officially declared yourself the woman of the relationship.

1st Oct 2009, 06:07 AM	#3
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Oh thank crap for that! youve confused me your happy he doesent love you and you dont love him but you are going out together???? he is basically said all be it 3rd party that he will never be truelly together with someoen and thats good? that would tear me up :S __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

1st Oct 2009, 08:39 AM	#4
RainInAfrica Ec's Irishman Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: ''Gay as a goose'' Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Ireland, Dublin Age: 17 Posts: 364 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Oh thank crap for that! God damn ! Im so jealous - My bf is so fregging clingy ! __________________ Boredom has taken over. “If a bullet should go through my head let that bullet go through every closet door.” - Harvey Milk.

1st Oct 2009, 11:13 AM	#5
KeithJ108 Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Northern Ireland Age: 25 Posts: 101 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Oh thank crap for that! What is the point of having a bf who just wants his own space? __________________ "We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full." - Marcel Proust

1st Oct 2009, 01:19 PM	#7
gaz83 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Oh thank crap for that! you know you shouldnt think too much about it if that wanting space comment bothers you. i myself cant deal with having someone constantly wanting to be around.

1st Oct 2009, 01:35 PM	#8
Drizzt DoUrden Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Oh thank crap for that! Um, congratulations? You have described what I hope is a wonderful relationship for you, but would be a shitty relationship for me. It sounds like you're only boyfriends when you just happen to be around each other. PS- It's called a period. Or a full stop.

2nd Oct 2009, 01:15 AM	#9
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,199 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Oh thank crap for that! Nonono it's hard to explain. BASICALLY there is no clinginess. We'll talk, see each other in college. Still get cuggles and kisses But we don't need to be all over each other and dream about each other 24/7. Also he seems very determined to not break up with me. Which i guess is a really good bonus. And what are you talking about, periods and full-stops?

2nd Oct 2009, 03:03 AM	#10
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Oh thank crap for that! im still confused but think the fog is clearing a little on this...i dont liek overly clingy either ..tehn again ive never had that problem but still it would drive me insane... like txting you a hundred times a day >.> but you love each other jsut not in love.... :S you either love each other or dont theres not exceptions or types of love so ill assume you love each other very much its easier that way lol... and you both seem commited wanting to be with each other for a very long time...so it sounds good lol...i think ...yes good...wait...yes its good...i think lol haha aslong as your both happy together no matter how it plays out... aslong as wherever you are in your relationship your both commited to each other even if you dont like teh commitment that you wont cheat on each other then its all good... __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

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