Gay a mile away... - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

Daniel · 14th Oct 2009, 06:47 PM

Okay so I joined the LGBT group at my university.

And in this group there is a huge variety of people. Nicknames are given and what not.

But a topic I found interesting was that there are people that can be told are gay "from a mile away." I was labeled as such as well as my tom-boy friend Chris. We jokingly call each other "Mile Gays."

Have you ever encountered people you could "tell" were gay from a distance? It is a question of flamboyancy, butch-i-ness, and gaydar. Is it possible to tell people are gay from a mile away?

Totoro · 14th Oct 2009, 07:00 PM

I guess people probably consider me that- or at least any high school friends I have think I'm gay. Otherwise nobody else seems to say so.

There's a mass aura of flamboyancy at my high school, coming from one person. I don't know if he's gay or not but I've heard many say he was...

I think this is a matter of fitting stereotypes >_< although some people who fit the stereotypes aren't always what they seem- so it's not always possible to tell...

RaeofLite · 14th Oct 2009, 07:01 PM

If I decide to "butch up" once in a while with guy jeans, a shirt, lack of make up etc, I nmight be considered a "mile gay".

That's cute though, I think I'll start using it.

But if I'm dressed femme, or just casual I don't think I'll be considered that, unless I bring out a wallet or my rainbow keychain.

Greggers · 14th Oct 2009, 07:08 PM

Apparently im a "Mile Gay"

I mean, i know i do everything and then some that is stereotypical of a gay person when it comes to my hobbies and such, but i never thought i looked gay. I dress in alot of American Eagle and brands like it so im not wearing a giant pride flag or anything.

Apparently i act and talk gay though? Ive been outed at random quite often and thats what its always traced back to. (ok, that and "OMG i want to jump Ryan Reynolds bones right now!") I dont have a lisp, but i talk like a woman im told : - / and i often act like a 15 year old girl so i can see how that would give me away...

Revan · 14th Oct 2009, 07:11 PM

Apparently when I was in high school, everyone knew I was gay two years before I knew. :S Go figure

Daniel · 14th Oct 2009, 07:14 PM

You see I was told it was the sling backs that gave me away...

AtomicCafe · 14th Oct 2009, 08:39 PM

Haha, that's a brilliant name! I'm going to start using it, too. :P

I've never had a person assume I was gay... until today, when a girl I've spoken to maybe once asked me how the Pride Parade was. Granted, I had on two gay pride buttons, a rainbow stamped on my hand, and a gay shirt.... Just on days like these!

Mickey · 14th Oct 2009, 09:06 PM

I don't know about a"mile" away,but ,yeah,I got the LOOK! I ,too,think it's us stereotypical gays that kind of stand out.
A lot of people tell me I "look" gay,and that's cool with me! I don't wear the flannel shirts of have my hair real short,but I do love my jeans and tees!
The funny thing is,my friend,Ann,looks more gay the I do and she's super straight!
She's been asked,on a few occasions,if she's gay. It doesn't bother her,in the least. (which I find cool!) I guess my point (and I do have one!) is that you can't always judge a book by it's cover.
But I definitely think it's the "stereotype" that gets picked out the most! Yeah for us!

partietraumatic · 15th Oct 2009, 03:26 AM

yeh there are definitely some people who you can tell from a mile away are gay. Its a mixture of the clothes, the walk, the posture, how they talk and their actions when they talk. Some people its just so obvious.

However i wouldn't say i was one of these i don't think. I think you'd only guess i was gay after knowing me a bit longer.

Just Adam · 15th Oct 2009, 03:57 AM

im not sure you can even see peopel properly at a mile away yet alone tell if tehy are gay...

Jeimuzu · 15th Oct 2009, 04:58 AM

People wouldn't know I was gay, from six inches away, if I was getting screwed at the time. It's really annoying. It's not like I'm stereotypically straight or anything, and despite the insanely colourful clothing and all that... people still go "You? I'd never have guessed..." and mean it.

Shevanel · 15th Oct 2009, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Jeimuzu

People wouldn't know I was gay, from six inches away, if I was getting screwed at the time. It's really annoying. It's not like I'm stereotypically straight or anything, and despite the insanely colourful clothing and all that... people still go "You? I'd never have guessed..." and mean it.

Both my parents were surprised to hell. All my friends. It's kinda funny really. But alas, I'm Bi and not gay xD

Daniel · 15th Oct 2009, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Jeimuzu

People wouldn't know I was gay, from six inches away, if I was getting screwed at the time. It's really annoying. It's not like I'm stereotypically straight or anything, and despite the insanely colourful clothing and all that... people still go "You? I'd never have guessed..." and mean it.

Both my parents were surprised to hell. All my friends. It's kinda funny really. But alas, I'm Bi and not gay xD

I came out and my mother asked me if I wanted more potatoes.

LeonaRose · 15th Oct 2009, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Daniel

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Originally Posted by SurferDude420

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Originally Posted by Jeimuzu

People wouldn't know I was gay, from six inches away, if I was getting screwed at the time. It's really annoying. It's not like I'm stereotypically straight or anything, and despite the insanely colourful clothing and all that... people still go "You? I'd never have guessed..." and mean it.

Both my parents were surprised to hell. All my friends. It's kinda funny really. But alas, I'm Bi and not gay xD

I came out and my mother asked me if I wanted more potatoes.

That's actually amazing. LOL

AllSmiles · 15th Oct 2009, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Daniel

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Originally Posted by SurferDude420

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Originally Posted by Jeimuzu

People wouldn't know I was gay, from six inches away, if I was getting screwed at the time. It's really annoying. It's not like I'm stereotypically straight or anything, and despite the insanely colourful clothing and all that... people still go "You? I'd never have guessed..." and mean it.

Both my parents were surprised to hell. All my friends. It's kinda funny really. But alas, I'm Bi and not gay xD

I came out and my mother asked me if I wanted more potatoes.

Gjorde hun det??

I know a couple of other gay guys. I met one of them one day when I was shopping. Suddenly one of my friends was there with one of her friends. I actually noticed something about him, just couldn't figure out what it was. Then I got home and wrote with my friend on MSN and said that her friend looked cute. And then she said, that he was gay. Then I realized, that that was thing, that I had noticed

George · 15th Oct 2009, 09:30 PM

Welcome to the Mile Gay Club.

15th Oct 2009, 09:53 PM

short answer yes.

look for v-necks, clothes that fit just right, accessories, pretty hair and the walk that shows off the mobility of the ass. but my favorite is the hand that lands on your arm or shoulder when you go talk to them.

carrie90 · 16th Oct 2009, 12:41 PM

lol people can't tell I'm gay even when I'm directly in thier face but then again a cheerleader that spends 40 minutes straightening her hair doesn't scream lesbian so I can't blame them

I am friends with some "mile gays" though

maz10 · 20th Oct 2009, 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by paco

the hand that lands on your arm or shoulder when you go talk to them.

LMAO I actually do that all the time lol.

Tim · 20th Oct 2009, 10:11 AM

Everyone I've told weren't shocked, except the people at the Food Bank who know. They all were like "SERIOUSLY?!" XD

I don't like announce it, if someone cares enough to ask, I'll tell them XD

14th Oct 2009, 06:47 PM	#1
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Gay a mile away... Okay so I joined the LGBT group at my university. And in this group there is a huge variety of people. Nicknames are given and what not. But a topic I found interesting was that there are people that can be told are gay "from a mile away." I was labeled as such as well as my tom-boy friend Chris. We jokingly call each other "Mile Gays." Have you ever encountered people you could "tell" were gay from a distance? It is a question of flamboyancy, butch-i-ness, and gaydar. Is it possible to tell people are gay from a mile away? __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

14th Oct 2009, 07:00 PM	#2
Totoro EC's Lurker Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay. Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Canada - Ontario Age: 19 Posts: 487 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Gay a mile away... I guess people probably consider me that- or at least any high school friends I have think I'm gay. Otherwise nobody else seems to say so. There's a mass aura of flamboyancy at my high school, coming from one person. I don't know if he's gay or not but I've heard many say he was... I think this is a matter of fitting stereotypes >_< although some people who fit the stereotypes aren't always what they seem- so it's not always possible to tell...

14th Oct 2009, 07:01 PM	#3
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Gay a mile away... If I decide to "butch up" once in a while with guy jeans, a shirt, lack of make up etc, I nmight be considered a "mile gay". That's cute though, I think I'll start using it. But if I'm dressed femme, or just casual I don't think I'll be considered that, unless I bring out a wallet or my rainbow keychain. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

14th Oct 2009, 07:08 PM	#4
Greggers Sunshine & Optimism ...also Angels. Full Member Gender: Theatre Queen Orientation: Disco Sticks Out Status: Everyone and a few more Location: BC, Canada Age: 21 Posts: 3,528 Join Date: Dec 2008	Re: Gay a mile away... Apparently im a "Mile Gay" I mean, i know i do everything and then some that is stereotypical of a gay person when it comes to my hobbies and such, but i never thought i looked gay. I dress in alot of American Eagle and brands like it so im not wearing a giant pride flag or anything. Apparently i act and talk gay though? Ive been outed at random quite often and thats what its always traced back to. (ok, that and "OMG i want to jump Ryan Reynolds bones right now!") I dont have a lisp, but i talk like a woman im told : - / and i often act like a 15 year old girl so i can see how that would give me away... __________________ "It's a male duck."

14th Oct 2009, 07:11 PM	#5
Revan EC Addict Full Member Gender: M for MEEP! Orientation: Mutant and Proud Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Windsor, Ontario Age: 24 Posts: 6,562 Join Date: Jun 2005	Re: Gay a mile away... Apparently when I was in high school, everyone knew I was gay two years before I knew. :S Go figure

14th Oct 2009, 07:14 PM	#6
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Gay a mile away... You see I was told it was the sling backs that gave me away... __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

14th Oct 2009, 08:39 PM	#7
AtomicCafe Gay by Day, Dyke by Night Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Asexual Lesbian Out Status: Out, Loud, and Proud Location: Tucson, AZ Age: 19 Posts: 208 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Gay a mile away... Haha, that's a brilliant name! I'm going to start using it, too. :P I've never had a person assume I was gay... until today, when a girl I've spoken to maybe once asked me how the Pride Parade was. Granted, I had on two gay pride buttons, a rainbow stamped on my hand, and a gay shirt.... Just on days like these! __________________ That child has several options: staying in the closet, suicide. And then one day, that child might open up the paper and it says, "Homosexual Elected in San Francisco." - Harvey Milk

14th Oct 2009, 09:06 PM	#8
Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Gay a mile away... I don't know about a"mile" away,but ,yeah,I got the LOOK! I ,too,think it's us stereotypical gays that kind of stand out. A lot of people tell me I "look" gay,and that's cool with me! I don't wear the flannel shirts of have my hair real short,but I do love my jeans and tees! The funny thing is,my friend,Ann,looks more gay the I do and she's super straight! She's been asked,on a few occasions,if she's gay. It doesn't bother her,in the least. (which I find cool!) I guess my point (and I do have one!) is that you can't always judge a book by it's cover. But I definitely think it's the "stereotype" that gets picked out the most! Yeah for us! __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

15th Oct 2009, 03:26 AM	#9
partietraumatic A gay heteropolitan? Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Enough for now Location: Oxford and Birmingham, UK Age: 20 Posts: 1,300 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Gay a mile away... yeh there are definitely some people who you can tell from a mile away are gay. Its a mixture of the clothes, the walk, the posture, how they talk and their actions when they talk. Some people its just so obvious. However i wouldn't say i was one of these i don't think. I think you'd only guess i was gay after knowing me a bit longer. __________________ 'Im not your toy and this isn't another girl meets boy'

15th Oct 2009, 03:57 AM	#10
Just Adam Just passing through Full Member Gender: Something Orientation: Dunno Out Status: If they ask i will tell them Location: Wherever Age: 23 Posts: 6,002 Join Date: Mar 2009	Re: Gay a mile away... im not sure you can even see peopel properly at a mile away yet alone tell if tehy are gay... __________________ There Used To Be A Point Of Things.

15th Oct 2009, 04:58 AM	#11
Jeimuzu Wreck Cognition Full Member Gender: Heterogametic Orientation: Rawr. Out Status: 99% out. Location: Middlesbrough Age: 23 Posts: 1,744 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Gay a mile away... People wouldn't know I was gay, from six inches away, if I was getting screwed at the time. It's really annoying. It's not like I'm stereotypically straight or anything, and despite the insanely colourful clothing and all that... people still go "You? I'd never have guessed..." and mean it. __________________

15th Oct 2009, 09:30 PM	#16
George Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 19 Posts: 2,387 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Gay a mile away... Welcome to the Mile Gay Club.

15th Oct 2009, 09:53 PM	#17
paco Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Gay a mile away... short answer yes. look for v-necks, clothes that fit just right, accessories, pretty hair and the walk that shows off the mobility of the ass. but my favorite is the hand that lands on your arm or shoulder when you go talk to them. Last edited by paco; 15th Oct 2009 at 09:56 PM..

16th Oct 2009, 12:41 PM	#18
carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Gay a mile away... lol people can't tell I'm gay even when I'm directly in thier face but then again a cheerleader that spends 40 minutes straightening her hair doesn't scream lesbian so I can't blame them I am friends with some "mile gays" though __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

20th Oct 2009, 10:11 AM	#20
Tim Psycho Glitter Btch Full Member Gender:* Guy, Unless Life Was a Horrible April Fools Joke. Orientation: Gay/Asexual/Confusing to Explain Out Status: Armed and Fabulous! XD Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 7,381 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Gay a mile away... Everyone I've told weren't shocked, except the people at the Food Bank who know. They all were like "SERIOUSLY?!" XD I don't like announce it, if someone cares enough to ask, I'll tell them XD __________________ Rawr! :3 ~The Stalker User Known As Tim~ Rawr! :3 EC's Sailor Star Healer, Oxymoron and All. Star Sensitive Inferno! Sailor Starlight, Stage On! [Vic] 7:49 pm: I keep my pants off in public.

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