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Steve · 7th Oct 2009, 05:58 PM

i dont know where to post this so im going to do it here

whats the diffreance between getting a crush on someone and falling in love with some one?

7th Oct 2009, 06:03 PM

This should explain everything:

+ YouTube Video

Cynic · 7th Oct 2009, 06:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Numfarh

This should explain everything:

+ YouTube Video

I don't even feel the need to post a lengthy reply now.

End of thread.

Steve · 7th Oct 2009, 06:09 PM

i dont get it can some one post me the diffrence in words please

7th Oct 2009, 06:42 PM

Crushes= usually don't know the other person really well. generally spurned on by physical attraction. Usually shallow. a "I like you" feeling.

Love = you know the other person, have been with the other person for quite some time. an actual deep feeling.

The video explained it a lot better, though.

Derek the Wolf · 7th Oct 2009, 11:03 PM

A crush is based on physical attraction and superficial knowledge of the person. Even if you know them well, the feeling of love in this sense isn't deep. It can be fleeting or temporary, even though at the time it seems like love.

Love is when you know the person much better and you grow fonder and fonder of them with time, knowing that with the good and the bad you only grow closer. That's not to say you like their bad traits, but you embrace them. Love takes time to develop, it's a much deeper connection. From the time you meet someone 6-9 months would be the minimum for a crush to become love, and typically it needs to be requited to grow into love or it's based on fallacies. Trees need fertile soil to grow.

**Maddy** · 7th Oct 2009, 11:07 PM

Crushes are generally when you don't know someone that well, based on your hopes and expectations about the person. Love comes when you really know them and your feelings just get stronger instead of fading.

mattypants · 7th Oct 2009, 11:41 PM

i think the vid only confused me more >_<

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Derek the Wolf

Trees need fertile soil to grow.

not the ones grown in labs off nutrient rich liquids and crystals

just saying

7th Oct 2009, 11:49 PM

Ahem.
Just to translate:
Like can lead to Like-Like, and Like-Like can lead to Love.
So essentially, a crush can lead to mutual attraction which can then in turn lead to love.
The song and how they feel about each other (sexual mostly and a touch of nerves as they are unsure) are very characteristic of 'crushing'. However, you can't skip from crush to love without the mutual attraction part. Otherwise, it's not love. Love is a two-way street in my opinion.

I thought the video was relevant...

Shevanel · 7th Oct 2009, 11:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Numfarh

Ahem.
Just to translate:
Like can lead to Like-Like, and Like-Like can lead to Love.
So essentially, a crush can lead to mutual attraction which can then in turn lead to love.
The song and how they feel about each other (sexual mostly and a touch of nerves as they are unsure) are very characteristic of 'crushing'. However, you can't skip from crush to love without the mutual attraction part. Otherwise, it's not love. Love is a two-way street in my opinion.

I thought the video was relevant...

The term "Like-Like" always reminds me of Hey Arnold! for some reason xD

But I agree with Corina here. and Pretty much what others have said prior as well

Just Adam · 8th Oct 2009, 04:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SurferDude420

Quote:

Originally Posted by Numfarh

Ahem.
Just to translate:
Like can lead to Like-Like, and Like-Like can lead to Love.
So essentially, a crush can lead to mutual attraction which can then in turn lead to love.
The song and how they feel about each other (sexual mostly and a touch of nerves as they are unsure) are very characteristic of 'crushing'. However, you can't skip from crush to love without the mutual attraction part. Otherwise, it's not love. Love is a two-way street in my opinion.

I thought the video was relevant...

The term "Like-Like" always reminds me of Hey Arnold! for some reason xD

But I agree with Corina here. and Pretty much what others have said prior as well

i miss old football head with his jumper and check shirt round waist

as for crush vs love...crush can be very shallow and more a need than want.. love its more emotional its not based on teh physical more the emotional.... and usually gets you in lot more trouble..

malachite · 8th Oct 2009, 02:39 PM

Crush is an instant attaction based on physical for mental appearences.

Love is something that develops over time. It tends to be things you notice your partner does like:
How he/she smiles at certain things.
A way they laugh
how a certain food makes them feel.

7th Oct 2009, 05:58 PM	#1
Steve EC's Soldier! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sargeant sexual Out Status: whoever asks Location: Born in australia, but now living some where else Age: 21 Posts: 2,273 Join Date: May 2008	crush vr love i dont know where to post this so im going to do it here whats the diffreance between getting a crush on someone and falling in love with some one? __________________ Soldier " there is no room for that in my pocklet" commander " if there is room in your heart then there in your pocket" Soldier " i cant fit my gf in there" -r " have you tried ? until you try you dont know"

7th Oct 2009, 06:09 PM	#4
Steve EC's Soldier! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sargeant sexual Out Status: whoever asks Location: Born in australia, but now living some where else Age: 21 Posts: 2,273 Join Date: May 2008	Re: crush vr love i dont get it can some one post me the diffrence in words please __________________ Soldier " there is no room for that in my pocklet" commander " if there is room in your heart then there in your pocket" Soldier " i cant fit my gf in there" -r " have you tried ? until you try you dont know"

7th Oct 2009, 06:42 PM	#5
Haiiro Guest Posts: n/a	Re: crush vr love Crushes= usually don't know the other person really well. generally spurned on by physical attraction. Usually shallow. a "I like you" feeling. Love = you know the other person, have been with the other person for quite some time. an actual deep feeling. The video explained it a lot better, though.

7th Oct 2009, 11:03 PM	#6
Derek the Wolf Furry Overlord Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Majority Location: Illinois Age: 20 Posts: 1,325 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: crush vr love A crush is based on physical attraction and superficial knowledge of the person. Even if you know them well, the feeling of love in this sense isn't deep. It can be fleeting or temporary, even though at the time it seems like love. Love is when you know the person much better and you grow fonder and fonder of them with time, knowing that with the good and the bad you only grow closer. That's not to say you like their bad traits, but you embrace them. Love takes time to develop, it's a much deeper connection. From the time you meet someone 6-9 months would be the minimum for a crush to become love, and typically it needs to be requited to grow into love or it's based on fallacies. Trees need fertile soil to grow. __________________

7th Oct 2009, 11:07 PM	#7
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,704 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: crush vr love Crushes are generally when you don't know someone that well, based on your hopes and expectations about the person. Love comes when you really know them and your feelings just get stronger instead of fading. __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

7th Oct 2009, 11:49 PM	#9
Numfarh Guest Posts: n/a	Re: crush vr love Ahem. Just to translate: Like can lead to Like-Like, and Like-Like can lead to Love. So essentially, a crush can lead to mutual attraction which can then in turn lead to love. The song and how they feel about each other (sexual mostly and a touch of nerves as they are unsure) are very characteristic of 'crushing'. However, you can't skip from crush to love without the mutual attraction part. Otherwise, it's not love. Love is a two-way street in my opinion. I thought the video was relevant...

8th Oct 2009, 02:39 PM	#12
malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: crush vr love Crush is an instant attaction based on physical for mental appearences. Love is something that develops over time. It tends to be things you notice your partner does like: How he/she smiles at certain things. A way they laugh how a certain food makes them feel. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.

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