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gaius · 7th Oct 2009, 05:54 PM

I told a guy i like that i was gay and he didn't believe me, does anyone else feel like a hetrosexual stereotype?

Cheria · 7th Oct 2009, 06:03 PM

Not anymore, I don't.

Steve · 7th Oct 2009, 06:09 PM

i feel the pain my brother wont belive me.

Cynic · 7th Oct 2009, 06:14 PM

There's such a thing as a heterosexual stereotype? ಠ_ಠ

**Owen** · 7th Oct 2009, 06:34 PM

People tend to be surprised when I tell them. Aside from my hair, I'm not that obvious, and there are a lot of straight guys here with long hair, so it doesn't count for much.

HazMattic_Force · 7th Oct 2009, 06:41 PM

sometimes before i get to know anyone i dont say anything and it tends to lead anyone without a "gaydar" to think im straight and people with "gaydar" notice it immediately almost so lol

donnie5 · 7th Oct 2009, 06:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gaius

I told a guy i like that i was gay and he didn't believe me, does anyone else feel like a hetrosexual stereotype?

lol this is funny because i had the exact same problem when i was coming out know one believed me they all thought i was just joking around.

Steve · 7th Oct 2009, 06:51 PM

what you do when some one dosnt belive you is you say want me to prove it ?.
then you pretend to go kiss them

Cheria · 7th Oct 2009, 06:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cynic

There's such a thing as a heterosexual stereotype? ಠ_ಠ

Macho, watches sports while drinking beer, etc.

ADTR fan · 7th Oct 2009, 07:04 PM

no one thinks i am either! cept for one friend who was like... "i kinda guessed when you told me you wanted to talk to me bout something" then again, its a little different for bisexual people i think

haelmarie · 7th Oct 2009, 07:17 PM

I'm the exact opposite. Everyone I've told has known I was gay since before I have.

gaius · 7th Oct 2009, 07:31 PM

i should point out the guy i told was gay, and by hetro sterotype i mean drinks beer doesnt pay attention to fashion, isnt camp in the slightest hangs around with straight guys most of the time not just women....etc.

Jose Carioca · 7th Oct 2009, 07:38 PM

Yeah, most people I tell are surprised.

Joe622 · 7th Oct 2009, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by gaius

And by hetro sterotype i mean drinks beer doesnt pay attention to fashion, isnt camp in the slightest hangs around with straight guys most of the time not just women....etc.

This pretty much describes me, and yet I'm gay.. funny the way things work out, lol. The one person that I've come out to so far didn't suspect that I was gay at all.. when I told her I had something to tell her she thought I had some sort of terminal disease.

7th Oct 2009, 07:52 PM

most people dont believe me. even gay people have to ask me while we're dancing, its happened. its so annoying. i wish i was a little more obvious.

stratavos · 7th Oct 2009, 08:52 PM

... it shouldn't matter too much... you know the truth, and same with any person you decide to be intimate with. Other than that, Quite a few guys out there (myself included) would be happy with a guy who isn't flaming.

Gaetan · 7th Oct 2009, 08:56 PM

I don't know how people will react. I honestly don't think I act "gay" in any way. I'm a fashion train wreck, I know my way around the hardware store, and I can change a tire. But, still, I'm not the most masculine guy either--I like romance films, I don't drink, don't like sports...

...Still, in my opinion, we need more "heterosexual stereotypes" to offset the flamers to some extent. Show the ignorant that we're just as diverse as any other group.

And, as stratavos said, some of us would rather spend time with a non flamer.

7th Oct 2009, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by stratavos

... it shouldn't matter too much... you know the truth, and same with any person you decide to be intimate with. Other than that, Quite a few guys out there (myself included) would be happy with a guy who isn't flaming.

that's not my issue. my issue is that a guy that i would like to decide to be intimate with can't tell. i wouldnt care if i had a boyfriend.

endless poetry · 7th Oct 2009, 09:03 PM

I`m kind of fem

but everyone save two ppl I`ve told/dropped enormously huge hints on
say I`m just a fem straight guy....
ppl who dont know me well say I`m gay though... wth

kramer362 · 7th Oct 2009, 09:05 PM

Everyone I meet assumes I'm straight, so it's always awkward when guys nudge me and say something about a hot girl. I'm thinking yeah she's nice to look at but that's it...

And not that it happens all the time, but getting come onto by girls is a bit awkward. This is a consequence of not being truly out though.

7th Oct 2009, 05:54 PM	#1
gaius EC's Geordie Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi/gay Out Status: Out to friends, family and anyone who wants to kno Location: Lancaster University Age: 22 Posts: 397 Join Date: Dec 2008	Noone thinks i'm gay! I told a guy i like that i was gay and he didn't believe me, does anyone else feel like a hetrosexual stereotype? __________________ "Life happens without warning"

7th Oct 2009, 06:03 PM	#2
Cheria にひひっ♪ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost everyone Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 636 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! Not anymore, I don't. __________________

7th Oct 2009, 06:09 PM	#3
Steve EC's Soldier! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sargeant sexual Out Status: whoever asks Location: Born in australia, but now living some where else Age: 21 Posts: 2,273 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! i feel the pain my brother wont belive me. __________________ Soldier " there is no room for that in my pocklet" commander " if there is room in your heart then there in your pocket" Soldier " i cant fit my gf in there" -r " have you tried ? until you try you dont know"

7th Oct 2009, 06:14 PM	#4
Cynic Still Grey Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: UK Posts: 241 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! There's such a thing as a heterosexual stereotype? ಠ_ಠ __________________ Would buy you roses if you asked.

7th Oct 2009, 06:34 PM	#5
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,870 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! People tend to be surprised when I tell them. Aside from my hair, I'm not that obvious, and there are a lot of straight guys here with long hair, so it doesn't count for much. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

7th Oct 2009, 06:41 PM	#6
HazMattic_Force EC's Residential Raver Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Little Rock, Arkansas Age: 19 Posts: 696 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! sometimes before i get to know anyone i dont say anything and it tends to lead anyone without a "gaydar" to think im straight and people with "gaydar" notice it immediately almost so lol __________________ Humanity is Sadism at its Finest .

7th Oct 2009, 06:51 PM	#8
Steve EC's Soldier! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sargeant sexual Out Status: whoever asks Location: Born in australia, but now living some where else Age: 21 Posts: 2,273 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! what you do when some one dosnt belive you is you say want me to prove it ?. then you pretend to go kiss them __________________ Soldier " there is no room for that in my pocklet" commander " if there is room in your heart then there in your pocket" Soldier " i cant fit my gf in there" -r " have you tried ? until you try you dont know"

7th Oct 2009, 07:04 PM	#10
ADTR fan EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: NJ Age: 17 Posts: 461 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! no one thinks i am either! cept for one friend who was like... "i kinda guessed when you told me you wanted to talk to me bout something" then again, its a little different for bisexual people i think

7th Oct 2009, 07:17 PM	#11
haelmarie it's ok to be afraid Full Member Gender: No. Orientation: No. Age: 18 Posts: 767 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! I'm the exact opposite. Everyone I've told has known I was gay since before I have.

7th Oct 2009, 07:31 PM	#12
gaius EC's Geordie Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bi/gay Out Status: Out to friends, family and anyone who wants to kno Location: Lancaster University Age: 22 Posts: 397 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! i should point out the guy i told was gay, and by hetro sterotype i mean drinks beer doesnt pay attention to fashion, isnt camp in the slightest hangs around with straight guys most of the time not just women....etc. __________________ "Life happens without warning"

7th Oct 2009, 07:38 PM	#13
Jose Carioca 1/3 of the Three Caballeros Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: M/M Out Status: A few people Location: San Diego Age: 20 Posts: 287 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! Yeah, most people I tell are surprised. __________________ It's better to be hated for who you are... .. than loved for who you are not.

7th Oct 2009, 07:52 PM	#15
paco Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! most people dont believe me. even gay people have to ask me while we're dancing, its happened. its so annoying. i wish i was a little more obvious.

7th Oct 2009, 08:52 PM	#16
stratavos professional lurker Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: bisexual prefering males Out Status: don't ask don't tell (ask and I'll tell) Location: oakville(college) and oshawa(hometown) ont, Canada Age: 22 Posts: 1,101 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! ... it shouldn't matter too much... you know the truth, and same with any person you decide to be intimate with. Other than that, Quite a few guys out there (myself included) would be happy with a guy who isn't flaming. __________________ <-is a very bad influence... and definately enjoys it hail lord ilpallazzo!

7th Oct 2009, 08:56 PM	#17
Gaetan DON'T TOUCH THE HAT! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Immediate Family and Friends Location: Idaho, USA Age: 25 Posts: 1,098 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! I don't know how people will react. I honestly don't think I act "gay" in any way. I'm a fashion train wreck, I know my way around the hardware store, and I can change a tire. But, still, I'm not the most masculine guy either--I like romance films, I don't drink, don't like sports... ...Still, in my opinion, we need more "heterosexual stereotypes" to offset the flamers to some extent. Show the ignorant that we're just as diverse as any other group. And, as stratavos said, some of us would rather spend time with a non flamer. __________________ Those who say it cannot be done, shouldn't interrupt the people doing it.

7th Oct 2009, 09:03 PM	#19
endless poetry We're off to see the wizard Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few friends know Location: Ottawa Age: 18 Posts: 547 Join Date: Aug 2009	Re: Noone thinks i'm gay! I`m kind of fem but everyone save two ppl I`ve told/dropped enormously huge hints on say I`m just a fem straight guy.... ppl who dont know me well say I`m gay though... wth __________________ Se eu te pudesse abraçar. Written no book of this life, I am a mere pamphlet who thinks that I am a best selling novel.

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