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x2x2x2x2y2 · 18th Oct 2009, 09:50 AM

I know this sounds crazy but have u? I have. Though I don't count myself as bi, I do have exceptions. I was only in 7th grade and she was my best friend! Another one of my friends introduced us. We did every thing together! We both had the same interests and it was great! Though I didn't make a move(I don't think she would have gone out with me anyways.) then in 8th grade she got a bf, which I hated so much. Honestly he wasn't even that bad of a guy. Since she had a bf and he was one of the 'populars' she became popular and we slowly drifted apart and by the time we got to high school (9th grade) I was lucky if she said hi to me. To this day I miss her so much! She's the only person I've ever been in love with.

Paragon · 18th Oct 2009, 09:52 AM

i fell in love with a girl and we dated but it ended badly, i mean im attracted to girls just not sexually

Black Cat · 18th Oct 2009, 09:55 AM

Nope. I’ve never been in love period, much less with someone of the opposite sex. I have seen a few girls that I think are attractive, but never felt anything beyond friendship for them.

x2x2x2x2y2 · 18th Oct 2009, 10:03 AM

At the time it was confusing. I remember knowing I was gay, but loving my best girl friend. Also at the time I didn't know there was bi people. So it just add gas to my fire of confusion. Lol

**Lexington** · 18th Oct 2009, 10:05 AM

Nope. I do recall a girl in high school that I liked, and I wondered what it would be like to be in a relationship with her, but it really was more like idle wondering rather than crushing or daydreaming.

Lex

carrie90 · 18th Oct 2009, 10:09 AM

I've only ever been in love once and that wasn't with a guy. I have dated boys before and really liked them but never been in love with one.

xballetxbeautyx · 18th Oct 2009, 11:23 AM

I've only been in love once and it was with a girl. Actually, I had feelings of love also for a different girl but no sexual attraction. But I've never been in love with a guy.

mattypants · 18th Oct 2009, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by x2x2x2x2y2

I know this sounds crazy but have u? I have. Though I don't count myself as bi, I do have exceptions. I was only in 7th grade and she was my best friend! Another one of my friends introduced us. We did every thing together! We both had the same interests and it was great! Though I didn't make a move(I don't think she would have gone out with me anyways.) then in 8th grade she got a bf, which I hated so much. Honestly he wasn't even that bad of a guy. Since she had a bf and he was one of the 'populars' she became popular and we slowly drifted apart and by the time we got to high school (9th grade) I was lucky if she said hi to me. To this day I miss her so much! She's the only person I've ever been in love with.

i dunno if it was "love", but if you subsitute 7th and 9th grade with 9th and graduation, the SAME thing is what happened to me. i definitly still miss her aswell

Gaetan · 18th Oct 2009, 11:42 AM

I love several women as very good friends. Would I ever date them? Yes, and have. Would I ever have a long term, sexual relationship with them? No. They are friends, nothing more.

I have also crushed on several girl during elementary-high school. Looking back, the fantasy to "do" them was never really anything more than fulfilling what society has told me I should think about.

Z3ni · 18th Oct 2009, 11:48 AM

Yes I fell in love wiht a girl today .. she looked like an angel

when she smiled I was like " Woww.."

warrior · 18th Oct 2009, 12:21 PM

Meh, I have not even fallen in (and pray dearly that I never will...). Yeah, I did have occassional crushes, but never 'fell in love' or thought of having a serious relationship.

However, I do believe love is purely a spiritual connection between two human beings, hence for me, love is gender-blind.

Great topic.

grapevine fires · 18th Oct 2009, 12:41 PM

I get crushes on guys sometimes, but I can't deal with the penis (no offense)... I figure it's just hormones.

Usually those guys turn into really close friends whom I love so much in a platonic way...

**Owen** · 18th Oct 2009, 01:45 PM

A similar thing happened to me as happened to x2x2x2x2y2 and mattypants. There was this girl I met sophomore year of high school. We became really good friends and had a lot in common. Eventually she developed feelings for me, despite knowing I was gay, and in the fall of my junior year, we kissed on the beach. I kind of did it for her rather than because I thought it felt right, but afterwards, I found myself enjoying it a bit. Of course, being gay, when it went further than lip on lip, I reeled back, knowing it didn't feel right. It was love, I'd say, but definitely not lust. The way I see it, lust is defined by your sexuality, but love knows no boundaries, gender or otherwise.

redsapphire · 18th Oct 2009, 02:37 PM

lately I'm finding guys to be a lot more fun than girls. I did have a really good guy friend in the lower school, he was clever, he was funny, he was just a great guy. But I never felt anything romantic for him, its just something thats not possible for me I think, I can't have sexual or romantic feelings for a guy.

18th Oct 2009, 05:59 PM

well had a crush on a girl but not for a long time, but I never met her before but she lived in my neighbourhood.

18th Oct 2009, 06:06 PM

Tried with girls but never enjoyed it. More on the lines of self discovery. Na not for me.

Mickey · 18th Oct 2009, 06:39 PM

Very simply put...NOPE!

ok455 · 19th Oct 2009, 07:05 AM

MY senior year of school i had a crush on this lesbian girl we was friends. we always play fight and stuff she turn me on also which was strange. What i like about her she dint had any drama like straight girls did. Shes the only girl that made me feel this way

I get minor crushes on girls but i don't get turn on by them.

I always say when i hit a certain age and I'm still single I'm going to force my self to date a girl

**Ben** · 19th Oct 2009, 07:08 AM

Nope. But then I've never been in love with anyone of either sex. Yet.

malachite · 19th Oct 2009, 07:30 AM

18th Oct 2009, 09:50 AM	#1
x2x2x2x2y2 PARAWHORE!!!!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: ~I like guys~ Out Status: Everyone, pretty much. Location: Wonderland (and California, USA) Age: 18 Posts: 3,971 Join Date: Oct 2009	Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? I know this sounds crazy but have u? I have. Though I don't count myself as bi, I do have exceptions. I was only in 7th grade and she was my best friend! Another one of my friends introduced us. We did every thing together! We both had the same interests and it was great! Though I didn't make a move(I don't think she would have gone out with me anyways.) then in 8th grade she got a bf, which I hated so much. Honestly he wasn't even that bad of a guy. Since she had a bf and he was one of the 'populars' she became popular and we slowly drifted apart and by the time we got to high school (9th grade) I was lucky if she said hi to me. To this day I miss her so much! She's the only person I've ever been in love with. __________________ "THINGS ARE LOOKING UP, OH FINALLY!!" "I believe that there's hope buried beneath it all and...Hiding beneath it all and... GROWING beneath it all!!" -Paramore ...and the lesbians

18th Oct 2009, 09:52 AM	#2
Paragon ECs Dramatic Fanboy! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bi, but more on the gay side. Out Status: Around 8-12 people, but still closeted to most. Location: Ireland Age: 17 Posts: 325 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? i fell in love with a girl and we dated but it ended badly, i mean im attracted to girls just not sexually __________________ Jessica Stam's #1 fan, I'm sorta like her e-stalker, stealing things like usernames, Pictures, Random Information, ETC.

18th Oct 2009, 09:55 AM	#3
Black Cat As Seen On Hoarders... Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: This cat is out of the bag - I mean closet Location: Pennsylvania, with the cows Age: 21 Posts: 2,391 Join Date: Jun 2009	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? Nope. I’ve never been in love period, much less with someone of the opposite sex. I have seen a few girls that I think are attractive, but never felt anything beyond friendship for them. __________________ "Your life is an occasion. Rise to it." - Mr. Magorium

18th Oct 2009, 10:03 AM	#4
x2x2x2x2y2 PARAWHORE!!!!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: ~I like guys~ Out Status: Everyone, pretty much. Location: Wonderland (and California, USA) Age: 18 Posts: 3,971 Join Date: Oct 2009	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? At the time it was confusing. I remember knowing I was gay, but loving my best girl friend. Also at the time I didn't know there was bi people. So it just add gas to my fire of confusion. Lol __________________ "THINGS ARE LOOKING UP, OH FINALLY!!" "I believe that there's hope buried beneath it all and...Hiding beneath it all and... GROWING beneath it all!!" -Paramore ...and the lesbians

18th Oct 2009, 10:05 AM	#5
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,371 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? Nope. I do recall a girl in high school that I liked, and I wondered what it would be like to be in a relationship with her, but it really was more like idle wondering rather than crushing or daydreaming. Lex

18th Oct 2009, 10:09 AM	#6
carrie90 The square root of 4 is rainbows Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: everybody really Location: Originally Montana but currently San Fransisco Age: 21 Posts: 1,327 Join Date: Feb 2009	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? I've only ever been in love once and that wasn't with a guy. I have dated boys before and really liked them but never been in love with one. __________________ I empower my Cheerios to live in fear by creating an enviorment of irrational, random terror -Sue Sylvester

18th Oct 2009, 11:23 AM	#7
xballetxbeautyx Heterodox Homosexual Full Member Gender: (.)(.) Orientation: Kinsey 5? Ish? Out Status: If you don't know, where have you been all my life Location: Midwest USA Age: 17 Posts: 1,719 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? I've only been in love once and it was with a girl. Actually, I had feelings of love also for a different girl but no sexual attraction. But I've never been in love with a guy. __________________ I can't go to Pigfarts! IT'S ON MARS. You need a rocketship! Do you have a rocketship, Potter? Look at this - it's Rocketship Potter! Starkid Potter! Moonshoes Potter! Traversing the galaxy for intergalactic travels to Pigfarts!

18th Oct 2009, 11:42 AM	#9
Gaetan DON'T TOUCH THE HAT! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Immediate Family and Friends Location: Idaho, USA Age: 25 Posts: 1,098 Join Date: Sep 2009	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? I love several women as very good friends. Would I ever date them? Yes, and have. Would I ever have a long term, sexual relationship with them? No. They are friends, nothing more. I have also crushed on several girl during elementary-high school. Looking back, the fantasy to "do" them was never really anything more than fulfilling what society has told me I should think about. __________________ Those who say it cannot be done, shouldn't interrupt the people doing it.

18th Oct 2009, 11:48 AM	#10
Z3ni Ec's ADD Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayish Out Status: My Twin Location: England, Manchester Posts: 3,080 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? Yes I fell in love wiht a girl today .. she looked like an angel when she smiled I was like " Woww.." __________________ Through pain, lies success.

18th Oct 2009, 12:21 PM	#11
warrior Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Posts: 104 Join Date: May 2009	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? Meh, I have not even fallen in (and pray dearly that I never will...). Yeah, I did have occassional crushes, but never 'fell in love' or thought of having a serious relationship. However, I do believe love is purely a spiritual connection between two human beings, hence for me, love is gender-blind. Great topic.

18th Oct 2009, 12:41 PM	#12
grapevine fires EC Addict Regular Member Gender: F*ed… my sex, though, is female. Orientation: love is love, sexuality is fluid Out Status: Pretty much everyone, minus extended family Location: Ontario, Canada Age: 20 Posts: 431 Join Date:** Jun 2008	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? I get crushes on guys sometimes, but I can't deal with the penis (no offense)... I figure it's just hormones. Usually those guys turn into really close friends whom I love so much in a platonic way... __________________ Love Always Wins

18th Oct 2009, 01:45 PM	#13
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,870 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? A similar thing happened to me as happened to x2x2x2x2y2 and mattypants. There was this girl I met sophomore year of high school. We became really good friends and had a lot in common. Eventually she developed feelings for me, despite knowing I was gay, and in the fall of my junior year, we kissed on the beach. I kind of did it for her rather than because I thought it felt right, but afterwards, I found myself enjoying it a bit. Of course, being gay, when it went further than lip on lip, I reeled back, knowing it didn't feel right. It was love, I'd say, but definitely not lust. The way I see it, lust is defined by your sexuality, but love knows no boundaries, gender or otherwise. __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

18th Oct 2009, 02:37 PM	#14
redsapphire EC's resident witch Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Wow Mama Out Status: most except family Location: Bonny Lingland Age: 20 Posts: 877 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? lately I'm finding guys to be a lot more fun than girls. I did have a really good guy friend in the lower school, he was clever, he was funny, he was just a great guy. But I never felt anything romantic for him, its just something thats not possible for me I think, I can't have sexual or romantic feelings for a guy. __________________ *Don't Bend, Don't Break, Baby Don't Back Down...*

18th Oct 2009, 05:59 PM	#15
dude99 Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? well had a crush on a girl but not for a long time, but I never met her before but she lived in my neighbourhood.

18th Oct 2009, 06:06 PM	#16
Jiggles Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? Tried with girls but never enjoyed it. More on the lines of self discovery. Na not for me.

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Mickey Older and bolder! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Massachusetts Age: 50 Posts: 1,775 Join Date: Aug 2008	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? Very simply put...NOPE! __________________ We don't choose to be gay...we're CHOSEN!

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ok455 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Can't tell L!O!L Age: 24 Posts: 437 Join Date: May 2005	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? MY senior year of school i had a crush on this lesbian girl we was friends. we always play fight and stuff she turn me on also which was strange. What i like about her she dint had any drama like straight girls did. Shes the only girl that made me feel this way I get minor crushes on girls but i don't get turn on by them. I always say when i hit a certain age and I'm still single I'm going to force my self to date a girl __________________ http://209.50.252.116/smile.gif Last edited by ok455; 19th Oct 2009 at 07:10 AM..

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Ben Was Invisible. EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Age: 20 Posts: 3,704 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? Nope. But then I've never been in love with anyone of either sex. Yet.

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malachite EC's realist Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Orlando Posts: 6,480 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Gay guys/girls have u ever been in love w/a person of the opposite sex? yup. __________________ It's the 21st century, your bigotry is outdated. Either upgrade or go away.